Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My ex used to do this all the time with my son’s after school inter-mural games. I had a rigid schedule and commute that prevented me from getting there, but my ex had a more flexible schedule, so he would go and offer to take my son for ice cream after, leaving me to be the bad guy who misses the game but arrives in time to say “no ice cream, we need to get home for homework.”
Just another AH move from an all around AH.
Without the ice cream would you have objected?
Of course not - that’s the point of the manipulation. If I object, it’s “sorry, buddy, your mom doesn’t want to let me see you play even though she can’t be there.”
DS is older now and we’ve talked about it and he certainly sees it in a different light (consistent with his father’s other manipulative behaviors). But at the time, it was rough.
If Dad is getting limited time and only every other weekend and maybe a weeknight, as a parent, you'd you want to get as much time in as possible with your kids. Instead of looking at it as manipulative, work outa better schedule so Dad can have more or equal time with his child.
Why the hell would you object? Your only priority should be that your child feels supported but here you are worried about the most trivial shit. I see you also manipulated your child into believing that your ex was somehow bad for wanting to be there. GEEZ
I'm a woman BTW and as much as I don't like my ex, he is always welcome to support our son.