Where are my 90s era Harvard classmates sending their kids?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another Ivy for hockey.

Me again. Specifically, 3 went to other Ivies for sports (hockey and swimming) and 2 went to D3 schools for sports.

Harvard has the best hockey program among the ivies. A lot of D3 hockey teams are better than some of the Ivy League hockey teams.

No, Cornell has the best Ivy hockey. From Wiki.... Cornell has won the ECAC Championship a record 14 times and since the formal creation of the Ivy League athletic conference in 1956 has won the Ivy League title a record 27 times (23 outright, four tied),[1] three more than Harvard's 24 (20 outright, four tied).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another Ivy for hockey.

Me again. Specifically, 3 went to other Ivies for sports (hockey and swimming) and 2 went to D3 schools for sports.

Harvard has the best hockey program among the ivies. A lot of D3 hockey teams are better than some of the Ivy League hockey teams.

No, Cornell has the best Ivy hockey. From Wiki.... Cornell has won the ECAC Championship a record 14 times and since the formal creation of the Ivy League athletic conference in 1956 has won the Ivy League title a record 27 times (23 outright, four tied),[1] three more than Harvard's 24 (20 outright, four tied).

True. Cornell was ranked #1 nationally when Covid hit. Also won ECAC last year and finished 2d in ECAC this year. Harvard finished 6th.

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Yalie here. My kids are both at T15 SLACs.

[Anonymous]

UChicago grad here. 1 kid at Williams, another at Dartmouth, and the last at UChicago. Maybe there’s a hereditary desire for a liberal arts esque education.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another Ivy for hockey.

Me again. Specifically, 3 went to other Ivies for sports (hockey and swimming) and 2 went to D3 schools for sports.

Harvard has the best hockey program among the ivies. A lot of D3 hockey teams are better than some of the Ivy League hockey teams.

Cornell and Dartmouth are ranked higher than Harvard.

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Anonymous wrote:a lot of people who themselves went to a very elite college dont always think its incredibly important or always worth it to go to one. they may have developed some stress, anxiety, or imposter syndrome while there. they may encourage their kids to challenge themselves while still enjoying the high school experience. they may understand better than most that there are many paths to success and college admissions is no golden ticket. its complicated.

very much agree. went to harvard undergrad and then another Ivy for grad school. I enjoyed my time at both but don’t think Ivy “pedigree” is that much better than a lot of other good schools when looking at the outcomes of high school friends who did not go to such elite undergrads. (I went to a magnet feeder school
that sent >10 kids to Harvard every year in the 90s) The effort required to get into Harvard nowadays is not worth it and I believe leads to burnout and emotional damage/anxiety for a lot of kids chasing a dream that in the end is not “all that”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:a lot of people who themselves went to a very elite college dont always think its incredibly important or always worth it to go to one. they may have developed some stress, anxiety, or imposter syndrome while there. they may encourage their kids to challenge themselves while still enjoying the high school experience. they may understand better than most that there are many paths to success and college admissions is no golden ticket. its complicated.

very much agree. went to harvard undergrad and then another Ivy for grad school. I enjoyed my time at both but don’t think Ivy “pedigree” is that much better than a lot of other good schools when looking at the outcomes of high school friends who did not go to such elite undergrads. (I went to a magnet feeder school
that sent >10 kids to Harvard every year in the 90s) The effort required to get into Harvard nowadays is not worth it and I believe leads to burnout and emotional damage/anxiety for a lot of kids chasing a dream that in the end is not “all that”

+1

I can't stand the games and one-year non profits and manufactured passion projects. It's a horrible, awful message to our children. Also, the price tag now is prohibitive. My college kid was a super high stat HS student with impressive leadership and some niche skills. He is very happy at UVA. Current HS junior will not apply to any ivies and will hopefully land at UVA as well. Maybe Harvard for grad school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:a lot of people who themselves went to a very elite college dont always think its incredibly important or always worth it to go to one. they may have developed some stress, anxiety, or imposter syndrome while there. they may encourage their kids to challenge themselves while still enjoying the high school experience. they may understand better than most that there are many paths to success and college admissions is no golden ticket. its complicated.

very much agree. went to harvard undergrad and then another Ivy for grad school. I enjoyed my time at both but don’t think Ivy “pedigree” is that much better than a lot of other good schools when looking at the outcomes of high school friends who did not go to such elite undergrads. (I went to a magnet feeder school
that sent >10 kids to Harvard every year in the 90s) The effort required to get into Harvard nowadays is not worth it and I believe leads to burnout and emotional damage/anxiety for a lot of kids chasing a dream that in the end is not “all that”

+1

I can't stand the games and one-year non profits and manufactured passion projects. It's a horrible, awful message to our children. Also, the price tag now is prohibitive. My college kid was a super high stat HS student with impressive leadership and some niche skills. He is very happy at UVA. Current HS junior will not apply to any ivies and will hopefully land at UVA as well. Maybe Harvard for grad school?

Why do they have to be manufactured? Do your kids not have any strong interests they like to pursue?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:a lot of people who themselves went to a very elite college dont always think its incredibly important or always worth it to go to one. they may have developed some stress, anxiety, or imposter syndrome while there. they may encourage their kids to challenge themselves while still enjoying the high school experience. they may understand better than most that there are many paths to success and college admissions is no golden ticket. its complicated.

very much agree. went to harvard undergrad and then another Ivy for grad school. I enjoyed my time at both but don’t think Ivy “pedigree” is that much better than a lot of other good schools when looking at the outcomes of high school friends who did not go to such elite undergrads. (I went to a magnet feeder school
that sent >10 kids to Harvard every year in the 90s) The effort required to get into Harvard nowadays is not worth it and I believe leads to burnout and emotional damage/anxiety for a lot of kids chasing a dream that in the end is not “all that”

+1

I can't stand the games and one-year non profits and manufactured passion projects. It's a horrible, awful message to our children. Also, the price tag now is prohibitive. My college kid was a super high stat HS student with impressive leadership and some niche skills. He is very happy at UVA. Current HS junior will not apply to any ivies and will hopefully land at UVA as well. Maybe Harvard for grad school?

Why do they have to be manufactured? Do your kids not have any strong interests they like to pursue?

It’s the typical “if my kid can’t go the experience is terrible and everyone who got in is inauthentic and miserable” coping strategy