getting pregnant the 2nd time

[Anonymous]

For those of you who aren't on your first pregnancy, if you got pregnant really easily the first time was it the same the second time around? My Dh and I got pregnant on our first try with our daughter and I'm trying to guess when we should start trying for number 2. I know it'll be different for everyone, but just curious to hear others experiences.
thanks.

[Anonymous]

It took us longer than I thought--first time we weren't even really trying. Second time I was 4 years older and starting to get worried.
Of course, I've known a few couples who started trying sooner than they were really ready because they thought it would take a while (which I don't really understand, it's not like it's a cumulative process) and they got pregnant right away.

[Anonymous]

Got pregnant right away with #1. 3 years later, got pregnant fairly quickly a second time after much debate about having #2. Miscarried, then spent 18 months waiting for another pregnancy. Honestly don't presume b/c things were easy the first time, that this will be the case for the second. I hear people all the time talking about planning the next pregnancy and think, if you only knew - I can't imagine how hard it is to deal with infertility issues, but I know how depressed and angry I was over struggling to have a second when it seemed like everyone around us was having their perfect 2.2 child family. On the other hand, there are happy stories that are the reverse of mine - my SIL spent years trying to get pregnant and finally did via IVF with #1. Ironic but almost predictable - #2 was a total surprise, no planning or medical intervention involved. Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

We got pregnant right away with #1 and it took 2 months with #2.

[Anonymous]

We got pg with #1 and now #2 on the 2nd month of trying. Ironically, I'm due with the 2nd the same week as the 1st.

[Anonymous]

I got pregnant after 3 months of trying with my daughter who will be 3 in 1 month.... my hubby and I are going to start trying with #2 next month... so we will see how this all pans out!

[Anonymous]

First try with #1. Took 8 months the second go-round, which I miscarried 2 months in. Still very sad about this recent loss and hoping it does not take as long for the third pregnancy. I think it is harder getting pregnant the second time around, because you are so tired from the first one and, frankly, we do not have sex as much - we sometimes give up romance for sleep!

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Still TTC #2.

I was BFing #1 though (I know some gals get pregnant while BFing, but I wasn't one of them), but have stopped now that DD is a year old. It doesn't seem to matter though since we've been trying since 6 weeks PP.

[Anonymous]

First try with number one at 37, and first try with number two at 40--I actually started trying thinking it would take me so much longer since I was 40 and nope it was a keeper I attribute the fertility success to 1)genes--my family has tons of kids born well into 40's 2)diet-I am pretty healthy so there wasn't a weight issue that can cause havoc with your hormones 3)stress--I tend to be pretty relaxed 4) I have never had a single cigarette in my life and ditto with my hubby--apparently my Ob told me that the smoking is one of the biggest hinderences to pregnancy--this includes folks who smoked for a few years in hs or college-if only people realized that those silly years can have a lasting effect on your eggs --I think a lot of people might have made a differnt decision on that experimentation--of course we all know that it will eventually kill you which obivously is more important.

[Anonymous]

#1 took 4 months. #2 the first try- boy was I surprised!!!!

[Anonymous]

FYI, PP who got pregnant both times on the first try - your success rate is also attributable to just plain old good luck. There are lots of us who eat well, never smoked, have encouraging family history... and still have trouble getting pregnant at various times of life. I'm sure you didn't mean to suggest that people who have trouble getting pregnant have somehow brought this on themselves due to their behavior (weight, smoking, etc.) but it sure does read that way. As someone who had it easy the first time and a lot harder with #2, posts like yours always remind me how clueless and insensitive I was about fertility until I struggled with it a bit myself.

[Anonymous]

Gosh --not trying to insult anyone---trying to give some hope there. I know sooooooooo many people who think the baby boat has sailed when that is not always the case--I was one of the people who read the Time magazine article that was a reall downer and basically wanted to get pregnant the minute I got married instead of having a fun year or two of travel since I thought all my eggs were gone. I also wanted to bring up some info that my doctor inparted to me--she felt that if you have some good genetics going your way and....you haven't smoked ever, kept weight in reasonable bounds (too skinny also not good), keep the stress low--you can be on the same playing ground as a lot of woman who are younger. Obviously---despite these things going your way, there can be some obstacles just the same as someone in their twenties. I really hope that hearing a good conception story will give hope because I always think that where there is a will, there is a way.

[Anonymous]

Hard for me to say with #1-- took SEVERAL months of having no period after stopping birth control before I finally started ovulating again. After that happened, I was PG in about a month or two. I got PG first month of trying with #2. I was sort of banking on it taking a little longer...but now I'm thrilled with the age difference (20 months).