Do stem women stay single for longer than those who are in the humanities?

[Anonymous]

What is with all the weird misogynistic crap being posted ? This stuff used to get deleted

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve noticed my friends who are MD’s, scientists, majored in stem are single or have to compromise a lot more than women who studied humanities.

Thoughts?

And no I’m not comparing some MIT alum to sec marketing woman…

…I mean from relatively same school tier…

I noticed this when I went back to my 15th year college reunion this summer.

There are some factors that make it not exactly a like for like comparison (my stem friends are more likely to be from middle class and non-white/ethnic white backgrounds)

Have you noticed this as well?

First of all, it’s not “stem.”

The correct term is STEAM; it has been so for over a decade.

Do better.

Actually S—STEAM is the new norm.

[Anonymous]

I have a STEM PhD and married my college sweetheart. We met in college but got married during grad school.

My experience has actually been that women in lower paid professions have more trouble in the DMV dating scene. I'm friends with a few teachers who make $50-75k and they all struggled, as many men want a partner with more income given the HCOL in this area.

[Anonymous]

PhD in humanities, got married at 42. I think it's more the amount of education and time spent building a career. It made a long-term relationship difficult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve noticed my friends who are MD’s, scientists, majored in stem are single or have to compromise a lot more than women who studied humanities.

Thoughts?

And no I’m not comparing some MIT alum to sec marketing woman…

…I mean from relatively same school tier…

I noticed this when I went back to my 15th year college reunion this summer.

There are some factors that make it not exactly a like for like comparison (my stem friends are more likely to be from middle class and non-white/ethnic white backgrounds)

Have you noticed this as well?

First of all, it’s not “stem.”

The correct term is STEAM; it has been so for over a decade.

Do better.

Actually S—STEAM is the new norm.

No it's actually S-TEAM-LGBTQ

[Anonymous]

I think regardless of field, men and women are marrying much later and having kids much later. 40 for first marriage and kids is the norm today. I wonder if people will soon start having kids and getting married at 45.

Unfortunately the cost of living is so high that people have no other choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think regardless of field, men and women are marrying much later and having kids much later. 40 for first marriage and kids is the norm today. I wonder if people will soon start having kids and getting married at 45.

Unfortunately the cost of living is so high that people have no other choice.

I see the opposite. I’m 47 and mother of teenagers. I have friends in their fifties with married children who got married in their mid twenties.

[Anonymous]

The ones who get married young are usually rich and pretty. High quality women get taken early.

[Anonymous]

STEM women are in a target-rich environment. No problem finding mates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a STEM PhD and married my college sweetheart. We met in college but got married during grad school.

My experience has actually been that women in lower paid professions have more trouble in the DMV dating scene. I'm friends with a few teachers who make $50-75k and they all struggled, as many men want a partner with more income given the HCOL in this area.

Disagree. Many men want a woman who won’t put her career first and will be willing to stay home.

Humanities degrees are more likely to fit that mold.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a STEM PhD and married my college sweetheart. We met in college but got married during grad school.

My experience has actually been that women in lower paid professions have more trouble in the DMV dating scene. I'm friends with a few teachers who make $50-75k and they all struggled, as many men want a partner with more income given the HCOL in this area.

Disagree. Many men want a woman who won’t put her career first and will be willing to stay home.

Humanities degrees are more likely to fit that mold.

Perhaps in lower cost of living areas, but it's really hard to afford a house on one income in the DMV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I have not observed this at all. If anything, if you are remotely attractive, the woman would be surrounded by suitors in male dominated industries.

I worked in finance and surrounded by men constantly. Women who work in female dominated fields may meet less men.

This is accurate. Even within STEM, there is a difference between something like Biology vs a Physics-related science. I was a man in the latter and a substantial percentage of the women ended up marrying someone they met in college, in our field.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The ones who get married young are usually rich and pretty. High quality women get taken early.

I notice this too. Sometimes these women are STEM. It's more tied to social class and looks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All my doctor and scientist friends got married early because they knew they'd be in school forever so they'd better get it done. Most of my humanities friends never married. I'm a married humanities person and my wedding was relatively late.

+1 though I mostly have doctor friends. Both genders usually married by 30.
Met spouses in school or residency, a lot of double-MD couples.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a STEM PhD and married my college sweetheart. We met in college but got married during grad school.

My experience has actually been that women in lower paid professions have more trouble in the DMV dating scene. I'm friends with a few teachers who make $50-75k and they all struggled, as many men want a partner with more income given the HCOL in this area.

I think the bigger problem teachers have is that they mostly meet other women at school and at work due to their profession. So it's the opposite pool from STEM.