Lip filler on 40+

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two friends who are so happy with how natural their lip fillers are, how you would never know they have fillers and and not their natural lips if meeting them for the first time.

That’s what they say. I nod and smile and agree with them. But I think their lips look obvious and terrible.

Sorry, you guys are deluding yourselves. Even the distance runner here.

This. Of course someone's not going to say anything negative. They'll say you look "rested" or "refreshed" but it looks odd to another person.

If you have dysmorphia you might think it looks better on yourself, but everyone else is thinking they look off.

Botox is one thing, because it's just freezing your default face (although you can definitely do too much, but at least it wears off), but fillers... stay away.

[Anonymous]

Wow! So much anti filler sentiment on this thread. I guess no one has actually seen what good filler can do because you really should not be able to tell that it's there. If you can tell then it's not good filler. So good filler is basically invisible and everyone thinks that all bad filler looks like filler.

For the record, one syringe of filler is 1 ml. A teaspoon is 5 ml, so that's one fifth of a teaspoon which is a tiny amount. That won't distort a face.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow! So much anti filler sentiment on this thread. I guess no one has actually seen what good filler can do because you really should not be able to tell that it's there. If you can tell then it's not good filler. So good filler is basically invisible and everyone thinks that all bad filler looks like filler.

For the record, one syringe of filler is 1 ml. A teaspoon is 5 ml, so that's one fifth of a teaspoon which is a tiny amount. That won't distort a face.

See, the thing is, nobody is going to say to you, "Oh my god, Jane, what did you do to your face?!" They will say nothing unless you ask, and then they will lie. Or they might just lie from the start by telling you that you look great because they are curious about what and why you did this thing to yourself and they want you to talk about it so that they can establish whether you are aware how bad it looks or not.

I truly have never seen lip filler look good. And I know multiple women whose faces are oddly wide at the temples in a way that signals filler there. It doesn't look like naturally high cheekbones: it looks like overstuffed and puffy.

[Anonymous]

I am a Botox fan and think fillers can be done naturally in some parts of the face. Lip fillers always, always look unnatural. This is one area I would never touch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: My derm who does it also does lip filler on some of her patients and it’s undetectable. She makes their lips look like they did in high school.

It's still obvious. Just because they are not big, doesn't mean they are not filled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow! So much anti filler sentiment on this thread. I guess no one has actually seen what good filler can do because you really should not be able to tell that it's there. If you can tell then it's not good filler. So good filler is basically invisible and everyone thinks that all bad filler looks like filler.

For the record, one syringe of filler is 1 ml. A teaspoon is 5 ml, so that's one fifth of a teaspoon which is a tiny amount. That won't distort a face.

I was thinking the same thing. My mom, 78, does lip filler (one syringe) to reduce deep upper lip lines. After 2 weeks it looks natural. I don’t do my lips, and don’t think I ever will because I am a wimp, but my no Botox/no filler self admits it looks damn good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow! So much anti filler sentiment on this thread. I guess no one has actually seen what good filler can do because you really should not be able to tell that it's there. If you can tell then it's not good filler. So good filler is basically invisible and everyone thinks that all bad filler looks like filler.

For the record, one syringe of filler is 1 ml. A teaspoon is 5 ml, so that's one fifth of a teaspoon which is a tiny amount. That won't distort a face.

See, the thing is, nobody is going to say to you, "Oh my god, Jane, what did you do to your face?!" They will say nothing unless you ask, and then they will lie. Or they might just lie from the start by telling you that you look great because they are curious about what and why you did this thing to yourself and they want you to talk about it so that they can establish whether you are aware how bad it looks or not.

I truly have never seen lip filler look good. And I know multiple women whose faces are oddly wide at the temples in a way that signals filler there. It doesn't look like naturally high cheekbones: it looks like overstuffed and puffy.

Doesn’t it stand to reason, then, that when it’s well done, you can’t tell?

I am not pro-filler, especially in the cheekbone area, but this line of argument seems flawed.

[Anonymous]

Doesn’t it stand to reason, then, that when it’s well done, you can’t tell?

