What does it mean when a guy says he didn’t feel a connection?

[Anonymous]

Better to have someone say it now than you waste your time. It just wasn’t a fit. You move on and meet the next one! Keep your chin up! Don’t let this bother you for one second.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Went on a date recently with a guy and he texted me afterwards and said he had a good time, but didn’t feel a deep connection between us. What does that even mean? This is the second time this has happened to me, so wondering if it’s something I did. What do guys mean by this?

it means not interested. the same thing it means when women say it to men. wtf

My thoughts exactly. why is this even a question?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not attracted, doesn't want a second date, but doesn't think you're a horrible person.

Yes this.
It’s not a code.
It’s just a polite way to say he wishes you well but you aren’t a match for him.

for more insight, I recommend (non-ironically) reading the book “He’s Just Not That Into You”
It’s a little dated by now but might be helpful anyway.

Gosh no!. We're beyond thinking now. Please stop suggesting this book and the other one

[Anonymous]

He's letting you know he's not interested in a very nice way. Accept it and move on, even though I know it's hard if you felt a connection.

[Anonymous]

Not compatible in some way or no chemistry - not something they want to pursue any further.

[Anonymous]

He's not interested. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It means exactly that.

It could be physical, you’re just not his type. But not necessarily. Sometimes it’s vibes.

Haven’t you ever felt that way about a man? I have. I’ve been on both sides of the no-connection thing. Think about the last time you went on a first or second date and, while there’s nothing WRONG with the guy, you’re just not all that excited about him? When a third date would sound like a meeting or an appointment, rather than a date.

That’s how the guy feels.

As a guy, I concur. I went out on date with someone I met a few times. I thought she was stunning and really nice. As the date went on there were just little things that came up in discussion that I knew would get in the way of any long term potential. We were both very physically attracted to each other and probably could have hooked up a few times and enjoyed it, but not what I was looking for. I told her she was gorgeous and while I enjoyed our conversation, I didn't see a connection. She thanked me. We have run in to each other a couple of times since the date and had good conversations. No hard feeling either way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like following alittlenudge on IG. She has great dating advice.

Amy Webb's book is much better. Amy was smart, but heavy, with frizzy hair. Amy was thoughtful, realistic, selective, had a few dates, got married, and is raising her kids.

Ericka was 29, pretty, petite, and thin. She had 100 dates with "rules" - short, convenient coffee during the day. Her rules did not work! When scheduling problems made her break the rules and meet Jeremy for drinks in the evening, she got engaged. Jeremy is gone. IIRC, Erika was driving to Baltimore for hook-ups with a different guy. She is now in her forties, ranting about dating peeves and "A case for dating your own age", i.e., her age.

To be fair, dating coaches "learn on the job" from client experiences. Their clients are mostly middle-aged and older women who are too picky.

[Anonymous]

he doesn’t want to have sex with you so he doesn’t see the point in continuing to date you.

[Anonymous]

It means he didn't have a flood of endorphins and oxytocin during your date.