Sororities midwest versus other parts of US, down to earth?

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Anonymous wrote:I was talking to a sophomore who goes to Ole Miss last weekend and she absolutely loves her sorority. The sorority house is beautiful. They apparently have full time cooks and she eats almost all her meals there. She feels very supported.

Is she going to college to eat or learn? Is she going to office hours, building a relationship with her TAs and professors, is she deepening her knowledge of her major, studying? Why spend all that money on college only to spend more money at a sorority in endless dues to cover full time cooks and focus on doing silly tiktok dances rather than learn?

My daughter is at a different large university and feels the same. Of course, academics are the priority- but eating her meals at the house doesn’t take away from that. They learn to balance time, which is important for everyone. I would be sad of my child was solely focused on her academics and didn’t care about creating relationships, building leadership, etc… Sororities care about grades and reputations. Stop thinking that all sorority girls are vapid. They’re not- they are enjoying life and being successful at school and fun!

I'm happy to hear that academics are still her priority. All kids - whether they join groups like sororities/frats or make friends organically through dorms/clubs/classes - want to create relationships and build leadership. You don't need to pledge a social fraternity or sorority to make friends! And if you do, I would just be cautiioned about all the dues, rules, cruelty and hazing.

DD is at Arizona- a big sorority/fraternity school.

1) No, you don't need a social frat/sorority to make friends, but it sure is a great and quick way to make them.
2) Dues include all food and are less than the school meal plan. It's actually a pretty good deal. For sophmore year, she is living in the house and her dues include activities/food/housing and is at $9,000- so considerably cheaper than housing and a meal plan- actually way cheaper than just housing in Tucson. Sorority is "free."
3) Yes, there are rules. It's about time they learned some after going through MCPS where there were no rules. Glad she is learning discipline before going into the workforce.
4) Cruelty/Hazing- I'm sure there is some at some places, but my daughter never experienced any.

The culture of each sorority is different, but if your DD follows her gut and finds one that is a match for her personality, it can be a great fit. Things you see on TV are often an exaggeration or old school. I am sure those types of sororities are still around- especially in the SEC- but don't assume that they are the majority. I have been nothing but amazed at the positive experiences and relationships that my daughter has being exposed to due to her sorority.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was talking to a sophomore who goes to Ole Miss last weekend and she absolutely loves her sorority. The sorority house is beautiful. They apparently have full time cooks and she eats almost all her meals there. She feels very supported.

Is she going to college to eat or learn? Is she going to office hours, building a relationship with her TAs and professors, is she deepening her knowledge of her major, studying? Why spend all that money on college only to spend more money at a sorority in endless dues to cover full time cooks and focus on doing silly tiktok dances rather than learn?

Were you ugly or socially awkward in college or something?

This is a thread about sororities. That poster was talking about a student who loves her sorority. That doesn’t by definition mean she isn’t also learning, going to office hours or anything else. The poster isn’t responding to the question “do you know anyone who loves Ole Miss?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was talking to a sophomore who goes to Ole Miss last weekend and she absolutely loves her sorority. The sorority house is beautiful. They apparently have full time cooks and she eats almost all her meals there. She feels very supported.

Is she going to college to eat or learn? Is she going to office hours, building a relationship with her TAs and professors, is she deepening her knowledge of her major, studying? Why spend all that money on college only to spend more money at a sorority in endless dues to cover full time cooks and focus on doing silly tiktok dances rather than learn?

Were you ugly or socially awkward in college or something?

This is a thread about sororities. That poster was talking about a student who loves her sorority. That doesn’t by definition mean she isn’t also learning, going to office hours or anything else. The poster isn’t responding to the question “do you know anyone who loves Ole Miss?”

PP here. I'm tall, thin and have always been considered conventionally very attractive. I was popular in school sorry to burst your bubble. I'm also smart and successful and that always drove me more in the ivy league school I attended.

