Boyfriend after divorce

[Anonymous]

Two mid-40s women I know have met and married men 4-5 years younger than them. Men who are attractive, financially comfortable and kind. Both did not have children by choice so no issues with blending families. They are out there but not hanging out at bars or on apps. Met them while working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are the chances? My sister is gorgeous, 47 but hasn’t had any luck. She keeps meeting pen who are either too young (when she goes out) or too old (on the apps). I hope she finds someone soon.

She is at that age where it's hard for women.
She's too old for a man who wants marriage and kids, but too young for a man who wants a woman and not have kids.

She needs to be looking about 10-20 years older or find a man only around 5-15 years older who is done having kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The reality is she is looking for a needle in a haystack.

Younger men are not dealing with the kids, they are only up for a good free (they are not paying for anything) time.

Older men want a nurse who has sex with them.

Men her age want young chicks and sex, no commitment.

She needs to learn to be full filled without a man.

I must have the one unicorn then as this has not been my experience with my younger man who pays for everything (he also earns twice what I do)

Not a unicorn, I found the same thing. Younger guy who pays for almost everything, emotionally intelligent, gorgeous, helpful. Tonight he came over for dinner then cleaned the kitchen while I put the kids to bed - which is far more than my xH ever did!

I’ve dated a few younger men and many are like this. It’s fantastic, I got so tired of men my age, who mostly want traditional gender roles.

Is this a long term relationship then, that he’s around your kids who are young enough to need to be put to bed?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The reality is she is looking for a needle in a haystack.

Younger men are not dealing with the kids, they are only up for a good free (they are not paying for anything) time.

Older men want a nurse who has sex with them.

Men her age want young chicks and sex, no commitment.

She needs to learn to be full filled without a man.

I must have the one unicorn then as this has not been my experience with my younger man who pays for everything (he also earns twice what I do)

Would love to see his photo/height/salary data

My friends describe him as hot. He is 6’2”. He earns $350k base. Has his own home. He is generous, emotionally intelligent, funny, kind, a good lover and a great partner and person. Am glad we met (organically not via apps).

If this is my brother, watch out! Unless he has changed recently (I doubt it) he is not going to marry you. He will tell you what you want to hear, look at houses and rings, but he dates women for one to two years and when they really start pushing for him to settle down, he bails.

This is my ex. He discarded me and his family claiming I was a crazy drunk for another woman. Promised her vacation homes and vacations and a whole life. Merged my kids with hers - then discards that one as a “crazy drunk” and is on to a new one (16 years younger) who has a four year old. He’s now promising her the world while triangulating her against the last ex. It’s a rinse wash repeat cycle which I wouldn’t care about except he insists on trotting out his teens to each new person. They’ve lost all respect for their dad, which is sad.

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Anonymous wrote:The reality is she is looking for a needle in a haystack.

Younger men are not dealing with the kids, they are only up for a good free (they are not paying for anything) time.

Older men want a nurse who has sex with them.

Men her age want young chicks and sex, no commitment.

She needs to learn to be full filled without a man.

I must have the one unicorn then as this has not been my experience with my younger man who pays for everything (he also earns twice what I do)

Not a unicorn, I found the same thing. Younger guy who pays for almost everything, emotionally intelligent, gorgeous, helpful. Tonight he came over for dinner then cleaned the kitchen while I put the kids to bed - which is far more than my xH ever did!

I’ve dated a few younger men and many are like this. It’s fantastic, I got so tired of men my age, who mostly want traditional gender roles.

So you paid for dinner and cooked it...lol.

He helped cook Cooking and dishes are more than most husbands do! On nights I don’t have my kids he does most of the cooking, and cooks a few times a month for me and my kids as well.

SO much better than my xH, who would leave dishes piled up for over a week at a time.

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Anonymous wrote:The reality is she is looking for a needle in a haystack.

Younger men are not dealing with the kids, they are only up for a good free (they are not paying for anything) time.

Older men want a nurse who has sex with them.

Men her age want young chicks and sex, no commitment.

She needs to learn to be full filled without a man.

I must have the one unicorn then as this has not been my experience with my younger man who pays for everything (he also earns twice what I do)

Not a unicorn, I found the same thing. Younger guy who pays for almost everything, emotionally intelligent, gorgeous, helpful. Tonight he came over for dinner then cleaned the kitchen while I put the kids to bed - which is far more than my xH ever did!

I’ve dated a few younger men and many are like this. It’s fantastic, I got so tired of men my age, who mostly want traditional gender roles.

So you paid for dinner and cooked it...lol.

He helped cook Cooking and dishes are more than most husbands do! On nights I don’t have my kids he does most of the cooking, and cooks a few times a month for me and my kids as well.

SO much better than my xH, who would leave dishes piled up for over a week at a time.

So he comes to your place to eat your food and f..k. Amazing

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The reality is she is looking for a needle in a haystack.

Younger men are not dealing with the kids, they are only up for a good free (they are not paying for anything) time.

Older men want a nurse who has sex with them.

Men her age want young chicks and sex, no commitment.

She needs to learn to be full filled without a man.

I must have the one unicorn then as this has not been my experience with my younger man who pays for everything (he also earns twice what I do)

Not a unicorn, I found the same thing. Younger guy who pays for almost everything, emotionally intelligent, gorgeous, helpful. Tonight he came over for dinner then cleaned the kitchen while I put the kids to bed - which is far more than my xH ever did!

I’ve dated a few younger men and many are like this. It’s fantastic, I got so tired of men my age, who mostly want traditional gender roles.

So you paid for dinner and cooked it...lol.

He helped cook Cooking and dishes are more than most husbands do! On nights I don’t have my kids he does most of the cooking, and cooks a few times a month for me and my kids as well.

SO much better than my xH, who would leave dishes piled up for over a week at a time.

So he comes to your place to eat your food and f..k. Amazing

Tonight I went to his place and he fed me Don’t worry, he either pays for dinner or cooks at least 50% of our evenings together. And the f..king part is a lot of fun no matter whose house we are at!

Definitely better than my xH, who couldn’t be bothered to either cook or f..k.

Best way I can explain it….40s/50s/60s men are looking for a mommy. But 20s/30s men are looking for a MOMMY. If ya know what I mean 😈

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The reality is she is looking for a needle in a haystack.

Younger men are not dealing with the kids, they are only up for a good free (they are not paying for anything) time.

Older men want a nurse who has sex with them.

Men her age want young chicks and sex, no commitment.

She needs to learn to be full filled without a man.

This. I just turned 48. I divorced ar 42. I have not been looking for a super serious relationship but if I was, it would be near impossible.
I am attractive. I date much younger men when I date. I know it is temporary. I am not looking for a full-on boyfriend. The only man I dated my age turned out to be married and lying to me about being divorced. I am not interested in older men who want a mommy and a paycheck.

There are no do-overs at this age. She needs to start understanding that and finding fulfillment apart from men.

Geez... It seems like every 40+ women in this forum is attractive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The reality is she is looking for a needle in a haystack.

Younger men are not dealing with the kids, they are only up for a good free (they are not paying for anything) time.

Older men want a nurse who has sex with them.

Men her age want young chicks and sex, no commitment.

She needs to learn to be full filled without a man.

I must have the one unicorn then as this has not been my experience with my younger man who pays for everything (he also earns twice what I do)

Would love to see his photo/height/salary data

My friends describe him as hot. He is 6’2”. He earns $350k base. Has his own home. He is generous, emotionally intelligent, funny, kind, a good lover and a great partner and person. Am glad we met (organically not via apps).

Sorry, but something’s up with him if he’s all that but is dating an older divorcee with kids.