Is it a thing for older people to be picked up from the airport?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This generation had more opportunities for great jobs, with good pensions, affordable homes, job stability and decent working hours. Many women were SAHMs.Now with our crappy jobs with poor retirement plans while juggling parenting and a million other things we are supposed to be chauffeurs not just to our kids, but to able bodied reitred folks who can't be bothered to wake up for an early flight, but expect you to battle rush hour and a possible accident to get them.

Love all the women here chiming in the shame OP. That['s sisterhood for ya.

In my family, sisters tell a sister when she's being an entitled a-hole. Maybe in your family you ignore it. In my family we remind them of our value system and peer pressure them into living up to our standards.

Yes, definitely part of a sister's job description!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This generation had more opportunities for great jobs, with good pensions, affordable homes, job stability and decent working hours. Many women were SAHMs.Now with our crappy jobs with poor retirement plans while juggling parenting and a million other things we are supposed to be chauffeurs not just to our kids, but to able bodied reitred folks who can't be bothered to wake up for an early flight, but expect you to battle rush hour and a possible accident to get them.

Love all the women here chiming in the shame OP. That['s sisterhood for ya.

In my family, sisters tell a sister when she's being an entitled a-hole. Maybe in your family you ignore it. In my family we remind them of our value system and peer pressure them into living up to our standards.

Yes, definitely part of a sister's job description!

Right on!

[Anonymous]

I go pick up family from the airport because, among other reasons, I can’t wait to see them! I think OP must not like her dad too much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ageist much?

+1

[Anonymous]

Pick up your dad, come on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of older people (boomers) are narcissists and expect to be catered to hand and foot. You pick a child or kid from college at the airport, not a grown adult who's navigated back and forth to the airport dozens of times in their life. Tell em to take an uber.

Seriously. My parents usually fly into Reagan. They’ll jump on metro and I’ll pick them up at the stop near us. They’re in their 70’s and have traveled all over the world. Do people on this thread have parents who have regressed to childhood?

No, those parents have better children.

No, those children have entitled parents, which is sadly common with Baby Boomer parents.

My parents like their independence, and my mom has said she considers metro to be an “adventure” (in a positive way, if you can believe that)

She is trying assuage your guilt (if you even have a shred) for not picking her up.

These responses are enlightening. I pick everyone up. Including my million miler aunt - me picking you up has nothing to do with your flying status. But I guess if you grew up with cold, “find your own way” parents, this is what you are used to. I mean…telling your college student to find their own way home from the airport is ice cold.

My parents are smart, and tend to fly in at off hours. They know it’s unrealistic and unfair to demand people who are still working to take hours out of their workday on a Tuesday afternoon to come pick them up, when they’re perfectly capable of taking metro or Uber.

College students are also adults. Sure, picking them up is nice if you can make it work. But it involves essentially zero effort for them to travel that last little bit home.

[Anonymous]

Wait. You get angsty about your older dad not navigating ride share yet you excuse your husband who can’t manage to even feed his own kids without help? Good luck to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of older people (boomers) are narcissists and expect to be catered to hand and foot. You pick a child or kid from college at the airport, not a grown adult who's navigated back and forth to the airport dozens of times in their life. Tell em to take an uber.

Seriously. My parents usually fly into Reagan. They’ll jump on metro and I’ll pick them up at the stop near us. They’re in their 70’s and have traveled all over the world. Do people on this thread have parents who have regressed to childhood?

No, those parents have better children.

No, those children have entitled parents, which is sadly common with Baby Boomer parents.

My parents like their independence, and my mom has said she considers metro to be an “adventure” (in a positive way, if you can believe that)

+10000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This generation had more opportunities for great jobs, with good pensions, affordable homes, job stability and decent working hours. Many women were SAHMs.Now with our crappy jobs with poor retirement plans while juggling parenting and a million other things we are supposed to be chauffeurs not just to our kids, but to able bodied reitred folks who can't be bothered to wake up for an early flight, but expect you to battle rush hour and a possible accident to get them.

Love all the women here chiming in the shame OP. That['s sisterhood for ya.

In my family, sisters tell a sister when she's being an entitled a-hole. Maybe in your family you ignore it. In my family we remind them of our value system and peer pressure them into living up to our standards.

Yes, definitely part of a sister's job description!

Right on!

This. I would think real sisters tell each other the truth when they’re behaving poorly. Op should be ashamed.

[Anonymous]

The amount of people here giving OP a hard time is why women are so screwed. There is so little empathy for OP and they are so quick to judge her husband, but a perfectly capable man who happens to be over 60 is supposed to be catered to without fully understand the history there either. Honestly, you can express your thoughts without being to rude to OP.

OP do what works for your family. Asking someone to take a cab is not feeding them to a pack of hungry wolves. You have a right to set boundaries that keep your sanity even if the DCUM Karens guilt trip and shame you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I'm still stuck on the fact that your DH can't handle dinner/bed time on his own. Not even once??? THAT'S the issue here.

Right. She is lambasting her father for being helpless and yet her husband can't handle the kids for a bit while she picks dad up from the airport.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The amount of people here giving OP a hard time is why women are so screwed. There is so little empathy for OP and they are so quick to judge her husband, but a perfectly capable man who happens to be over 60 is supposed to be catered to without fully understand the history there either. Honestly, you can express your thoughts without being to rude to OP.

OP do what works for your family. Asking someone to take a cab is not feeding them to a pack of hungry wolves. You have a right to set boundaries that keep your sanity even if the DCUM Karens guilt trip and shame you.

Her husband has never done dinner/bath time. Ever? They have TWO children. She doesn't have anything for her dad because her husband is useless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The amount of people here giving OP a hard time is why women are so screwed. There is so little empathy for OP and they are so quick to judge her husband, but a perfectly capable man who happens to be over 60 is supposed to be catered to without fully understand the history there either. Honestly, you can express your thoughts without being to rude to OP.

OP do what works for your family. Asking someone to take a cab is not feeding them to a pack of hungry wolves. You have a right to set boundaries that keep your sanity even if the DCUM Karens guilt trip and shame you.

She asked for advice or rather she asked our our thoughts on it and we told her. It’s not a “thing for older people to want to get picked up at the airport”. It’s pretty standard behavior to pick up family members and friends ,but especially aging parents from the airport. If she’s feeling guilty, it’s because she knows its poor behavior to do otherwise if you have the ability to do it. And like other posters keeping pointing out, her DH isn’t capable of managing the kids for a couple of hours, that’s cool, but dad not being able to manage the airport is not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DC is the only region I have ever lived in where people seem to really push back against picking guests up. So I think it's regional vs an age thing. Or maybe people in DC are just less kind than elsewhere.

It’s a traffic thing. Where else have you lived? London? New York City?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many gross ageist people!

The polite thing to do is to pick up your guest(s):at the airport. I've known this since I was ten.

The only time I did not do it was when my 20-something stepbrother called me from the Greyhound station at 3 AM, wanting a ride to my house. He never even told me he was coming! I said, Walk. Or take an Uber. I should have told him to just go home.

Your elderly father, though? You can't be bothered to give him a lift?

Your sibling needed a safe harbor and you weren’t it.