Shaking the funny friend/funny person label - "You're the person I call for a laugh"

[Anonymous]

Anyone been there? Ever feel like people want to be around you just to hear you say something funny? It seems like this type of expectation keeps me from having the type of deep friendships that I would like to have.

[Anonymous]

Interesting... With me it's the opposite. They look for me when they need a laugh and end up asking for advice and opening up about deep issues...

[Anonymous]

I have one friend from high school (we've known each other since 1984... OMG). You would think by now she would know ALL OF ME, but whenever I'm in a bad mood and not my funny, smiling self she gets peeved b/c I'm the one who's always supposed to cheer her up. I love her but it's good that we only see each other about six times a year.

[Anonymous]

yep. and I hate it. Recently, I was invited to a moms night out. I didn't know many people, but knew the host and wanted to get to know the other moms. I arrived late and there weren't any seats left at the main table. The host walks me to a smaller table of moms and introduces me by saying "Hi everyone, this is XX, she is entertaining. I am always laughing around her"

I felt horrible. I felt like I was invited to be the entertainment and I needed to put on a show for these moms I didn't know.

Needless to say, I haven't been back to any of these and don't plan on returning. Let them find their own entertainment (or at least pay me to perform).

[Anonymous]

I'm the funny friend and I'm the person who people confide in which is a odd combination. People that I dont know well tell me secrets after meeting me once or twice. My husband/family/friends tell me I'm the funniest person they know. But I dont set out to be funny. I'm just being myself but I do feel like it keeps people from really getting to know me.

[Anonymous]

Just look at them and do your John Pesci voice from GoodFellas and say "What do you mean I'm funny? Funny how? What the F*ck is so funny about me?:

[Anonymous]

LOL; what am interesting topic! I'm like 14:46. Folks look to me for laughs, but then they also turn around and confide in me/seek advice.

re: being the funny person. On the one hand, I say that I don't like having to "perform", but on the other, it's so darn natural. I can't help it! I'm truly not trying to be funny and I'm not working at it....it just happens. Then I complain about being expected to be funny.

[Anonymous]

Just look at them and do your John Pesci voice from GoodFellas and say "What do you mean I'm funny? Funny how? What the F*ck is so funny about me?:

You took teh words right out of my head! I was totally going to post this too! "What you think I'm Funny? I make you laugh or somthin'? I'm here to amuse you?" LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yep. and I hate it. Recently, I was invited to a moms night out. I didn't know many people, but knew the host and wanted to get to know the other moms. I arrived late and there weren't any seats left at the main table. The host walks me to a smaller table of moms and introduces me by saying "Hi everyone, this is XX, she is entertaining. I am always laughing around her"

I felt horrible. I felt like I was invited to be the entertainment and I needed to put on a show for these moms I didn't know.

Needless to say, I haven't been back to any of these and don't plan on returning. Let them find their own entertainment (or at least pay me to perform).

not trying to be snarky but this seems like a compliment to me. she COULD have said nothing positive about you, or just let you sit down by yourself without an introduction. i'm often offended by things people say or do (or don't say/do), but i can't understand getting upset about someone giving you a compliment and thinking you are entertaining/funny. can you help me understand why it bothered you so much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just look at them and do your John Pesci voice from GoodFellas and say "What do you mean I'm funny? Funny how? What the F*ck is so funny about me?:

Op here - Ha! Good times!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yep. and I hate it. Recently, I was invited to a moms night out. I didn't know many people, but knew the host and wanted to get to know the other moms. I arrived late and there weren't any seats left at the main table. The host walks me to a smaller table of moms and introduces me by saying "Hi everyone, this is XX, she is entertaining. I am always laughing around her"

I felt horrible. I felt like I was invited to be the entertainment and I needed to put on a show for these moms I didn't know.

Needless to say, I haven't been back to any of these and don't plan on returning. Let them find their own entertainment (or at least pay me to perform).

not trying to be snarky but this seems like a compliment to me. she COULD have said nothing positive about you, or just let you sit down by yourself without an introduction. i'm often offended by things people say or do (or don't say/do), but i can't understand getting upset about someone giving you a compliment and thinking you are entertaining/funny. can you help me understand why it bothered you so much?

