If an ex died and you were at the funeral, did you cry?

[Anonymous]

It's hard to say. I haven't cried at some funerals, but have gotten hysterical about the dog's death and during some movies (Lion, Dead Poets' Society).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh gosh I’d never go as it would be wildly inappropriate to dance a jig on his coffin- and that’s what the demise would require of me. Mine is abusive and awful and I wouldn’t even pretend to honor him. I

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did not cry at the funeral. However, it was very traumatic because he died by suicide. I will never forget seeing so many of his family members sobbing.

I'm sorry. If I may ask:
Did he have mental illness and fell apart without your support?
or did his misdeeds catch up with him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neighbors ex husband went to her funeral together with his new wife, also AP before he married her, and the new kid he had with affair partner. Of course to support the kids he had with the neighbor. In their 70s

I don’t think anyone cried.

So tacky to bring the AP, unless he needed a nursemaid.

That was not clear. Sorry

He left the neighbor because he had an AP, which became his wife, then he had an additional kid with wife 2 (former AP).

He went to the funeral of wife 1 together with wife 2 (former AP).

Gross- his children or some other relatives should have forbade this. Tacky, disrespectful and selfish

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would cry. He's a great person.

[Anonymous]

I don't really cry ever. And I would not go to an ex's funeral, ever. Once I'm done with them, I'm DONE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neighbors ex husband went to her funeral together with his new wife, also AP before he married her, and the new kid he had with affair partner. Of course to support the kids he had with the neighbor. In their 70s

I don’t think anyone cried.

So tacky to bring the AP, unless he needed a nursemaid.

That was not clear. Sorry

He left the neighbor because he had an AP, which became his wife, then he had an additional kid with wife 2 (former AP).

He went to the funeral of wife 1 together with wife 2 (former AP).

What was the point? One final FU to the betrayed wife?

[Anonymous]

I was married to my ex for 24 years and we're still close. I would cry so I don't think I would go unless it was to support my grown children. I know for a fact though that he does not want a funeral or celebration of life.

[Anonymous]

My father was terrifically abusive and abandoned us (fortunately).

He was well off, but deeply resented the success my brother and I experienced (without him).

We did not have any relationship with him over the decades and indeed the last time I briefly called him he related again that I was a fat dumb and lazy loser. Really his dominant narrative his entire life.

There was a celebration of life at a fancy club and not a single current or past family member showed, save for his wife. I only learned of his death a few days prior. I highly doubt anyone shed a tear.

My brilliant twin who positively impacted so many lives died last year. His ex wife from 30 years ago showed, and she like everyone else was quite upset. No one judged her.

[Anonymous]

I’d probably go and might cry if it was an untimely death. My ex is truly terrible in some ways but I don’t actually hate him. If he had a new wife and I thought it would be awkward I’d probably be very discreet or not go.