Anonymous wrote:I was adopted and I really wish my adoptive parents hadn't adopted me. I would have been better off in an orphanage or foster homes. My adoptive dad was a horrible person. I was physically, emotionally and sexually abused by him. My adoptive mother knew what was going on and never did anything about it. As an adult I look back and think wow I really hated my childhood. I really wish things had gone differently. I have been through tons of therapy. I started therapy at 18 when I was able to obtain it on my own since of course my adoptive parents weren't going to provide it for me. Even with 12 years of therapy I have never gotten over what they did to me and probably never will. I am about to be married in July and my fiance and I have often thought that we would love to adopt a child but I am so worried that I won't be a good parent because I have so much baggage thanks to my adoptive parents. I love children and currently work as a nanny and love my child. Every day I think about how much I would love to have a child/children of my own and every day I think about how I don't wan to be the kind of parents my adoptive parents were. Most people think that it's strange that I had such a terrible experience but yet want to adopt a child. Maybe it is strange but it doesn't stop me from wanting to provide the loving and supportive home for a child that I never had. I am hoping to have a bio child as well but I have some female issues that may prevent that dream from coming true but either way I am fairly certain I will adopt regardless of whether I am able to have a bio child or not.
I am so incredibly sorry!! My heart goes out to you. Don't worry...you will be an awesome parent exactly because of what you went through. You will be protective of them to ensure it doesn't happen to them. It's that saying..."What doesn't kill us makes us stronger."
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