Do you ever look at photos of yourself and think…

[Anonymous]

Your family will want to have you as part of their pictures. Also, when I see photos from 10 years ago, I always think it’s not so bad.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Trying to come to terms with the idea that I may actually just be ugly now, and be happy regardless.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Ugh so glad to hear others have this issue. But I’m sorry you also deal with it. I just do not look right in photos. It drives me crazy.

On the other hand I always think about the people I know who have it the other way-for some reason always look better in photos than they do in person. And I feel like that’s probably worse somehow?

OP - same with me, and my husband, and even our elementary aged daughter- she’s not model gorgeous or anything, but is pretty enough that random people make comments - yet the majority of her photos - even the ones she’s not making a goofy face in? Eh.

And I know people who are the opposite, and it’s not just filters/angles. I took a picture of another couple we had just met casually and later both my husband and I commented (to each other) that they were unusually photogenic - it’s been over a decade and that’s still the way we refer to them (only see them on FB).

[Anonymous]

Yes, it’s possible you aren’t photogenic. I know the opposite. A woman who is decently attractive but nothing special. She pictographs extremely well and looks like a 10. She’s maybe a 4 appearance wise.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who takes terrible pictures. In real life she is a pretty petite blonde with a doll shaped face but in pictures her expression is bad or her eyes are mismatched or her skin is weirdly shiny or her hair is stringy. I am really surprised every time this happens. I think pictures don’t capture people very realistically.

When I look in the mirror though I always double check with a second mirror to see my unflipped reflection (how people see me). It sometimes causes me to change something about my hair or make up. That’s one thing to try.

[Anonymous]

Yes, and the version of me in my phone's front facing camera is even worse!

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I good photo takes a huge amount of effort. I am a very nice looking person (Maybe a 6-7.5 on a scale of 10) who looks like a 4 in pictures. I had professional headshots done with Kristi Sherk and I look like an 8. But the lighting, the pose, the makeup, all make a HUGE difference in photos.

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Anonymous wrote:Am I really that ugly in person? In general I hate all pictures of myself. But honestly, I feel like I look like a completely normal person in general but somehow in every picture I look so so bad. It’s unbelievable.

Please tell me I’m not the only one.

I hear you. Same for me. I don't know if I'm highly critical, not photogenic or just aging horribly.

[Anonymous]

I almost cried when I saw my new passport photo. It truly shocked me. That is not what I see when I look in the mirror.

[Anonymous]

You aren't the only one. Some people just look terrible in pictures. I look better in pictures than I do in real life. Some people photograph well, some don't.

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Op here. I guess I should be happy I met my husband in person. Because online dating would be hell for me. It’s so weird that I can look so different in pictures than I do in real life. And to the pp about the passport. I’m ashamed of it but when I know I have to have a picture taken (for work, license, passport etc…) I have paid to have my hair and makeup done because the thought of having a terrible semi-permanent picture of me scares the heck out of me. At least if I put in some effort I feel like there is a chance it will come out looking slightly ok. That being said, I’m still never happy even when I put in that effort and money.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, and the version of me in my phone's front facing camera is even worse!

The very worst. Truly awful. Pls let there be a filter in the near future.

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Anonymous wrote:Me too. So fat. So ugly.

Same. I’m working on the fat, but I will never be attractive. I avoid photos like the plague.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Ugh so glad to hear others have this issue. But I’m sorry you also deal with it. I just do not look right in photos. It drives me crazy.

On the other hand I always think about the people I know who have it the other way-for some reason always look better in photos than they do in person. And I feel like that’s probably worse somehow?

I'm photogenic - and usually this is sort of a non issue, except for the time when 2 of my in-laws said to my face, you are "SO photogenic, no really, just SO photogenic" and then literally laughed until tears run down their faces. That experience was pretty unpleasant. Probably for all of us, just having people who love us & support us & don't fixate too heavily on our flesh suits is the ticket to happiness. Sorry about the photos though - I don't always like my pics either and a bad one can really shock you!

[Anonymous]

Yes, but I just accept that I am generally in photogenic. I’ve always gotten compliments IRL and I look good in the mirror so…