Is being a short man that much of a difficulty in dating

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Love how the manosphere is all about blaming women, making money, bigger dicks, whatever will distract from the fact their personalities suck and their EQ stalled around age 4.

My guy is short and isn't rich. But no one has ever made me laugh like he does. Or held me like he does. Or cared for me and shared my priorities like he does. Where are the influencers telling young men to read a book, listen to what she likes, touch without groping...?

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think everyone knows that (on average, to some extent), height matters, just as weight matters for women.

But many other factors matter, and generally matter much more, including sense of humor, kindness, responsibility, and being good at listening, none of which can be quantified the way height (or weight or salary) can be.

So people end up focusing on and blaming those quantifiable factors rather than personality.

Weight is a waaaaaay bigger deal with women then height is for men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never dated on the apps. Most guys I dated were tall and I probably would have had a 6’ filter as well.

I ended up marrying a 5’9” man. He is amazing in every way except his height. I don’t notice his height. It’s not like I’m wearing heels at home and we are not out clubbing.

Again 5'9" is not short--it's in the realm of average.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:5’9” man here: anything over about 5’7” is a playable hand, from my observations, but it is striking from my perspective just how much height is a factor for women. It makes a huge difference. I’ve seen so many solid, good-looking, and high quality 5’7” guys struggle, while a lot of 6’1 guys who are otherwise pretty mediocre do way better — taller men are definitely playing on easy mode in comparison. But below 5’7” things get exponentially more grim, 5’6” and 5’7” might as well be different species, and it gets way worse for shorter men.

The men who say they are 5'7" are almost always 5'6" on a warm day.

[Anonymous]

My son is 5'7 1/2 and constantly complains that women don't like him because he is short. I agree there is a prejudice, but I bring up that his friend who is 5'6" has had a ton of attractive girlfriends because he is outgoing and easygoing, and great at making conversation. Short guys can draw a lot of women, they just have to have a better personality than a taller guy would.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think everyone knows that (on average, to some extent), height matters, just as weight matters for women.

But many other factors matter, and generally matter much more, including sense of humor, kindness, responsibility, and being good at listening, none of which can be quantified the way height (or weight or salary) can be.

So people end up focusing on and blaming those quantifiable factors rather than personality.

Weight is a waaaaaay bigger deal with women then height is for men.

+1

If you want to equate height for men with weight for women, you need to be looking at men under 5'5".

[Anonymous]

5'9'' is not short. There are some women who won't date under 6 feet but that's not the norm. 5'7'' or shorter can be more of an issue. It's stupid really.

[Anonymous]

My spouse is 5'7'', I'm a 5'8'' woman and absolutely tower over him in heels, but I don'tmind. I know plenty of guys my height or shorter who have done just fine. I met my spouse in college, we were both broke at the time.

There's nothing more unattractive than a guy who's hostile or defensive about his height. But some tall men will also have something they're weird and defensive about. Going in with that posture is a HUGE red flag for women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've dated two short men, one I had a serious relationship with in my late 20s, and my DH. I'm 5'7" and both of them were 5'6" or a little taller.

Both are super attractive, charming, fun, and very athletic. One is a doctor who went Harvard med, and one is a big fed lawyer (as am I, that's where we met). Neither had any trouble finding attractive women to date/marry. No issues for them.

What is Big Fed? Does it pay more, because I’m guessing that he makes good money is always the answer for short men. Yes you make good money too, but would have discounted this guy if he was a nonprofit lawyer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think everyone knows that (on average, to some extent), height matters, just as weight matters for women.

But many other factors matter, and generally matter much more, including sense of humor, kindness, responsibility, and being good at listening, none of which can be quantified the way height (or weight or salary) can be.

So people end up focusing on and blaming those quantifiable factors rather than personality.

Weight is a waaaaaay bigger deal with women then height is for men.

Isn’t there a GLP-1 for adult men to grow taller?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've dated two short men, one I had a serious relationship with in my late 20s, and my DH. I'm 5'7" and both of them were 5'6" or a little taller.

Both are super attractive, charming, fun, and very athletic. One is a doctor who went Harvard med, and one is a big fed lawyer (as am I, that's where we met). Neither had any trouble finding attractive women to date/marry. No issues for them.

What is Big Fed? Does it pay more, because I’m guessing that he makes good money is always the answer for short men. Yes you make good money too, but would have discounted this guy if he was a nonprofit lawyer.

What? No, I would not have. Would have been just as attracted if he worked for a nonprofit. I make my own money.

Big Fed refers to fed legal jobs that are highly respected, hard to get, and often pay more. For example SEC ... some DOJ components ... that kind of thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think everyone knows that (on average, to some extent), height matters, just as weight matters for women.

But many other factors matter, and generally matter much more, including sense of humor, kindness, responsibility, and being good at listening, none of which can be quantified the way height (or weight or salary) can be.

So people end up focusing on and blaming those quantifiable factors rather than personality.

Weight is a waaaaaay bigger deal with women then height is for men.

Isn’t there a GLP-1 for adult men to grow taller?

Not yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've dated two short men, one I had a serious relationship with in my late 20s, and my DH. I'm 5'7" and both of them were 5'6" or a little taller.

Both are super attractive, charming, fun, and very athletic. One is a doctor who went Harvard med, and one is a big fed lawyer (as am I, that's where we met). Neither had any trouble finding attractive women to date/marry. No issues for them.

What is Big Fed? Does it pay more, because I’m guessing that he makes good money is always the answer for short men. Yes you make good money too, but would have discounted this guy if he was a nonprofit lawyer.

Big Fed means like an agency general counsel or some other important lawyer job. Like Solicitor General of the United States, or a US Attorney.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think so. I see plenty of short men in relationship. . I've noticed that the men constantly complaining about their height being the issue have a boatload of other issues that are likely the cause of their dating troubles.

This ^^.

Yes and they act entitled to the 5' 10" modelesque woman

[Anonymous]

Height is not an issue, no matter how much the red-pillers try to push that narrative. The problem is men who prefer to blame women for discriminating against their height when the problem is usually much more basic-

- either they are trying to date women who are substantially more attractive than them

- or they have other major flaws that they are unwilling to address (personality, financial, social skills, anger, etc).

If you don’t agree with me, go to any public area with lots of foot traffic and just look around you. Height is not the issue.