parenting styles- so confused

[Anonymous]

different people in our circle are dedicated to different parenting styles (attachment,dr sears, etc) and attend various classes . do you need to follow a certain parenting style? i feel so confused about all the parenting books out there and I am not sure which ones to read. TIA

[Anonymous]

You don't *need* to follow a certain style. Only you can answer your question. What feels right to you? What makes sense to you? The books just describe things people already practice. If things are going ok for you and kids and parents are happy and thriving I wouldn't think you need to seek out parenting books.

[Anonymous]

Agree with pp. I haven't read 1 book and my 2.5 yo and our family are doing just fine. Now, if I had a particular issue I have googled it before or asked on this board for advice, but there are too many "styles" out there and it overwhelmed me trying to "figure out" how to be the perfect parent. All kids are different and you will figure out for the most part what works for you and your DC. My friends have also been good resources, but don't waste your time trying to peg you and your DC into a specific type of parenting.

[Anonymous]

No. You need to do what feels right for you. I've seen some really bad parenting in just about every style.


Be forewarned: People who are very addicted to books and styles can also be fairly judgmental toward those who choose different approaches. If a discussion with a friend makes you feel inadequate, take a deep breath and let her "advice" wash over you like a duck.

[Anonymous]

I don't even know what type of "parenting style" we use. We just go with the flow and when we find something that works we stick with it - trial and error sometimes, but common sense too.

I guess we use a hodge podge of published parenting styles.

It also depends how old and how many children you have. Obviously, CIO is not recommended for a newborn. So as your family dynamics change so will your parenting routine and style.

[Anonymous]

I am definitely a "reader." I also ask my mom, my sister, my friends. I talk to my husband. I observe my child. Then I do what I think is right for our family. I wholeheartedly believe all those theories in the books are useful for informing me and giving me ideas, but ultimately my conscience and my gut are my best guide.

[Anonymous]

What in the world did people do before we had all these books, styles, and experts to guide us?