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Yep, that are the poster was asking about is a location of one of the largest mosques in NoVA. The mosque has seen some controversy over the years. Anwar al-Aulaqi was an imam there back In 2000-2001. And 2 of the 9/11 hijackers attended services there as well as the Ft. Hood shooter. But generally it's a pretty popular mosque |
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not OP but: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Religious_views_on_organ_donation |
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To the Muslim poster: In shariah, the privilege to divorce is for the husband. There is no analogue to the husband-initiated divorce available to women. A woman who wants to divorce has two options: a. Petition the court for separation called Khoula. In this scenario, she must return to the husband the dowry he paid her before contracting marriage. Some husbands also demand more for the inconvenience. By letter of law, this is supposed to be a simple transaction of "I don't want to be with you any longer, here's your money, I'm leaving", but in practice, some countries require the husband's consent. This must be approved by the judge, and cannot be transacted by a woman independently. b. Petition the court for the court-approved divorce in case of husband's abandonment, maltreatment, non-payment of maintenance etc. In this scenario, the woman retains the dowry. In practice, the ruling to divorce is very much up to the judge, and very often women are told to go back home and practice patience. To sum up: in classical shariah, there is no such thing as a woman-initiated divorce similar to what is available to the husband. However, a woman can write in her marital agreement that she has a right to request divorce at any time and the husband must not withhold consent. She may write that she will retain her dowry in case of divorce. The marital agreement can contain pretty much whatever financial and contractual terms. If the husband changes his ind later on, she would still have to take him to court, and there is a possibility that the judge may consider some of the contract's provisions to be un-Islamic, but it's uncommon because Islam attaches much importance to following agreements and promises. |
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NP here. The age of Mary bothers me a LOT less than the ages of Muhammad and Aisha when they consummated their marriage. (Although, I'm not Christian). The reason being is because in Islam, Muhammad told his followers to emulate his life - follow Sunnah. Then, he goes and marries a 6 year old, while in his 50's, and consummates the marriage when she is 9. This is EXACTLY why child marriage is so difficult to eliminate. Muslims are told to live their lives as Muhammad did, so if you try to tell them that a 50 year old marrying a 9 year old is wrong and bad, you are basically saying that Muhammad was wrong and bad for doing it, and that's blasphemy/insulting the Prophet. Further, you can't just skirt the issue by saying, oh, that's just what was done back then, but we shouldn't do it anymore in this day and age, because Allah said that the rules of Islam are for all mankind and until the end of time. Marrying a tiny child to a man over 40 years her senior is gross and dangerous. The girl can end up injured from sex, and if she gives birth at such a young age, she could die, or end up with fistula and be shunned. I don't believe in ANY religion. However, I just have to think that if there was a god, and he was all-knowing, he would know the dangers of marrying little girls to old men, and thus NOT command his Prophet to do a marriage like that. Further, we know how bad the effects (genetic disorders, low IQ, disabilities, etc.) are of first cousins marrying eachother continuously down the lineage, which is extremely common with Pakistanis. If god is all-knowing, why wouldn't he have known about that and when he sent down the rules for who is marriagable in Islam, and forbid first cousins to marry? |
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First cousin marriages are still legal in half of the US. Such marriages lead to an increase of birth defects from 3-4% of all births to 4-7% of all births, the same increased risk carried if the mother is AMA. I'm not advocating for it. It feels incestuous to me. But it's not intrinsically evil. 80% of all marriages/mating in human history have been between 2nd cousins or closer. Historically, there haven't been enough humans around throughout most of history, and we haven't been mobile enough to do much more than that.
