When did you get your period after miscarriage? And what do you different when you are pregnant?

[Anonymous]

I had a miscarriage and D&C recently. I am extremely sad about the loss of the baby, but hoping to try again soon. My OB gave me the go-ahead after my period returns.

When did your period return after a miscarriage and/or D&C? My OB said it could be 4-6 weeks.

My first pregnancy was totally uneventful and I have an almost 2-year-old cutie pie to cheer me up. So... I was totally unprepared for the miscarriage - thought everything would be as easy as the first time around. What do you do differently when you are pregnant after a miscarriage?

I appreciate any thoughts or advice!

[Anonymous]

I had an early miscarriage naturally. It took about 5 1/2 weeks for my period to return. I did get pregnant again and while it was reassuring that my body was doing the right thing, it caused a great deal of anxiety. I finally got to the point that I was tired of being so worried and accepted that I was doing all I could to prevent a miscarriage and had to let it go. I am 22 weeks now and all seems well, so I am finally relaxing a bit more.

I am really sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

After D&C, I got my period about 4 weeks later.

We waited 1 full cycle before TTC (per guidance from OB). We conceived in the 2nd cycle. I read that after you miscarry, you have a slightly higher chance of conceiving shortly after - but I would also recommend making sure that you and your husband are ready to try again.

We were on pins and needles until we had our 1st drs appt and saw the heartbeat. There is nothing I did differently for the 2nd pregnancy or 3rd (I now have 2 beautifiul children).

When I miscarried, I read as much as I could to understand what was happening and why. Some of the information I came across that helped me was knowing that when you miscarry early in the pregnancy it is most likely a chromosonal abdormality. There is nothing you did. If you think about everything that has to go right to conceive and bring an fetus to term it is incredible. The percent of pregnancies that end in miscarriage is very high. Once you see a strong heartbeat, it is greater than 90% likelihood that the baby will be carried to term.

Hope this information helps.

[Anonymous]

So sorry for your loss. I've had two miscarriages and each time my period returned after about 3 weeks. And each time I wasn't ready to try again so soon. I think it was more about when we were emotionally ready as a couple then when I was physically ready. The only thing that I did differently after the second miscarriage was to undergo testing to make sure that that there were no additional factors causing my miscarriages. I'm now due in a couple of weeks and have to admit I've been on pins and needles throughout this pregnancy - not because I'm considered high risk, just because it's hard not to be nervous.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry about your loss. And I know how you feel. I had a miscarriage earlier this year, and was uprepared for how upset I would be. Even though I had my period after about four weeks later, I wasn't ready to try again for several months while I sorted out how I felt. Fortunately, my husband was supportive and let me work things out even though he was ready to try again immediately. The good news is we got pregnant on the first try after the miscarriage, and I'm now in my 20th week.

The first three months made me very nervous, especially when anything came up like spotting, but now I've settled down and feel much more calm.

Even though I know that the research shows early miscarriage is most likely caused by chromosonal problems, I did feel a lot of self blame and tried to minimize anything this time that could cause problems. In my case, it just meant I gave up all caffeine, as opposed to the one cup of coffee I allowed myself last time. Probably doesn't make much difference, but just made me feel better and gave me some sense of control even though I know nature pretty much takes it course.

[Anonymous]

I had an early miscarriage in January and am now 11 weeks pregnant. We also have a 16 mth old at home and that was a big help in getting through the m/c. I have had a very hard time with this new pregnancy, I spotted quite a bit during the first few weeks and even had a doctor tell me that 'things didn't look promising'. Well, that was 6 weeks ago and we've seen the baby almost every week via sono and switched doctors. Find a doctor who will be more sympathetic and give you sonos so you can see development every week, it has helped me a lot! I am looking forward to the 2nd Trimester so I can maybe settle down a bit. I also stopped spotting and that helped too. Just treat yourself good and know that most early miscarriages happen due to a chromosomal abnormality and nothing you can do will prevent it.

I also waited about 4 months after our m/c to try again, although I did get my period back 4 weeks after. Our doctor told me I could try when I was ready and it took me awhile to heal emotionally.

I would have been due this week from our earlier pregnancy and it's still hard to think about.

[Anonymous]

My total sympathies to the OP. My story is similar to yours and others posted. To answer your questions, everything was back to normal at 4w. In my case it took another 18 months to get pregnant again (probably not what you want to hear, but on the other hand I never did any charting or related stuff and I'm on the older side of things.) In a sense the long delay helped because it gave me a period of time when I ***wasn't**** obsessing nonstop about pregnancy - I surely was for the first few months and remained pretty sad and bitter about for a long time. But by the time I got pregnant this time I genuinely felt happy with my family at the size it was. I'm not recommending waiting or suggesting that there's anything wrong with getting pregnant on the first cycle back (I would have killed for that!) -- but just trying to say that even if it takes awhile, you'll survive this terrible experience and hopefully have a new reason to celebrate again.

As for the next pregnancy, I'm not doing anything differently this time around (I'm 17w) but I do appreciate how lucky I am now - and how difficult so many iother people have it - far, far more than I did during my first pregnancy. Take care of yourself and best of luck!

[Anonymous]

Search the forum for other threads on this and the TTC forum.

For me it took 3 months for my period to come back and really 6-7 cycles for my ovulation/cycle to be regular again. After that we conceived in three cycles.

For my SIL it took 1 month for her period to come back and she was regular right away and conceived again also in three cycles I think.

I know it's a total shock, and it takes some time to 'heal' emotionally. Hang in there, biggest thing is remind yourself you have a healthy baby, you can conceive, so it'll happen again soon. And it's good to know how common it is and that it is your body's way of helping you have a healthy pregnancy.

Try and see the big picture, I know it's tough not to get stuck in the immediate moment or next couple of months.

[Anonymous]

Sorry for your loss.
I m/c at 5 weeks.
Period back in 6 weeks.
Tried for 3 cycles right after the m/c.
2 diff. Doctors told me wait 3 cycles before trying, wait 2 cycles before trying.
On the 3rd cycle drank Robotussin for several nights to thin out mucus and I think it helped.
Now 24 weeks.
Good luck and hang in there.

[Anonymous]

OP here - this is really helpful information. I am getting over the shock and it really has helped to *talk* about the miscarriage, even online . I appreciate you sharing your stories and offering me support!

[Anonymous]

It was 4 weeks for me after my 2 D&C's. D&C rules are different from when you naturally miscarry.

After d&c you have to wait at least 2 cycles. THis is because you need to give your lining enough time to fully recover and build up a nice and healthy lining. I have waited 3 cycles and am currently trying again. I think this month was unsuccessful, my period is due tomorrow and I have a negative test