It's like blonde hair. Sure it's nicely done, but hardly anyone believes it's someone's real hair color.
Unless it's someone really striking, you can always tell when a woman's had high cheekbones and full lips her whole life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Doesn’t it stand to reason, then, that when it’s well done, you can’t tell?

It's like blonde hair. Sure it's nicely done, but hardly anyone believes it's someone's real hair color.
Unless it's someone really striking, you can always tell when a woman's had high cheekbones and full lips her whole life.

I have both and get asked “what I do” occasionally. The implication is that I am using fillers.

I also think, along the lines of your post above, something can be fake (blonde highlights/filler) and still look good. I wonder how many poster on here decrying even well done filler have blonde highlights.

[Anonymous]

I feel like this point should be stunningly obvious to people but it seems like it’s not.

YOU DO NOT RECOGNIZE GOOD FILLER. Yes! Filler can be done well. And when it is you don’t know you’re seeing it. I have filler in my temples and under my eyes. Those are areas that get hollow with age. The last time I did it everyone from my dentist to my neighbor asked if I’d come back from vacation, was using new skincare etc. I just looked less tired.

Lip filler is tricky but a good doctor or nurse injector will maintain the ratio of your upper and lower lips. My lower lip- and most women’s- is fuller than my upper lip. I don’t get a bunch of filler to my upper lip only, that looks stupid. I maintain a slightly fuller lower lip

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like this point should be stunningly obvious to people but it seems like it’s not.

YOU DO NOT RECOGNIZE GOOD FILLER. Yes! Filler can be done well. And when it is you don’t know you’re seeing it. I have filler in my temples and under my eyes. Those are areas that get hollow with age. The last time I did it everyone from my dentist to my neighbor asked if I’d come back from vacation, was using new skincare etc. I just looked less tired.

Lip filler is tricky but a good doctor or nurse injector will maintain the ratio of your upper and lower lips. My lower lip- and most women’s- is fuller than my upper lip. I don’t get a bunch of filler to my upper lip only, that looks stupid. I maintain a slightly fuller lower lip

But if your filler is so good, why are so many people recognizing it, by your own account? I feel like this should be stunningly obvious to people who use filler but it seems like it's not.

When people are seeing the change, asking about vacation/new skincare- this is the polite version of them checking to see how self-aware you are about how different you look. They are assuming because you changed your face so much, you must want compliments, so they are being kind and giving you what it seems like you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like this point should be stunningly obvious to people but it seems like it’s not.

YOU DO NOT RECOGNIZE GOOD FILLER. Yes! Filler can be done well. And when it is you don’t know you’re seeing it. I have filler in my temples and under my eyes. Those are areas that get hollow with age. The last time I did it everyone from my dentist to my neighbor asked if I’d come back from vacation, was using new skincare etc. I just looked less tired.

Lip filler is tricky but a good doctor or nurse injector will maintain the ratio of your upper and lower lips. My lower lip- and most women’s- is fuller than my upper lip. I don’t get a bunch of filler to my upper lip only, that looks stupid. I maintain a slightly fuller lower lip

But if your filler is so good, why are so many people recognizing it, by your own account? I feel like this should be stunningly obvious to people who use filler but it seems like it's not.

When people are seeing the change, asking about vacation/new skincare- this is the polite version of them checking to see how self-aware you are about how different you look. They are assuming because you changed your face so much, you must want compliments, so they are being kind and giving you what it seems like you want.

Tell me you’re bitter without telling me you’re bitter …
NP

[Anonymous]

Hideous. Don't do it unless you are maga.

[Anonymous]

My injector actually refuses to do filler on me because she doesn’t think it will look good with my bone structure. Botox, yes, but not filler. A good injector who doesn’t just want to grab cash will tell you it looks terrible on some people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's no such thing as "natural looking" lip filler. Just because you don't have fish pout, doesn't mean it looks natural.

It always ends up looking mismatched with the rest of your face.

There actually is. Just like if you go to a good enough of a salon, you can have natural looking blonde highlights. There are plenty of women with horrendous highlights but there are also good looking women who look like natural blondes.