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It's not the one-off first cousins getting married that is so bad. It's when families CONTINUALLY marry their 1st cousins. Each time it happens, the risk of defects goes up. Just look at the amount of disabilities afflicting the Pakistani population in the UK compared to non-Pakistanis. It's very common in pakistani families for a couple's parents, grandparents, greatparents, and so on, to all have been first cousin marriages. In Pakistan, over 80% of married couples are 1st cousins. Chances are, their parents and their parents' parents were also first cousins. Look at the high rate of thalassaemia in Pakistan. http://www.pakistantoday.com.pk/2012/02/21/city/lahore/marrying-a-cousin-think-twice/ |
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| OP - do you believe in Jinns and Jinn possession? |
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Hi guys, I am not OP but would like to answer some questions as I am Muslim and think this thread was a wonderful idea. There are different kinds of Muslims from all walks of life some follow the teachings closely while others do not. Just like there is good and bad in all races and religions, there are good and bad among Muslims as well. Basically, what makes a Muslim, Muslim is following and believing the 5 basic pillars of Islam.... 1. Testimony of Faith (the belief of the oneness of God and the Prophet Muhammed being His messenger. 2. Prayer (5 daily prayers a day) 3. Fasting during the month of Ramadan 4. Charity (Muslims must give a very modest portion of their earnings to the poor once a year-at least) 5. Pilgrimmage to Mecca (Hajj)
Yes I was born and raised in America and so were my kids and Husban. Yes, I am originally from here because I was born here but my ancestors came from India the same way most of you have ancestors from other parts of the world.
Of course!
Yes I am married, yes I dated although this is not allowed in Islam. Like I said there are all kinds of Muslims in this world.
Perhaps they were Nation of Islam, followers of the Nation of Islam are different than Followers of Islam. Nation of Islam adapted some beliefs from Islam but added some things to their religion as well that we Muslims dont believe in.
Yes, I do go to the beach. I usually wear a sarong like skirt clothes that are not revealing yet flowing and summer-like
You have to keep in mind that back in those days, it was quite common to marry someone that young. Even most of your great grandparents married at this young of an age. Ask them. So imagine back in the era that Islam came about. It was a common occurrence. The poor families who could not afford to take care of their daughters needed to marry them off to someone who can look out and care for them. So no, because this took place so long ago I do not consider him a pedophile. However, in this day in age things have changed and it is not common in our society to so something like this, so no i would never allow my young children to get married let alone to a man so old. With that said, there are still many other countries where muslims and non-muslims still marry their daughters off at such a young age and it is accepted in their society.
This is something that I believe takes place in Iran among a certain sect of Muslims. It is more of a cultural belief than a religious one. |
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Girls are suppose to cover their hair and body by the time they hit puberty. However, this varies from one Islamic household to the next. Some cover, some dont. Like the other poster mentioned, some parents want to get their child used to wearing the headscarf at an earlier age so that by the time they hit puberty they will be comfortable wearing it. however they are never forced to wear it. Most kids at that young of an age want to copy what their moms are doing.
No I have not. The goal is to go ASAP because you never know if tomorrow will be your last breath... but because of family life, job and financial situation many people are unable to go until much older, sometimes retirement years. If one is unable to go because of financial reasons or poor health it is not required for them to go.
Only the men do that
Hmm, never heard of seen that happen before. Some of the best Muslims among us are African-Americans. In Islam, Muslims are not racist. It is clearly stated in our religion that we are judged by our actions not by our race and that we are all equal when we stand before God on the Day of Judgement
Yes, I wear a headcover (Hijab is the arabic term). No we do not have to sleep in it. We are only required to wear the hijab in front of men that are not a part of our immediate family (blood relatives). Hence, we do not have to cover in front on our husbands, brothers, sons, nephews, grandfathers, uncles. We can take off the hijab in front of women as well. Islam is not meant to be a difficult religion. We are allowed and encouraged to use our own common sense. If we find ourselves in an emergency situation than God knows that and is merciful and forgiving. |
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In Islam, if a women chooses to earn her own income...it is for her to keep. She is not required to give it to her husband nor use it towards the household expenses. However, a woman who wants to have a stable income, peace and happiness within her family and/or wants to elevate the burden from her husband she can chose to do so, but it is not her religious obligation. Whereas for a man, it is his religious duty to care for his family financially.
This is HIS personal opinion and has nothing to do with Islam. In Islam, pre marital sex is a sin, be it with a muslim or a non-muslim. And Frankly, I dont blame you for finding it insulting because it is! Basically he is saying he would not sleep with a Muslim because he has more respect for her than a non-muslim. This is a load of crap! Please don't take what one Muslim says and think this is what all Muslims believe in. I am glad you asked. Muslims are suppose to treat all human beings as humans, we are told to respect all religions and people.
