Your excuses are lame troll. |
500k after so many years of training and crazy debt is not great. It’s worth it if you have no debt though. |
Marriage should start with pre-nup of no premarital debt or asset sharing but whatever is made during marriage should be shared. Anyone who has an issue with that is better off single. Also know that if someone has bad debt and income ratio, they won't be contributing towards family finances of household responsibilities because their time and income would go towards paying debt. |
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She is already supporting him by paying expenses/housing. He can pick up extra hours at an ER, clinic or even virtual doctor. |
Don't worry. It will get forgiven. |
Didn’t read all the comments but I agree that once you’re married, it’s reasonable to help pay down debt so you can build a more secure financial future. This doesn’t have to look like direct payments to his loans, but maybe your daughter covers more of the daily home expenses so he can use his salary to more quickly pay down his debt. |
Hard No. she could pay if off and he could divorce her next day.
This is not like i married wife and she had car loan and I paid it off. Or my old GF who had 5k in credit card debt if I married her. This is draining life savings, to pay off loan a guy who could dump her next day and leave her divorced and penniless |
Didn’t read the whole thread, but if not already suggested, just get a post nup signed that he owes her at least 50% of his medical debt, including interest in the event of a divorce. |
OP sounds judgmental with her comment “he attended private universities while our daughter attended state schools we could afford”. We get it , OP, you are superior. I hope he doesn’t pick up on your disdain for him. |
And with her attitude, more likely he will then want to keep his nice salary "mostly for himself" after paying basic expenses. You are either all in together for finances or you aren't. IMO, it's a much healthier attitude to have the "it's all ours" mentality, as you are a family. And if one person has debt, the family has debt. |
+100 |
When you can make that money not in a HCOL area where really nice homes are $800k and private schools are cheap, it’s a LOT of money. |
+1 Several of our residents deliberately chose jobs in LCOL areas for this reason. |
Ugh but then you have to live in some dump. |