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What does "down to earth" mean? My DD is at a pretty popular sorority at Michigan and the girls aren't all stick-thin or wear makeup or nice clothes every day, they all seem to care about grades and their careers given where they are, but it's a sorority - there's partying, some level of cattiness, etc. That said, she loves living with her friends, the house is gorgeous and safe, she has a fun social life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was talking to a sophomore who goes to Ole Miss last weekend and she absolutely loves her sorority. The sorority house is beautiful. They apparently have full time cooks and she eats almost all her meals there. She feels very supported.

Is she going to college to eat or learn? Is she going to office hours, building a relationship with her TAs and professors, is she deepening her knowledge of her major, studying? Why spend all that money on college only to spend more money at a sorority in endless dues to cover full time cooks and focus on doing silly tiktok dances rather than learn?

Oh please. She’s going to Ole Miss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was talking to a sophomore who goes to Ole Miss last weekend and she absolutely loves her sorority. The sorority house is beautiful. They apparently have full time cooks and she eats almost all her meals there. She feels very supported.

Is she going to college to eat or learn? Is she going to office hours, building a relationship with her TAs and professors, is she deepening her knowledge of her major, studying? Why spend all that money on college only to spend more money at a sorority in endless dues to cover full time cooks and focus on doing silly tiktok dances rather than learn?

Oh please. She’s going to Ole Miss.

Why are you such miserable women? Not everyone is like you. People value different things. Connecting with people is important. Guarantee you will find yourself wishing you put more effort into making friends than reading books.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was talking to a sophomore who goes to Ole Miss last weekend and she absolutely loves her sorority. The sorority house is beautiful. They apparently have full time cooks and she eats almost all her meals there. She feels very supported.

Is she going to college to eat or learn? Is she going to office hours, building a relationship with her TAs and professors, is she deepening her knowledge of her major, studying? Why spend all that money on college only to spend more money at a sorority in endless dues to cover full time cooks and focus on doing silly tiktok dances rather than learn?

Oh please. She’s going to Ole Miss.

Wow you are miserable people. There is nothing wrong with prioritizing people over books. Being able to build relationships is an important life skill, one I am pretty sure you are missing. It sounds to me that these girls are learning to balance a social and academic life. They will be happier and healthier for it.

[Anonymous]

Is she going to college to eat or learn? Is she going to office hours, building a relationship with her TAs and professors, is she deepening her knowledge of her major, studying? Why spend all that money on college only to spend more money at a sorority in endless dues to cover full time cooks and focus on doing silly tiktok dances rather than learn?

My goodness. Just because it's not what you did or isn't what your child is doing doesn't mean it's bad. How hateful.

I mean, it might surprise you that she's doing ALL OF THE THINGS YOU LISTED!! Wouldn't that be a pleasant surprise to you? There are people out there that can do, and do, all of the things and aren't 100% academically focused.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was talking to a sophomore who goes to Ole Miss last weekend and she absolutely loves her sorority. The sorority house is beautiful. They apparently have full time cooks and she eats almost all her meals there. She feels very supported.

Is she going to college to eat or learn? Is she going to office hours, building a relationship with her TAs and professors, is she deepening her knowledge of her major, studying? Why spend all that money on college only to spend more money at a sorority in endless dues to cover full time cooks and focus on doing silly tiktok dances rather than learn?

I’m the PP you’re responding to. The student at Ole Miss feels supported in her studies. Her sorority watches GPAs and there are study groups. Apparently the food thing is a big deal and the university relies on the Greek system to provide food. I think it’s misogynistic to assign so much negativity to these groups of young women.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, they are all silly. You are correct. Just steer her another way, it’s a waste of time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, they are all silly. You are correct. Just steer her another way, it’s a waste of time.

Was your sorority a waste of time? Which one was it?

[Anonymous]

Honestly, they are all silly. You are correct. Just steer her another way, it’s a waste of time.

So, everything that is NOT a sorority is an excellent use of time? Each and every academic club is 100% worth it?