18+ still living at home, do you vacation with your spouse?

[Anonymous]

Very weird that you are worried about leaving a literal adult alone in the house, unless she has severe mental or physical issues.

[Anonymous]

The fact that you are concerned makes me think you are making a huge mistake by not having her live at the dorm. This is such a stunted mentality. Her boyfriend will spend the night of course; she is an adult despite you not “letting” her be.

[Anonymous]

Yep. College sophomore and college graduating in June. DH and I went to Chicago last summer for 4 days, and are heading to Europe for 2 1/2 weeks this summer. Summer/ post graduation plans are still in flux, but hoping at least one kid is home to housesit and take care of the dog.

I did a 3 week girls trip to Europe with one kid and her favorite aunt, my sister in law (although we are as close as full sisters) after HS gradation in 2022 as her graduation gift. And we have started very preliminary planning to do another long stint after she graduates from college in summer 2026.

But this summer is a 25th anniversary trip. No kids invited (mostly— 1 kid is in in Europe this summer for study abroad, and we looked a meeting her for a few days in one city after her program was complete, but the timing doesn’t work).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact that you are concerned makes me think you are making a huge mistake by not having her live at the dorm. This is such a stunted mentality. Her boyfriend will spend the night of course; she is an adult despite you not “letting” her be.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hell I did it when they were 15-16. What's your concern?

So did we. Not for 10 days at that age. 18? Yes.

[Anonymous]

The BF will be staying there the entire time so she will be fine. That would bother me but she'd do the same living on her own and at that age it's usually the case. Just go and try not to think about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hell I did it when they were 15-16. What's your concern?

Really? Not us. Ours is 18, great kid with a serious girlfriend, but that's how we roll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would take her. How many more times can you go on a family trip?[/quot

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:College freshman female/18 almost 19. She’s never given us trouble, always followed our rules (for the most part) and we trust her. She lives with us and attends college and has a very part-time job. We would like to go away for a little over a week, on a cruise. She does have a boyfriend and he’s a nice guy. I don’t think she would break rules and have him overnight, but I guess if that’s the worst thing?

Do you leave your kids alone in your house at this age?

We have similar profile, but boy. We don't.

[Anonymous]

Being a young Grandparent is a perk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hell I did it when they were 15-16. What's your concern?

Really? Not us. Ours is 18, great kid with a serious girlfriend, but that's how we roll.

Crazy different a boy vs a girl, you son can knock up a girl and ruin her life and just move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, tell us *exactly* what you are afraid of

Op wrote it very clearly in her post, that the boyfriend of her 18 year old college attending daughter would sleep over.

[Anonymous]

Put a chastity belt on her and take the key with you.