Is obsession with genitals/dirty jokes normal for 10-year-old girls?
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Anonymous
At my highly rated private school, girls were talking in detail about blow jobs and boys fondling their breasts at age 12... I think those who are shocked about their behavior don't realize what their kids talk about behind their backs. |
Anonymous
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These posters are all nuts (see what I did there).
Of course it’s normal for 5th graders of both genders to make “ball” jokes. It would be weird if they didn’t. They are approaching puberty, testing boundaries verbally, and learning about their bodies (health class, peers, parents, internet, etc). When my 5th grader launches into this talk, I don’t freak out (hell, sometimes he’s funny) but ask if he knows what it means. If he doesn’t, I explain it in an age appropriate way. I also talk a lot about situational awareness. A well-timed “that’s what she said” is a winning joke—but not at church, at school, or around adults you don’t know. I would expect girls to grow out of potty humor in middle school and boys to grow out of it by age 69. |
Anonymous
| No. I've never heard my 10 year old DD or her large friend group talk like that. |
Anonymous
That’s because they were involved in all that. At least by 8th grade. |
Anonymous
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This is not normal language for my 10-yr old and her friends.
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Anonymous
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Not normal for ten-year-old girls, in my experience. It might be normal among pre-teen boys in the context of all-male sports and camps (based on my experience working with that age group in recreation contexts), but I have never heard it from girls and have never heard my eleven-year-old boy and/or his friends speak that way in front of girls or adults, even when they think I'm not paying attention.
That said, what's "normal" in this regard will vary based on socioeconomic and cultural factors. If one of the daughter's friends is hearing crude jokes about body parts from adults in her life, from older brothers, or on social media, she may not realize that this kind of talk is trashy, unsophisticated, and hostile to women in that it tends to objectify bodies and promote an over-sexualized environment. This should be explained to girls and boys alike, with the core message being that if they choose to talk that way, they should do so only in locker rooms, and only if they want to sound juvenile. |
Anonymous
| Joking about someone named "Ava Jagina" is perfectly normal...yes, even for girls. You used the word "obsession", which of course is less so. |
Anonymous
Oh, be a good little feminist! |
Anonymous
Yup. More common these days than ever due to social media and internet. Was hard to find books with dirty limericks in the olden days. |