One of the most obnoxious articles I have read in a while.

[Anonymous]

http://ideas.time.com/2012/02/24/the-lacrosse-murder-why-stereotyping-jocks-doesnt-keep-girls-safe/

[Anonymous]

What is so obnoxious? I think she left a lot out, like the Whitman 5. In that case, what did the parents say, " how could I have made him give up football, it is all he looks forward to" and the press coverage of those kids who robbed people: " they all come from NICE families. yeah, right. Time to wake up; nice kids don't curse out police officers. Nice familes don't raise kids who engage in hold ups. That is pathology. Ditto with that Dutch diplomats son in Aruba who killed a second time before he was finally stopped by someone who didn't bat an eyelash at who his father was.

The problem starts with the air of entitlement that the parents exhibit for their kids. It seeps right into their character. Lacrosse is not to blame. I agree with the author in that to scapegoat a sport or pigeon hole a group is a cop out. If a kid grows up to hurt someone else , there is only one place to look: the parents.

[Anonymous]

Seemed thoughtful to me.

[Anonymous]

The story definitely indicts Landon for its past behavior while acknowledging the schools effort to take a deep long look at its values.

[Anonymous]

Parents, parents, parents. The most important influence on your child is YOU. Act like an ass, your child will likely be an ass. Act like a doormat, you child will likely be a bully and expect the world to give in to his/her every desire. Be an involved, decent, strong parent, you might just have a chance to raise a decent person.

[Anonymous]

Thoughtful article, I agree.

[Anonymous]

I like it, especially the balanced perspective on looking at individuals instead of thinking you're safe if you date outside a certain type.

[Anonymous]

She made some good points, but I agree with OP. There is a lot of inflammatory, gratuitous crap in here. Not surprising from this author. She has been publishing blather for a decade and every time I see her name all I think about is her wanting the government to pay for her childcare so she can go to lunch and go shopping.

[Anonymous]

I had to check to make sure I was not reading the Onion.

[Anonymous]

I think she made some valid points but I feel bad for her daughter. At the end of the day, the biggest influence a kid has, is his / her parents. NOT THE SCHOOL.

I don't think Lacrosse has anything to do with it

What about the Whitman kids who tried burning their art wing down or the whitman football players who robbed a smoothie king a few years ago at gun point. I believe a st. Johns alum also is serving time in after conspiracy to kill our current president.

[Anonymous]

Really? I thought it was insightful. What about it made you think it was satire? This is an honest question.

[Anonymous]

You may not think lacrosse had anything to do with it, but there has been quite a discussion lately within the world of lacrosse, among people who love the sport, about the excesses of the lacrosse culture. For example, college lacrosse has the highest drinking rate of any sport. For a long time people within lacrosse world excused a lot of bad behavior but there has been a realization lately that there is something going on that should be confronted and changed. In other words, a mature response.

I was a high school and college lacrosse player and I would never say that lacrosse has nothing to do with it. It isn't the whole story, by any means. But it is part of the story.

As for Judith Warner going to lunch and shopping, every time I've seen her she's been typing away on her laptop. In other words, working.

[Anonymous]

What bothers me about this article is how it pretends to discourage stereotyping (at least for self-protective purposes) yet makes somehow manages to work in a lot of obnoxious generalizations about Landon boys & churns up old incidents. A better article (writer) wouldn't choose such an easy, tired target but spend more than a sentence about how this crosses through all socio-economic, political & racial groups, even to the "enlightened" & supposedly less privileged and status-conscious world Warner & her daughter inhabit.

[Anonymous]

Good heavens. At what school are "Landon boys a big topic of conversation"?

[Anonymous]

The problem starts with the air of entitlement that the parents exhibit in front of their kids. THAT, and giving none of their time to their kids in which they are really paying attention. ( hint, texting at the diner table is probably NOT a good habit)