How to write a thank you note when you don't know what they gave?
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Anonymous
| So after my son's birthday, he and all his cousins got into the gifts when I was out of the room and opened them. I have 3 unaccounted for, and unfortunately they are from people I don't feel entirely comfortable asking what they brought. I feel terrible! Is there a way to word a thank you card and not reference the gift, or do I need to put on my big girl pants and ask the parents what their gift was? |
Anonymous
| Ugh! That would really bug me But just say thank you so much for the gift and for helping to celebrate Max's special day. It's better, IMO, to have them think you were a little generic in writing the notes, unless they are really close friends of yours. |
Anonymous
| I'd be amused to receive a thank-you note that explained what your son did and acknowledged that you're not sure which gift was mine, but that you're grateful for it and my participation in the day. It's a good bet I'd respond and let you know which one I gave! |
Anonymous
| I like 08:22's suggestion. |
Anonymous
| Thanks |
Anonymous
| Yeah -- it's such a good story, the thank you note writes itself. |
Anonymous
| OP here- thanks, you all made me feel a lot better! People are always more laid back in reality than in my head. I have to remember that if I received such a note, I would definitely get a good laugh. Thanks, all! |
Anonymous
Me too. I'd love this. |
Anonymous
+? (I think I'm number 5?) Anyone who wouldn't appreciate this type of thank you note probably shouldn't have children or attend a children's birthday party. This is a cute note and so typical of children. And most parents will see that and say "there but for the grace of God..." and will respond with what they did give. |
Anonymous
| i generally go with thanking them for their generous gift, or something generic along those lines. |
Anonymous
yup, another + on this! |
Anonymous
| That's an awkward situation - What if the thank you note recipient didn't even bring a gift (planned to give later or never)? how about writing something more along the lines of enjoying their company and chatting about xyz. That way the guest can assume they got more caught up in their company rather than the present... |
Anonymous
| I'd leave mentioning the gift out altogether and thank them for coming, making the day special and bringing more fun into the house. That way the fun can refer to the gift or just them. Are you 100% sure all brought gifts? If so, maybe you can mention not knowing which, but if not, then don't mention it. |
Anonymous
I guess I can't be 100% sure, but I am pretty sure because I found the cards. I guess it is possible someone could have brought a card only, but the gift to guest ratio works out. |
Anonymous
| ^^ and it was a fairly small party, only 8 kids besides mine. |