Would you confront your husband/wife's Emotional Affair lover?

[Anonymous]

I have the contact info for the woman my DH is having an emotional affair with. Should I confront her?

She's divorcee of one year, doesn't seem to be over a previous boyfriend, currently has another unsatisfactory boyfriend, plus the EA with my DH.

[Anonymous]

It might run her off- but it may have a backlash effect and make you "the crazy one". I say your husband is the one to invest your time in- if you want to rescue your marriage.

[Anonymous]

No. That woman didn't make vows to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. That woman didn't make vows to you.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have the contact info for the woman my DH is having an emotional affair with. Should I confront her?

She's divorcee of one year, doesn't seem to be over a previous boyfriend, currently has another unsatisfactory boyfriend, plus the EA with my DH.

See how easy woman have it. They can have a new guy at the snap of the fingers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have the contact info for the woman my DH is having an emotional affair with. Should I confront her?

She's divorcee of one year, doesn't seem to be over a previous boyfriend, currently has another unsatisfactory boyfriend, plus the EA with my DH.

See how easy woman have it. They can have a new guy at the snap of the fingers.

A new guy is easy to find. A good one, as in this case, is not.

[Anonymous]

I did - I confronted my H, her and her boss since she is around my kids due to her work.

If she wants to be a part of my family's life why wouldn't I be included.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. That woman didn't make vows to you.

+1

ITA! Why wouldn't you confront your dh? She isn't married, its your problem not hers...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have the contact info for the woman my DH is having an emotional affair with. Should I confront her?

She's divorcee of one year, doesn't seem to be over a previous boyfriend, currently has another unsatisfactory boyfriend, plus the EA with my DH.

See how easy woman have it. They can have a new guy at the snap of the fingers.

A new guy is easy to find. A good one, as in this case, is not.

As my brother puts it, men suffer from quantity, women from quality. Women meet far more men than the other way around but a guy can date five reasonably attractive women and at least 2 or 3 have it together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did - I confronted my H, her and her boss since she is around my kids due to her work.

If she wants to be a part of my family's life why wouldn't I be included.

Wow, how did that go??

[Anonymous]

What do you hope to gain by contacting the other woman? This is about your DH not about her. leave her alone, she clearly has shown pattern of behavior that you confronting her is not going to curb. Decide if this is something you can overcome with your DH and focus on that. I'm just coming out of a marriage with a serial cheater and, while I might be jaded, cheating of any kind is the most low of behavior someone can display and I would be seriously considering if your DH is someone trustworthy. I truly hope he is I'm only saying look at this situation from just the facts and trust your instincts!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. That woman didn't make vows to you.

+1

ITA! Why wouldn't you confront your dh? She isn't married, its your problem not hers...

I did confront my dh. He insists they are "just friends" but they've crossed a line in talking about sex with each other. He says he has shown integrity - I figure this means bc they haven't had sex (yet).

[Anonymous]

Nope. This is your husband's issue. Research shows affair partners are often less attractive etc. than the person's wife and are often just as lost as the person having the affair (since they are having an affair too).

Affairs are not usually about the other person, it's about the person having the affair. In this case you shouldn't give a crap about this woman and her issues, you should focus on your husband's.

[Anonymous]

Nope. This is your husband's issue. Research shows affair partners are often less attractive etc. than the person's wife and are often just as lost as the person having the affair (since they are having an affair too).

Affairs are not usually about the other person, it's about the person having the affair. In this case you shouldn't give a crap about this woman and her issues, you should focus on your husband's.

Basically, the player doesn't matter, it's the game you want to stop. You need to understand and get your husband to understand what is going on with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. This is your husband's issue. Research shows affair partners are often less attractive etc. than the person's wife and are often just as lost as the person having the affair (since they are having an affair too).

Affairs are not usually about the other person, it's about the person having the affair. In this case you shouldn't give a crap about this woman and her issues, you should focus on your husband's.

Basically, the player doesn't matter, it's the game you want to stop. You need to understand and get your husband to understand what is going on with him.

I read that the great majority of men did not even consider an affair partner attractive - they were just presented with an opportunity.