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In desperate need of advice for a pooping problem
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I am in desperate need of advice. My ds who is almost three has been potty trained for about 4 months. In that time he has been dry at night and has had no pee accidents during the day. Pooping is another story. He has only pooped in the potty about 5 times. He will go in his pullup ( which we will use at night sometimes and on days he goes to school. The other times he poops in his underwear. This is getting out of hand. When I ask him why will not use the potty he says he does not want to. He knows when he has to go, really it is just him being stubborn. We have tired bribes we have tried praise we have tried making him clean himself up. Nothing seems to work.
The real problem here is that he goes to preschool three days a week for a half day. He started last week and they give the kids to Sept 15 to be fully trained. So I feel I am really up against the clock. I really do not want to put him back in diapers as he is completely independent in terms of peeing. I guess pull ups are one solution but then I do not think that he will ever use the potty to poop. Any ideas and suggestions??? |
Anonymous
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Question: is he in pullups at night and/or for naps? My 3.5 yo daughter has the same issue but waits until she is in a pullup to poop. In fact I'm going to start leaving a stack of pullups in the bathroom since it must be awful to hold it all day.
Maybe for your son you can tell him that if he needs to poop he should go get a pullup. Then you'll start to pick up on when he needs to go easier and he will probably hold it for the four hours or so he's in preschool. Good luck! |
Anonymous
| He probably senses your concern or anxiety over this. Do not pull-ups for pooping, or during the day They're ok for night use, but using them during the day only prolongs the situation. Try to remain as calm and neutral as possible. You should continue to let him clean up after himself when he has an accident. It may take a day or two, but if you're consistent and unemotional, he should get the hang of it. |
Anonymous
ITA - and try to get out of seeing it as a battle for control. It is, but it's one he needs to win. It's his poop, after all. Despite your fears, he will eventually poop on the potty - they all do. In fact, for a boy especially, it sounds like he is doing great - ahead of schedule by many accounts. GL! |
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Two things I used with my kids,
1. before we left the house, i would say, "please try to make gas on the potty. you don't need to poop, but try to push some gas" 2. with DD, who has a potty seat in the dining room (one bathroom only, upstairs...aargghh!), I say, "I'll be over here to give you privacy". fpor whatever reason, she feels more comfortable pooping - I am literally three feet away from her with my back turned. hang in there and let go of the battle, you will probably never know what is holding him back and because you won't know, you can't fix, etc... I also agree - no pull ups at all during the day, only night. if he poops in his underwear enough he may just really start to dislike how it feels. |
Anonymous
| At home, does he use the normal toilet or a little potty? I know a lot of kids don't like the splash they get in the big toilet. Not that this would help for preschool, but if that could be the problem, maybe use a litte non-water potty for a while? And if he likes preschool, then make it clear that he's only got a few weeks. He may not fully understand, but it's worth a shot. |
Anonymous
| PP again-- I should add, the reason I suggest just telling him why it's urgent is this is what my SIL did. All three of her kids have summer birthdays, and for whatever reason, she didn't even attempt the potty training thing until the summer they turned 3, just in time for preschool. All three knew they had to learn fast, and did. |
Anonymous
| This is a common issue for boys ... mine took about 7 months to master pooping on the potty (whereas he learned to pee in the potty in one day and was dry overnight immediately). Once he started going in the potty, he still withheld it as many days as he could. Sometimes 4 or 5 days. So the doctor put him on Miralax, and after a year, he was still withholding ... just for fewer number of days because of the "intervention". So we took him off the Miralax and just let him go when he wishes. It has slowly gotten better as he gets over his "issues" ... every 3 days now. Too much information, I'm sure!! But the bottom line (ha ha) is that they really do have control over this issue, so make as little of an issue as possible and slowly, slowly they will eventually get it ... when they are good and ready!! |
Anonymous
| I am another Miralax mom. My son also learned to pee in the toilet in one day but refused to poop in the toilet. The doctor prescribed Miralax which resulted in him being fully trained pretty quickly. The major problem with Miralax is getting the dose right and then programing your child to go during non-school hours so that if there is an accident, it is on your watch. |
Anonymous
| My son would hold it in all day, and poop in his sleep. I used laxatives to help him along too. |
Anonymous
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OP here; thanks for all of the tips. Per some of the pp we are going to make it a non-issue and let him make the call. We will do undies all of the time except for school days and see what happens. Hopefully he will see the light sooner than later.
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