But maybe it was needed considering some people oddly seem to hold a higher standard for those who are “church people” than for those who aren’t. I can assure you God makes it very clear in scripture that there is no such distinction and we are all sinners who are deserving of punishment. That is called Justice. And we worship a just God who is also so loving that He sent His only son to take the punishment for all of us so that we can be forgiven…..pardoned….undeservingly. Maybe YOU already knew that, OP. And in that case, of course you didn’t “need” to read that message—so you are welcome to keep scrolling. ![]() |
This. It works for so many situations. If you don’t want people to find out that you’re a miserable POS, don’t be one. It is not my job to cover for someone who is actively hurting me and others. |
The AP was integral to blowing up my life…and she knowingly did it for years. Hers doesn’t get a free pass. No way in hell. |
+1 it all starts with the cheaters. There would be zero issues with outsiders if they did not start banging others. |
Yeah. I’ll care about her kids and family in the same about she cares about mine: none. |
And maybe if someone out them—it will put an end to it so they don’t go on to hurt yet another wife/mother/husband/kids. The AP I outed was on her fourth affair, left a trail of broken families because she wasn’t caught or stopped and her husband didn’t know about the first 3. |
Good riddance to him! |
Which are the "good people" here? and Who is blowing up their life? The innocent wronged spouse is in any way responsible for what happens when a married person chooses to cheat. Don't want to blow up your life? Don't cheat. Seems pretty easy! |
Does she have kids? |
There is no such thing as a "good person" or a "bad person", much to the chagrin of jilted people. I'm sorry. Life is messy and awful. But don't hurt kids unnecessarily. |
How is honesty hurting kids unnecessarily? Telling the spouse has nothing to do with children. It has to do with another adult. What they do with that knowledge is their own business. |
The cheater is hurting the children. The cheater is doing breaking-up-family behaviors. Don't want to hurt your children? Don't cheat. |
The innocent spouse is innocent until they take an action of their own. Then they own a piece of the outcome. To be clear there are lots of outcomes OP might prefer to avoid, not just damage to actually innocent children. |
Telling someone their spouse is cheating does not have any impact on children. What the spouse chooses to do with that information is their choice. Take some responsibility for your own actions and stop blaming two innocent spouses sharing their hurt with each other. |
The reason we hold a higher standard for church people is because they’re always shouting ant everyone how much moral superiority they have over non believers. It’s really as simple as that and if you missed that this is an undeniable trend for churchgoers, well. Idk what to tell you. |