No more Honor Cords, Stoles etc at future FCPS Graduations?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is really sad. Our kids work so hard and they deserve recognition. My sons are now adults and loved FCPS. I feel bad for the youth today.

No one stops parents from throwing as big a party as they'd like for their kid, at which the graduate can wear whatever they want.

The whining is astounding.

[Anonymous]

The posters who are claiming kids aren't wearing multiple medals, leis, stoles, and tons of cords are nuts. Just look at FCPS's socials. You can SEE the evidence for yourself.

Obviously, not every kid has excess regalia, but a lot do. It is very clear that there is no regalia police checking what kids are wearing with their gown. FCPS isn't even trying to hide that reality. It is all over their official social media.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, could you please articulate why this is important to you/your kid?

(To be clear, I ask this question as the parent of kids who do very well academically, and their graduation accessories are not something that matters to me, so I'm trying to understand where you're coming from.)

The reasoning the kids were given is to protect the feelings of those who don't have honor cords -- who (whether voluntarily or involuntarily) decided not to join the honor societies or organizations that the honor cords denote. So, some kids are not being allowed to celebrate their hard won success to protect the fragility of others.

This is the same thing as the "participation trophy" in kindergarten soccer - -except now we are talking about adults about to enter the real world.

That’s your take.

My take is they can list honors in the graduation program without families springing for all these miscellaneous cords and stoles that are now way over the top.

If the kids just wear their graduation gowns we’ll also avoid the annual outrage when some students are wearing stoles with political connotations.

That will be the next to go. Larlo's feelings, and his family's feelings, will he hurt because it says nothing next to his name. "It's not fair!!!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The posters who are claiming kids aren't wearing multiple medals, leis, stoles, and tons of cords are nuts. Just look at FCPS's socials. You can SEE the evidence for yourself.

Obviously, not every kid has excess regalia, but a lot do. It is very clear that there is no regalia police checking what kids are wearing with their gown. FCPS isn't even trying to hide that reality. It is all over their official social media.

The latest Facebook grad post for Lewis high school has one kid wearing a stole with his own face on it, and another with a necklace made of origami cash flowers. You can wear anything (and kids do!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, could you please articulate why this is important to you/your kid?

(To be clear, I ask this question as the parent of kids who do very well academically, and their graduation accessories are not something that matters to me, so I'm trying to understand where you're coming from.)

The reasoning the kids were given is to protect the feelings of those who don't have honor cords -- who (whether voluntarily or involuntarily) decided not to join the honor societies or organizations that the honor cords denote. So, some kids are not being allowed to celebrate their hard won success to protect the fragility of others.

This is the same thing as the "participation trophy" in kindergarten soccer - -except now we are talking about adults about to enter the real world.

That’s your take.

My take is they can list honors in the graduation program without families springing for all these miscellaneous cords and stoles that are now way over the top.

If the kids just wear their graduation gowns we’ll also avoid the annual outrage when some students are wearing stoles with political connotations.

That will be the next to go. Larlo's feelings, and his family's feelings, will he hurt because it says nothing next to his name. "It's not fair!!!"

To bad Larlo was vaping in the bathrooms, having unprotected sex with several different girls and guys, and going to parties he wasn’t invited to because he’s a lowlife sack of crap with alcohol, maybe he would have been better off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The posters who are claiming kids aren't wearing multiple medals, leis, stoles, and tons of cords are nuts. Just look at FCPS's socials. You can SEE the evidence for yourself.

Obviously, not every kid has excess regalia, but a lot do. It is very clear that there is no regalia police checking what kids are wearing with their gown. FCPS isn't even trying to hide that reality. It is all over their official social media.

The latest Facebook grad post for Lewis high school has one kid wearing a stole with his own face on it, and another with a necklace made of origami cash flowers. You can wear anything (and kids do!)

Exactly! Which is why it is ridiculous that there were posters here who argued that the people who said no one checks the medals and cords (and obviously the stoles and necklaces) were "trolls" or that they must not live in Fairfax County. There is photographic evidence that anything goes.

[Anonymous]

FCPS graduation ceremony that I recently attended had a teacher checking what kids were wearing when they got in line for the stage. Seemed to be checking for anything controversial, not ensuring only official cords. Some kids wore some display of heritage. About half the kids wore nothing.

