Coaches following and DMing on social media?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Safe Sport, anyone?

mentioned earlier in this thread and this behavior is a violation of it

[Anonymous]

I have coached for 20 years in FCPS and coaches should absolutely NOT be following athletes on social media. If they create a sport specific IG to help with recruiting, that is a bit different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it weird that one of our HS coaches is following most of the team on social media and makes comments like "loving the bikini shots"

I have told my daughter to block him. it is totally inappropriate.

Have screenshots and contact your DSA.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So they know their coach is following them and they are posting bikini shots?

Quit blaming the victim.

Cosch sounds pervy, predatory and definitely inappropriate.

I would report this if it were my child.

I’m a high school teacher and I agree. It should be reported. Seen multiple male coworkers go down for this shit. It infuriates me how they have such easy access to these girls.

Newflash: it's not just male coaches doing it to girls. There was an issue several years ago with a coach inappropriately texting the boys he was coaching.

I didn’t say it was only men or that men only do this to girls but in THIS situation it is a man inappropriately DMing girls, so I referenced my other male coworkers who have done similar things and been placed on leave and investigated and eventually fired.

[Anonymous]

If the coach is FCPS staff, they are specifically prohibited from communicating with students on social media using private accounts. Every communication with students must be on an FCPS system that can be monitored and overseen by FCPS (such as email or Schoology.)

[Anonymous]

No. Our coach created a Snapchat page for all the players on the team. All announcements and comms are there. They can also message him directly with personal stuff, something they may not always share with the team.

[Anonymous]

There are lots of fcps high school coaches following their players on social media and even sharing posts that their players make about the team/sport.

I’m thinking of a post I saw where a kid committed to play the sport at Virginia Tech and posted about it. Their fcps high school coach commented publicly on the post something like “congratulations. It’s great to see all your hard work and dedication pay off”. That is so wildly different from the PP who saw a coach commenting that they like a bikini picture.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find it weird that one of our HS coaches is following most of the team on social media and makes comments like "loving the bikini shots"

I have told my daughter to block him. it is totally inappropriate.

Have screenshots and contact your DSA.

Our HS athletic director is the biggest jerk and I guarantee he would do nothing about the male coaches. It is a classic boys club at our HS. I have had my daughter block the inappropriate coach on social media. He is a teacher too and clearly didn’t get the memo about appropriate interactions on social media

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it weird that one of our HS coaches is following most of the team on social media and makes comments like "loving the bikini shots"

I have told my daughter to block him. it is totally inappropriate.

Have screenshots and contact your DSA.

Our HS athletic director is the biggest jerk and I guarantee he would do nothing about the male coaches. It is a classic boys club at our HS. I have had my daughter block the inappropriate coach on social media. He is a teacher too and clearly didn’t get the memo about appropriate interactions on social media

Then contact the Principal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it weird that one of our HS coaches is following most of the team on social media and makes comments like "loving the bikini shots"

I have told my daughter to block him. it is totally inappropriate.

Have screenshots and contact your DSA.

Our HS athletic director is the biggest jerk and I guarantee he would do nothing about the male coaches. It is a classic boys club at our HS. I have had my daughter block the inappropriate coach on social media. He is a teacher too and clearly didn’t get the memo about appropriate interactions on social media

I’m sorry but this is such a cop out. You’re the parent. Advocate for your daughter. Report to the athletic director and the principal at the same time. If nothing is done, then escalate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it weird that one of our HS coaches is following most of the team on social media and makes comments like "loving the bikini shots"

I have told my daughter to block him. it is totally inappropriate.

Have screenshots and contact your DSA.

Our HS athletic director is the biggest jerk and I guarantee he would do nothing about the male coaches. It is a classic boys club at our HS. I have had my daughter block the inappropriate coach on social media. He is a teacher too and clearly didn’t get the memo about appropriate interactions on social media

I’m sorry but this is such a cop out. You’re the parent. Advocate for your daughter. Report to the athletic director and the principal at the same time. If nothing is done, then escalate.

And keep escalating. If it was me, it would be AD and principal, then region principal, then a warning to whoever I could find at Gatehouse that next up would be every news media outlet I could find if something doesn't happen. Especially if any of the comments was to my own kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it weird that one of our HS coaches is following most of the team on social media and makes comments like "loving the bikini shots"

I have told my daughter to block him. it is totally inappropriate.

Have screenshots and contact your DSA.

Our HS athletic director is the biggest jerk and I guarantee he would do nothing about the male coaches. It is a classic boys club at our HS. I have had my daughter block the inappropriate coach on social media. He is a teacher too and clearly didn’t get the memo about appropriate interactions on social media

Definitely a cop out.

We have had multiple teachers/coaches in our pyramid fired for this type of stuff during the years I have had kids in FCPS.

Some were coaches in various sports including cheerleading. A band teacher. Foreign language teacher. All males. AN entire language program got closed when that teacher got canned. It was an obscure language and difficult to find a replacement. My kid had to switch foreign languages mid high school, going into college applications with 2 years of one language and one year 3 months of another. It was unfortunate, but I was happy to see that the school did not mess around with this kind of stuff.

One female teacher was recently fired at our middle school for messaging young boys on social media.

Go up to the principal. If that doesn't work, escalate.

[Anonymous]

At my child's high school, I know several coaches/teachers that are involved in the students lives way too much. Just recently, I heard that a coach had told their player that they would talk to her/him about asking her/him to prom after hearing player talking with another player about not being asked to prom by someone but would say yes if they did ask.

I would think the coach should not be involved at all in this type of situation.

Maybe the area high schools should have a training on teacher/coach/student relationships.

[Anonymous]

A coach at our school suddenly left fcps mid season with no explanation (male coaching girls). I had assumed that he just decided on a career change but reading this I'm wondering if it was due to inappropriate contact and the school covered it up and allowed him to quietly leave.

[Anonymous]

It’s against the rules for school employees to be on any social media with students. Our school staff has been told this very clearly multiple times. We aren’t even allowed to be on Facebook with our own kids’ friends. Report it, and counsel your kids to keep posts private.