Not PP but I am going to say PP probably felt as if she was expected to be "on". Kind of as if she was expected to entertain the table.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yep. and I hate it. Recently, I was invited to a moms night out. I didn't know many people, but knew the host and wanted to get to know the other moms. I arrived late and there weren't any seats left at the main table. The host walks me to a smaller table of moms and introduces me by saying "Hi everyone, this is XX, she is entertaining. I am always laughing around her"

I felt horrible. I felt like I was invited to be the entertainment and I needed to put on a show for these moms I didn't know.

Needless to say, I haven't been back to any of these and don't plan on returning. Let them find their own entertainment (or at least pay me to perform).

not trying to be snarky but this seems like a compliment to me. she COULD have said nothing positive about you, or just let you sit down by yourself without an introduction. i'm often offended by things people say or do (or don't say/do), but i can't understand getting upset about someone giving you a compliment and thinking you are entertaining/funny. can you help me understand why it bothered you so much?

Not PP but I am going to say PP probably felt as if she was expected to be "on". Kind of as if she was expected to entertain the table.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yep. and I hate it. Recently, I was invited to a moms night out. I didn't know many people, but knew the host and wanted to get to know the other moms. I arrived late and there weren't any seats left at the main table. The host walks me to a smaller table of moms and introduces me by saying "Hi everyone, this is XX, she is entertaining. I am always laughing around her"

I felt horrible. I felt like I was invited to be the entertainment and I needed to put on a show for these moms I didn't know.

Needless to say, I haven't been back to any of these and don't plan on returning. Let them find their own entertainment (or at least pay me to perform).

not trying to be snarky but this seems like a compliment to me. she COULD have said nothing positive about you, or just let you sit down by yourself without an introduction. i'm often offended by things people say or do (or don't say/do), but i can't understand getting upset about someone giving you a compliment and thinking you are entertaining/funny. can you help me understand why it bothered you so much?

Not PP but I am going to say PP probably felt as if she was expected to be "on". Kind of as if she was expected to entertain the table.

This is the pp you quoted and yes, you are exactly right. I felt like I was expected to be "on" and entertain a group of people I just met. I suppose she could have left me alone and let me fend for myself (let me sit down by myself without an introduction) - but if she did that, I probably would have just turned around and left without joining the group at all. I think it upset me more because I didn't know anyone and the way in which she introduced me was like a "look everyone, she's entertaining...enjoy!" It also made me realize that she invites me or gets together with me so I could "entertain" her. That's another reason why it bothered me so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yep. and I hate it. Recently, I was invited to a moms night out. I didn't know many people, but knew the host and wanted to get to know the other moms. I arrived late and there weren't any seats left at the main table. The host walks me to a smaller table of moms and introduces me by saying "Hi everyone, this is XX, she is entertaining. I am always laughing around her"

I felt horrible. I felt like I was invited to be the entertainment and I needed to put on a show for these moms I didn't know.

Needless to say, I haven't been back to any of these and don't plan on returning. Let them find their own entertainment (or at least pay me to perform).

not trying to be snarky but this seems like a compliment to me. she COULD have said nothing positive about you, or just let you sit down by yourself without an introduction. i'm often offended by things people say or do (or don't say/do), but i can't understand getting upset about someone giving you a compliment and thinking you are entertaining/funny. can you help me understand why it bothered you so much?

Not PP but I am going to say PP probably felt as if she was expected to be "on". Kind of as if she was expected to entertain the table.

This is the pp you quoted and yes, you are exactly right. I felt like I was expected to be "on" and entertain a group of people I just met. I suppose she could have left me alone and let me fend for myself (let me sit down by myself without an introduction) - but if she did that, I probably would have just turned around and left without joining the group at all. I think it upset me more because I didn't know anyone and the way in which she introduced me was like a "look everyone, she's entertaining...enjoy!" It also made me realize that she invites me or gets together with me so I could "entertain" her. That's another reason why it bothered me so much.

Op here, I have a friend who does this as well. I limit our interaction because she always tries to auction me off to the highest bidder. "Attention everyone, Sharon's here! Say something funny Sharon, c'mon say something funny!"