My kid was very proud of each one she wore, and definitely knew what they were and how she earned them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FCPS graduation ceremony that I recently attended had a teacher checking what kids were wearing when they got in line for the stage. Seemed to be checking for anything controversial, not ensuring only official cords. Some kids wore some display of heritage. About half the kids wore nothing.

My kid was very proud of each one she wore, and definitely knew what they were and how she earned them.

When I had that role last year I was supposed to be making sure stoles and cords were even and not stuck in hair, I would never have removed something for a kid. The goal is just making sure they don't look disheveled in the photos! Presumably anything they are wearing has been approved by parents, so if that's how they want to remember the day then we let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, could you please articulate why this is important to you/your kid?

(To be clear, I ask this question as the parent of kids who do very well academically, and their graduation accessories are not something that matters to me, so I'm trying to understand where you're coming from.)

The reasoning the kids were given is to protect the feelings of those who don't have honor cords -- who (whether voluntarily or involuntarily) decided not to join the honor societies or organizations that the honor cords denote. So, some kids are not being allowed to celebrate their hard won success to protect the fragility of others.

This is the same thing as the "participation trophy" in kindergarten soccer - -except now we are talking about adults about to enter the real world.

That’s your take.

My take is they can list honors in the graduation program without families springing for all these miscellaneous cords and stoles that are now way over the top.

If the kids just wear their graduation gowns we’ll also avoid the annual outrage when some students are wearing stoles with political connotations.

That will be the next to go. Larlo's feelings, and his family's feelings, will he hurt because it says nothing next to his name. "It's not fair!!!"

You are very astute at predicting FCPS’ next insane, equity-driven move.

The depth of FCPS’ pursuit of equity craziness at any cost, knows no bounds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FCPS graduation ceremony that I recently attended had a teacher checking what kids were wearing when they got in line for the stage. Seemed to be checking for anything controversial, not ensuring only official cords. Some kids wore some display of heritage. About half the kids wore nothing.

My kid was very proud of each one she wore, and definitely knew what they were and how she earned them.

When I had that role last year I was supposed to be making sure stoles and cords were even and not stuck in hair, I would never have removed something for a kid. The goal is just making sure they don't look disheveled in the photos! Presumably anything they are wearing has been approved by parents, so if that's how they want to remember the day then we let it go.

This is probably what most schools do. It is extremely obvious tht no one is checking whether kids have only the "approved" cords, stoles, and medals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone else's child come home and reported this update for all FCPS graduations next year?

I'm told that since we don't want to make some kids feel bad - no graduates will be allowed to wear honor cords showing their achievements starting with next year's graduations.

Is this what we've come to? Protecting the fragile feelings of some kids who has chosen to concentrate their achievements elsewhere (ie, could be community, sports) or just decided academic achievement wasn't a focus for them. And now no graduates are allowed to celebrate academic achievements.

So disappointed, FCPS.
Want to know if others have heard this as well.

My senior this year was told by staff that this was in the works they were worried it was going to happen this year-but it didn't they had their cords and their NHS stole. I hope these are all just rumors my kids were so happy to have earned these and wore them proudly. Also there is one for athletes and community service hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This wouldn’t bother me at all. Things have gotten to the point where no one knows what many of the cords mean anyway.

Have at it, ridiculous OP.

This

[Anonymous]

OP is such a snowflake.

Wear your cords and stoles all around town and on your socials. It's a free country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is really sad. Our kids work so hard and they deserve recognition. My sons are now adults and loved FCPS. I feel bad for the youth today.

Grad

Graduation recognizes the hard work of all the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone else's child come home and reported this update for all FCPS graduations next year?

I'm told that since we don't want to make some kids feel bad - no graduates will be allowed to wear honor cords showing their achievements starting with next year's graduations.

Is this what we've come to? Protecting the fragile feelings of some kids who has chosen to concentrate their achievements elsewhere (ie, could be community, sports) or just decided academic achievement wasn't a focus for them. And now no graduates are allowed to celebrate academic achievements.

So disappointed, FCPS.
Want to know if others have heard this as well.

My senior this year was told by staff that this was in the works they were worried it was going to happen this year-but it didn't they had their cords and their NHS stole. I hope these are all just rumors my kids were so happy to have earned these and wore them proudly. Also there is one for athletes and community service hours.

Major "peaked in highschool energy". Baby needs a trophy for every little thing?