Eternal Sunshine Days brings the misery of undone tasks...

[Anonymous]

I am so overwhelmed. The kids are flying apart at the seams with behavior at school and at home. My house looks like it was burglarized, 1 kid (6) is at home sick for 4 days, 3 are in 3rd 5 and 6th grades, DH is on travel for 3 weeks and there is so much to do that I feel like it would be easier to just die. The days are so beautiful lately, I just sit out in the yard playing fetch with the dog and weeping. I am so pathetic. I just started on Wellbutrin--4 days ago, but it takes time, I know. It's so scary that I am just numb.

[Anonymous]

Hope you feel better soon, OP. I'm also going through a really tough time also and I hope things improve for me soon as well.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are not pathetic--you are only one person trying to handle the responsibilities of two parents and you have depression, a chemical imbalance that makes you unable to do things you would normally do with your normal energy or perspective. Take a deep breath, do only the minimum for the next few weeks (e.g. keep everyone fed and clean), and wait for the meds to kick in and your husband to come home.

You are doing the best you can under very, very challenging circumstances. If everyone eats a lot of cold cereal and cold cuts this week, so be it. If things are a mess, so be it. If you do no laundry, so be it. If you use paper plates, so be it. Don't beat yourself up--you have a lot on your plate and something's gotta give! Hang in there, I know those feelings and they will pass. Just be gentle with yourself until they do.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm right there with you...

[Anonymous]

Thank you PP's. It is good to ave these reminders--I forget when I'm despairing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are not pathetic--you are only one person trying to handle the responsibilities of two parents and you have depression, a chemical imbalance that makes you unable to do things you would normally do with your normal energy or perspective. Take a deep breath, do only the minimum for the next few weeks (e.g. keep everyone fed and clean), and wait for the meds to kick in and your husband to come home.

You are doing the best you can under very, very challenging circumstances. If everyone eats a lot of cold cereal and cold cuts this week, so be it. If things are a mess, so be it. If you do no laundry, so be it. If you use paper plates, so be it. Don't beat yourself up--you have a lot on your plate and something's gotta give! Hang in there, I know those feelings and they will pass. Just be gentle with yourself until they do.

Amen. Take it day by day because you have a lot on your plate right now. The housework can wait. The errands can wait. When you feel up to it, have the kids pitch in for a basic "tidy up." Sometimes that's all I get done too - just enough to get us through until I see the light at the end of the tunnel. You will too.