EID, we celebrate this holiday 2x a year.
Basically, Eid is a religious celebration. Both holidays are based on the lunar calendar therefore having varying days from year to year. We have two Eids that take place every year. One is called Eid-ul Adha (the feast of sacrifice), the other is called Eid-ul Fitr (the feast of breaking the fast). Eid ul Adha is our major festival which honors the willingness of Prophet Abraham to sacrifice his son Ishmael as an act to submit to God's command. However, God intervened and replaced a lamb to be sacrificed in place of his son. Eid ul Fitr is a celebrations that marks the end of the Holy month of Ramadan. Ramadan is the month in which Muslims fast for 29-30 days.
Actually, this is false. Medical technoloy and advances are supported by Muslims. If there are advances made we are encouraged to use them within boundaries. It depends on what kind of technology we are talking about. For instance with IVF, if a couple is having trouble getting pregnant than they can turn to IVF but within limitations... it has to be within a marriage, the eggs have to be the wifes and the sperm must be the husbands and you can not use a surrogate or donors. You are not expected to have kids at all but it encouraged in Islam to have children. There is no set number that is required. It is a personal choice. |
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| I am the poster of the above 3 posts. Just wanted to say to the OP..sorry for taking over! lol |
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In order to observe the proper "Hijab" (which not only consists of headcovering but includes covering of the body AND the way you carry yourself), you must not do things to draw too much attention to your "beauty". You can wear makeup but it should be natural looking.
No there is no basis for this. I was born here in America so basically I follow many "american" ways of discipling my children. Any physical harm towards your child and wife is not allowed.
There is no particular "look" that distinguishes between a Muslim and Non-Muslim. There are many Muslims that do not wear a headscarf or men that do not have a beard. They look just like a non-muslim. Muslims come in all races as well. So no, I highly doubt that anyone will look at you oddly. Business is business they just want your money lol
Yes, I was born here, raised here. Of course there will always be some sense of patriotism within me.
it is not forbidden to have Dogs as pets. However, Muslims are discouraged to keep them and they should not treat their dogs better than their family members. Also we can not pray in he area where a Dog has been.
Where does it say in our religion that women are treated second to men? In Islam men and women are equal in front of God. No where does it say men are superior to women. However, men are physically stronger than women which is why a woman should not travel alone. It is for protection of the women. Men are the primary bread winner, this doesnt mean women cant work but simply means it is a MANS responsibilty to provide for the family so that the woman can care and attend to her children. It is so that a woman does not feel the burden to have to work but should do it because she chooses too. When a woman makes money, it is hers to keep and she can spend it however she wants (on things permissible in Islam) without her husband questioning it. A marriage is a partnership, each person has a duty to fulfill in order to make that marriage work. The Quran just states these duties clearly, for both men and women. It is kind of like a work contract. You are expected to perform certain duties at work, you cant just do what you want and make yourself happy and not please your boss. Both parties have to be happy in order to have a good relationship be it at work or at home. America is a high divorce rate of over 50%, dont you wonder why? |
Anonymous
KSA, the Muslimest place on earth, has a divorce rate of 50%, too - don't you wonder why? |
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| Are you one of those people sending money to the Boston terrorist guy in prison? |
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Here's one circumstance, among many, where Islam is incredibly unfair to women. That circumstance is the non-existence of concept of marital property.
In Islam, both spouses retain their assets and income and they do not become commingled by virtue of marriage. In case of divorce (to which men, not women, have a unilateral right), a husband owes his wife 3 months worth of maintenance. That's it. After that, she's on her own. There is no alimony, no division of assets, nothing. The children do remain a financial responsibility of the husband. That means, theoretically, that a woman can marry, stay at home for thirty years to take care of a guy's house, bear his children, be a homemaker Islam expects her to be, and thirty years later (or whenever, really), her husband can divorce her and send her on her merry way with 3 months of maintenance, and no share of any assets the family has accumulated during marriage. A case in India where a divorced, elderly Muslim woman wanted her ex husband to pay her a share of marital assets Indian law requires turned into massive protests by Muslims who did not want their marital law contradicted in any way. (Shah Bano). If you are a woman who has to divorce, the Western law treats you way, way better. |