Are you a good cheerleader for your spouse? What if nothing works?

[Anonymous]

Husband is so run down. I try so hard to be a great cheerleader for him. His company is not doing well and I am afraid he will lose his job in the next year. We have both went down the road before of losing our jobs andwe're tired; reinventing yourself over and over is so draining. I have been on his case to network part of it is that he needs to be reminded but the other reason is that I am panickiing about going through this again. He doesn't want to see a counselor or take meds. I don't know what to do.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I am a good cheerleader for him. He has gone through some very rough patches at work including a brutal back stabbing that hurt him deeply on a professional and personal level. I'm going to take full credit for helping him out of some dark places. One thing I will say is that I'm great at motivating people and giving people confidence. My DH and I are a good team and both make each other better personally and professionally.

I always let him know that there is always an out. I do work FT myself and when things get really rough, I alway let him know that I support him 100% and if he wants to straight out quit or take a pay cut for a new and less stressful job that I am 100% behind him, even if it means him working at Home Depot.. Sure it would be tough, but NOTHING is worth your health and happiness. It feels good when things are rough to not feel trapped and what I try to do is show him that he is not forced into his current job and that he is in charge of his life, not his employer. We are not made of money and him quitting would be seriously hard, but what would be harder is being a widow and single mother because my husband that dies of a heart attack. Again, NOTHING is worth your health and a stressful job can tear you up from the inside out.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he needs a break? Why not get his buddies to plan a long weekend trip away doing something fun (camping, fishing, golfing etc)? It may help him feel less stressed.

[Anonymous]

What man doesn't like seeing his wife prance around in a short skirt?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I am a good cheerleader for him. He has gone through some very rough patches at work including a brutal back stabbing that hurt him deeply on a professional and personal level. I'm going to take full credit for helping him out of some dark places. One thing I will say is that I'm great at motivating people and giving people confidence. My DH and I are a good team and both make each other better personally and professionally.

I always let him know that there is always an out. I do work FT myself and when things get really rough, I alway let him know that I support him 100% and if he wants to straight out quit or take a pay cut for a new and less stressful job that I am 100% behind him, even if it means him working at Home Depot.. Sure it would be tough, but NOTHING is worth your health and happiness. It feels good when things are rough to not feel trapped and what I try to do is show him that he is not forced into his current job and that he is in charge of his life, not his employer. We are not made of money and him quitting would be seriously hard, but what would be harder is being a widow and single mother because my husband that dies of a heart attack. Again, NOTHING is worth your health and a stressful job can tear you up from the inside out.

You are a good woman.

Signed,

A Man

[Anonymous]

Yes, I am his cheerleader with everything except I am not so supportive when his family lashes out at him because he refuses to stand up for himself and nothing I said in support helps.

I agree with encouraging him to do some fun things with buddies. Also find ways to exercise together like hiking, playing tennis, etc since those endorphins and the outdoors can help a bit with the depressions. Can you interest him in sex? That also can be a moodlifter of course.

Keep on cheering him on even if it doesn't seem to be helping. He is listening. Best wishes to you both!!!You are a good spouse!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I am a good cheerleader for him. He has gone through some very rough patches at work including a brutal back stabbing that hurt him deeply on a professional and personal level. I'm going to take full credit for helping him out of some dark places. One thing I will say is that I'm great at motivating people and giving people confidence. My DH and I are a good team and both make each other better personally and professionally.

I always let him know that there is always an out. I do work FT myself and when things get really rough, I alway let him know that I support him 100% and if he wants to straight out quit or take a pay cut for a new and less stressful job that I am 100% behind him, even if it means him working at Home Depot.. Sure it would be tough, but NOTHING is worth your health and happiness. It feels good when things are rough to not feel trapped and what I try to do is show him that he is not forced into his current job and that he is in charge of his life, not his employer. We are not made of money and him quitting would be seriously hard, but what would be harder is being a widow and single mother because my husband that dies of a heart attack. Again, NOTHING is worth your health and a stressful job can tear you up from the inside out.

You are a good woman.

Signed,

A Man

Hey-thanks!
It is horrible to be miserable at a job. It tore me up to see my DH go through his rough patch. Stress can really wear someone's health down in a very bad way. As a partner in life it is important to take turns carrying each other in those times, be it financially or emotionally.

[Anonymous]

Agree totally with 8:51. My DH once told me that without the kids and me, he would have committed suicide. That broke my heart.

NOTHING is worth being that miserable! NO JOB is worth it. Luckily, my DH is in a good place now with his job, but when he was in the rough patch, I would have supported whatever he wanted to do to get back on the right path.

I think your DH need sot see that there are alternatives. That he's not stuck.

[Anonymous]

Op here, We're finally going on vacation to get a way from it all. Time away to regroup will benefit all of us in our household, we've had a lot of rough spots to include health besides work issues but I am staying positive and will continue to cheer DH.

[Anonymous]

^Enjoy!