Well, I mean, we've had a tougher real estate market to contend with. |
This is happening but not in one specific neighborhood. I go to these all the time. Current version is more salon style, less sit-down dinner. Stuff like 20 people, drinks and heavy appetizers, and someone does a talk with Q&A in a living room. Sit down dinners tend to be at homes with staff, including embassy officials. |
Juleanna Glover is 15/20 years ago. She was never really part of that set but tried to ingratiate herself and make herself something. The real set doesn’t seek attention or self-promote. We lived in Kalorama until recently, and there’s a very active social life with really interesting dinner parties, discussions, dinner celebrating book releases, etc. There are also lots of interesting events tying into various diplomats who live in the neighborhood. If you’re looking more for the self-promoting, instagram set, there’s a lot more of that in Wesley Heights, Kent and Foxhall. |
Dinners parties for this gen-Xer died in the 1990s. Work life was so much nicer than...company softball games, company Christmas parties, company summer BBQs where you had relay races, like potato sack...sigh. I just retired and feel sorry for my kids who will never know this. |
My boomer mother still does this but she hires a caterer. Definitely the way to go. |
I hope to god this person isn’t important or interesting because that would be so depressing. |
This is my exact experience also. My parents were great hosts. They had fun parties with jazz music and martinis, summer barbecues. We always had people at our dinner table. As kids we went to a ton of grown-up parties. They were routine! I used to have dinner parties when my kids were small, but I agree that people don’t like them. People don’t want to be in other homes. Restaurants are more neutral and take less social skills. |
So this. People are such inconsiderate guests now. But I have to say the restaurant prices might be steering people back to homes again. But maybe more drinks only. Accommodating everyone’s dietary wishes has become difficult for a sit down dinner. |
+1 The response to covid killed this. We had lots of big parties and smaller dinner parties until virtue signaling by isolating became an art form. DC has always been a few steps below WRT social skills and now this awkward populace is more than happy to lean into declining social skills. |
This and the post about "dinner at the boss's house" make me sadly nostalgic. Boomer here and bosses were Boomer or Silent when we came to DC mid 80s. Sherry parties at Alice Rivlin's and such. Holiday parties on and offsite. Picnics. Nowadays (to be old fashioned) there are threads bitterly complaining about having to go to company things like family-included BBQs "on your own time." What a bunch of ungrateful whiners who just don't get it. |
Do people really not want to be in other people’s homes for a party? Why? |
Don’t want to ID them, but a couple of female journalists host regular “newsmaker” interviews. Very like Sally Q but without the pretension! |
OP isn’t interested in regular families and their ordinary dinner parties. Also apparently not interested in the wealthy crowd dinner parties that are likely still taking place in the humongous luxury homes scattered all over DMV with huge private yards and pools. The latter crowd outsources catering and cleaning and invites a lot of people, because it’s not a hardship for them to host. But OP is looking for the influential intelligentsia gatherings in urban parts close to the pulse of political decisions. |
My take on this as part of a DC millennial couple with a very small child and “local” non-MAGA-work is that professionals are raising small kids later in life and have fewer resources than past generations. We work all the time and unfortunately are not able to put in the time and resource intensive work of building these neighborhoods and social networks. Women at home played a huge and likely undervalued role in creating these social occasions and now we are all at work like men. I think it’s good. Women should be out in the world and working. We are needed there. But there’s no one doing the free but actually costly work of fluffing a dinner party and maintaining social networks. We are late thirties/early forties with babies and 80 work weeks and $30k early Childhood tuition bills. |
If a couple (or 2 or 3) have to spend $80 each for a babysitter to come to my house for dinner, I feel like it has to be ambitious. And then it’s too much. But with little kids dinner parties make no sense. |