MIL telling DD "i want you to come live with me"

[Anonymous]

just steamed up about this:

on skype, MIl told our 3 year old dd "you should come live here with me. i'll take you to school every day and swimming every day and the zoo every weekend. it will be So great to love with me."

dd looked confused and said "where's the door?"

Mil went on like this a bit more - i held my tongue as i have told her several times before not to say things like that to DD

and finally DH said "mom, you're confusing her. stop"

so irritating. considering i have specifically told her why its a bad idea to talk about dd moving away from parents and go live with GP and making all sorts of promises that can't be kept, i am pretty sure she said all that to piss ME off.

haven't brought it up with DH since then. don't really want to get in a discussion about his mother's repeated crazy, so i'm bringing it up here to vent.

[Anonymous]

My mom says that to my children all the time! I just tell them that Grandma is joking.

[Anonymous]

Eh, my MIL does this all the time. It's one of the 1,000 things she says that I've learned to ignore. Just laugh, OP, no one is taking your kids. MILs say dumb things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:just steamed up about this:

on skype, MIl told our 3 year old dd "you should come live here with me. i'll take you to school every day and swimming every day and the zoo every weekend. it will be So great to love with me."

dd looked confused and said "where's the door?"

Mil went on like this a bit more - i held my tongue as i have told her several times before not to say things like that to DD

and finally DH said "mom, you're confusing her. stop"

so irritating. considering i have specifically told her why its a bad idea to talk about dd moving away from parents and go live with GP and making all sorts of promises that can't be kept, i am pretty sure she said all that to piss ME off.

haven't brought it up with DH since then. don't really want to get in a discussion about his mother's repeated crazy, so i'm bringing it up here to vent.

Unclench. This is just another version of "I could eat you with a spoon."

[Anonymous]

Kids learn really early that grandparents are quirky and MIL's will always irritate the sh$t out of you for things that seem like no big deal when other people do them. This is life.

[Anonymous]

I'd wait to the next DD has a meltdown when MIL is around, then say, "She can live with you now."

Or wait til DD gets the vomiting stomach bug then invite MIL over for a play date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids learn really early that grandparents are quirky and MIL's will always irritate the sh$t out of you for things that seem like no big deal when other people do them. This is life.

So, so, true! My MIL lives with us. My 6 year old son woke up and went into her room the other night at 3AM and she let him play video games on her ipad for over an hour and laughed about it the next day! In the meantime, he's been a crazy sleep deprived mess all week. Did I mention IT WAS A SCHOOL NIGHT and my husband is out of town!!!

[Anonymous]

"Silly grandma, she knows the best place for you is really with Mommy and Daddy. Well, gotta go!"

And let DH do all the skyping--maybe pop in to say hi, but it is harder to get irritated if you're not in on the conversations.

[Anonymous]

Wow, OP. Why don't you report her to the FBI and the local police as a potential kidnapper? And get a restraining order. Then you can get your lawyer to draw up a cease and desist order.

You really, really, need to unwind. You are so tightly wound you are in danger of springing off the face of the earth right into the stratosphere.

[Anonymous]

My MIL says the same thing, but it's shorter "will you come live with me? I just love you so much" and DD (4) will laugh. But I can see why her going on and on about details like going to school and whatnot is a bit strange. But in this case, I really would laugh it off and like a PP said say "silly grandma!"

[Anonymous]

We use "silly grandma" and "silly grandpa" a lot! my parents say off the wall things all the time. The kids now will say "silly grandpa" themselves!

[Anonymous]

I see this as being affectionate, joking around, and pretty much harmless.

[Anonymous]

whats wrong with "eat you with a spoon?" it's chesey, okay, but do your kids take it literally or something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:just steamed up about this:

on skype, MIl told our 3 year old dd "you should come live here with me. i'll take you to school every day and swimming every day and the zoo every weekend. it will be So great to love with me."

dd looked confused and said "where's the door?"

Mil went on like this a bit more - i held my tongue as i have told her several times before not to say things like that to DD

and finally DH said "mom, you're confusing her. stop"

so irritating. considering i have specifically told her why its a bad idea to talk about dd moving away from parents and go live with GP and making all sorts of promises that can't be kept, i am pretty sure she said all that to piss ME off.

haven't brought it up with DH since then. don't really want to get in a discussion about his mother's repeated crazy, so i'm bringing it up here to vent.

Did she really say this?

[Anonymous]

I don't know if this is just family lore, but in my husband's family a few generations back, one older relative was joking that he was going to take a little girl home with him, and that girl's brother got a hunting rifle and shot him dead. That story is my gift to you, OP, to share with your MIL.