Experience with broken pelvis?

[Anonymous]

Oh, op, I’m so sorry. It sounds similar to the situation with my mil (I posted early in the thread). It was so hard on dh because it seemed so sudden. She had seemed pretty healthy and strong (except for dementia) before her fall. Your mother is lucky to have had you there watching out for her and keeping her company. Sending you peace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 85 yo mom, stage 6 dementia but otherwise pretty healthy, fell in her memory care(left her walker in another room). In tons of pain, currently at the ER, just found out she has fractured her pelvis. What does recovery look like? Is this like the broken hip that leads to the slow decline? Is it with calling for hospice evaluation? She has an advanced directive calling for comfort care only at this point and she is so uncomfortable right now, breaks my heart.

Say what you want to say to her now.

Also, they intentionally kill people in those facilities. It's a well known but little spoken secret that they want to get them in and out fast for the money.

[Anonymous]

PP, you are a ghoul. Show some decency.

OP, I'm very sorry about your mom. I'm glad you were able to work with hospice to honor her wishes about care and quality of life, and I'm glad you were able to sit with her at the end.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry to read about your Mother's passing. You did a wonderful job honoring your Mother's wishes. I wish you and your family well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

OP I am thinking of you and especially your mother. 🌹🌹

Thank you. Hospice has helped with pain and also just been a good source of assistance and advice. Tramadol and low dose morphine is helping the pain but I’m pretty sure she’s on the downward path. I have such mixed feelings, mostly sad for her because she is confused and scared.

DP. I wish her a quick and easy path

[Anonymous]

Which she apparently had…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here: my mom passed away yesterday. Hospice was involved and they tell me she was comfortable throughout (lots of morphine) even though watching her transition through to death was pretty intense. But I was with her for her last breath, and am grateful for it. I guess I will feel relief that her suffering is over, she was terrified of dementia and being besides, though at the moment I just feel grief and loss. It was shockingly fast—just under a month from when she fell.

I am so sorry, OP. But having gone through a similar quick decline with my mom last year st the holidays, it is a blessing she is no longer in pain. A broken pelvis is painful and with dementia they don’t really understand what is going on, which makes the pain harder. Now you have taken her pain and made it yours, but you did the right thing for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here: my mom passed away yesterday. Hospice was involved and they tell me she was comfortable throughout (lots of morphine) even though watching her transition through to death was pretty intense. But I was with her for her last breath, and am grateful for it. I guess I will feel relief that her suffering is over, she was terrified of dementia and being besides, though at the moment I just feel grief and loss. It was shockingly fast—just under a month from when she fell.

What a good daughter you are. Thank you for chronicaling it here.