Middle age and having a hard time keeping up with fashion

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I wear what is flattering on me, if it happens to be on trend great.

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I’m only 36, but the styles and silhouettes that have dominated the last 15 years or so have definitely shifted. Tight/fitted clothing is out, and oversized is in. This is harder imo because the proportions and lengths of everything matter more in order to make them seem flattering and intentional.
Something that has helped me is seeking out influencers or bloggers that reflect my sense of style and “copy” their looks. You can also search on Pinterest (“how to wear straight leg jeans with boots” etc). Merrick’s Art is great for this!

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Anonymous wrote:I really don’t understand what’s in style for jeans. Can someone post a photo of a middle aged looking person wearing trendy jeans? Do they hit your shoes? How wide are they at the bottom? Hahaha I feel like a loser even posting this

Any jeans except skinny or jegging are in style.

Darn, that's all I have these days. I hate skinny jeans too, but I thought they were in fashion. Can I go back to my flares or boot cut? Love those, super flattering.

Yes, go back to flares or bootcut.

Agree, but not the ones you wore in 2001. Current flares and bootcuts have a higher rise and people are wearing them a little shorter. Not grazing the floor.

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Anonymous wrote:I really don’t understand what’s in style for jeans. Can someone post a photo of a middle aged looking person wearing trendy jeans? Do they hit your shoes? How wide are they at the bottom? Hahaha I feel like a loser even posting this

Any jeans except skinny or jegging are in style.

Darn, that's all I have these days. I hate skinny jeans too, but I thought they were in fashion. Can I go back to my flares or boot cut? Love those, super flattering.

Yes, go back to flares or bootcut.

Agree, but not the ones you wore in 2001. Current flares and bootcuts have a higher rise and people are wearing them a little shorter. Not grazing the floor.

Accurate ^^

You can go back to flares and boot cut jeans, but not the old ones hanging in your closet...

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Anonymous wrote:I really don’t understand what’s in style for jeans. Can someone post a photo of a middle aged looking person wearing trendy jeans? Do they hit your shoes? How wide are they at the bottom? Hahaha I feel like a loser even posting this

You need to find a fashion blog for 40+ women and follow it—someone who’s more focused on everyday style than high fashion. Here’s an example:

https://jolynneshane.com/

Those white sneakers look like she's had them for 5 years.

DP. They look fine.

I wouldn't necessarily want to dress like this person, but her Spring 24 trend forecasts aren't bad at all. And anyone looking to see what is in style for jeans -- her recent post on denim trends sums it up well.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 38 and there already. I just have other things I value more for my limited money and time than replacing my wardrobe.

Don't need to replace, wash, repair, press and hang it all nicely, shoes, purses, accessories, all polished and arranged well.

Watch fashion gurus on Ticktock, Instagram etc for inspiration and then try on your own stuff and arrange as outfits to wear differently then you did before.

Its called shopping in your own closet. By 40's, everyone already has too much stuff, why add more. If you are crafty, alter some old clothes to your current measurements. May be take off sleeves of some tops or dresses, change basic buttons to nicer ones etc.

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Really, how much clothing do people need?
The fashion industry is one of the biggest polluters on the planet. Shop your closet, thrift stores, or trade with your friends.
Don’t we all have enough unnecessary stuff?

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Anonymous wrote:I really don’t understand what’s in style for jeans. Can someone post a photo of a middle aged looking person wearing trendy jeans? Do they hit your shoes? How wide are they at the bottom? Hahaha I feel like a loser even posting this

Any jeans except skinny or jegging are in style.

Darn, that's all I have these days. I hate skinny jeans too, but I thought they were in fashion. Can I go back to my flares or boot cut? Love those, super flattering.

Yes, go back to flares or bootcut.

Agree, but not the ones you wore in 2001. Current flares and bootcuts have a higher rise and people are wearing them a little shorter. Not grazing the floor.

Accurate ^^

You can go back to flares and boot cut jeans, but not the old ones hanging in your closet...

I always wear high rise because they flatter me, but I don't believe anybody notices where exactly my jeans fall or how high the rise is. It's not "giving up" to wear flattering clothes while also realizing no one is looking at you so closely that they notice your hems. Frankly no one was looking that closely 20 years ago but they definitely aren't now in middle age.

I just found some high rise, boot cut slacks in my closet from maybe 5 years ago. They’re a little too long. Wore them to work yesterday and got compliments.

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Anonymous wrote: Well....I'm 52, and I don't want to look 'old lady' or frumpy, but I'm not 20 either so no crop tops here LOL.

I try to strike a balance and not just give up.

Same. I'm 53.

In this territory, too! I hope to never "give up," but also to not try too hard to look trendy.

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No one cares about your socks

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Anonymous wrote:I really don’t understand what’s in style for jeans. Can someone post a photo of a middle aged looking person wearing trendy jeans? Do they hit your shoes? How wide are they at the bottom? Hahaha I feel like a loser even posting this

Any jeans except skinny or jegging are in style.

Darn, that's all I have these days. I hate skinny jeans too, but I thought they were in fashion. Can I go back to my flares or boot cut? Love those, super flattering.

Yes, go back to flares or bootcut.

Agree, but not the ones you wore in 2001. Current flares and bootcuts have a higher rise and people are wearing them a little shorter. Not grazing the floor.

Accurate ^^

You can go back to flares and boot cut jeans, but not the old ones hanging in your closet...

I always wear high rise because they flatter me, but I don't believe anybody notices where exactly my jeans fall or how high the rise is. It's not "giving up" to wear flattering clothes while also realizing no one is looking at you so closely that they notice your hems. Frankly no one was looking that closely 20 years ago but they definitely aren't now in middle age.

I just found some high rise, boot cut slacks in my closet from maybe 5 years ago. They’re a little too long. Wore them to work yesterday and got compliments.

Some will notice and others won’t, but you do you. Wear what makes you feel confident.

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Anonymous wrote:I wear what is flattering on me, if it happens to be on trend great.

+1, I've worn boot cut jeans since college. Even when skinny was in - it didn't look good on me so I stayed with bootcut. I've been laughing about everything old is new again as I watch fashions from college come in again.

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I scroll tiktok so I am up to date. Lots of info there.

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I have switched my Pilates grip socks from the ankle ones to the taller crew ones.

Socks are definitely a thing.

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Anonymous wrote:I have switched my Pilates grip socks from the ankle ones to the taller crew ones.

Socks are definitely a thing.

+1

I’ve noticed slouchy socks and athletic socks with stripes at the top as a big feature with styling on the sites of a lot of the better clothing retailers this season.