Uncomfortable mommy moment....
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Anonymous
| My daughter has a really good friend that used to go to preschool with her. My daughter and the little girl are 4 years old. We still do playdates with the good friend on the weekends sometimes. At the last playdate the mother told me that sometimes when her daughter is being difficult, she calls her a b*tch either in her head or mouths the word (so the daughter cant hear/see). All I did was make a frowny face and say "oh really." I didnt know what to say and it made me uncomfortable. I would chalk it up to stress but the mother says she does it all the time. Would you be comfortable with this or do I have a total stick up my *ss. |
Anonymous
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I would be uncomfortable, too, and don't see how it's productive in the long wrong. But in the short run I can see how it lets her vent her frustration. I don't know about emotional pain, for instance, but cursing has been proven to lessen physical pain.
Maybe she's just sharing her coping technique, and you can laugh and let her know how you handle those moments. |
Anonymous
| I find this really weird and uncomfortable too. What the. ...?? |
Anonymous
| I guess I would just say, "hmm" and let her move the conversation on to something else. When my 3 year old is really obnoxious sometimes, I tell him jokingly that he's acting like a baby jerk. That's probably not really appropriate either, but we both laugh about it and it lessens the tension. |
Anonymous
| You have a stick up your ass. |
Anonymous
| Just smiled and say "some days are tough." She most likely isn't a horrible parent and if she is you expressing that won't change it. |
Anonymous
More like a whole pine tree. |
Anonymous
If you do, OP, then I do too, b/c I find it a weird and uncomfortably inappropriate thing to say about one's own child. Sheesh. 
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Anonymous
B*tch |
Anonymous
My mom criticized me all the time when I did shitty things. I'm just fine. If your own mother can't tell you when you suck, who can? No wonder this town is full of so many shits. |
Anonymous
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I'd be uncomfortable too.
I jokingly call my 3yo a little shit sometimes when talking to my family (when he's not there), but it tends to be when he's been especially smartaleck-y and more 'can you believe he did this' than anger or frustration. |
Anonymous
| My son't grandparents have another grandchild, a girl. Her parents clearly do not know how to handle her and she can be difficult at times. The grandparents often say "that bitch SoAndSo" and "that little bitch." I find it rather disturbing too. Although they never say this around the child or the parents. |
Anonymous
Oh, my mom told me all the time when I did bad things or if I needed to improve, etc. I am directly addressing the language. But you seem more comfortable with using language like that, so maybe that's the difference. I would not use that langauge to or about my children. |
Anonymous
!! |
Anonymous
PP back w/ a PS: Bless your heart. |