How often do you talk to your girlfriends?

[Anonymous]

I've become more moodier as I've gotten older coupled with menopause, I really don't feel like calling people. Not into emailing, texting either. I hope it's a phase... I was never a phone person in the first place. I am lucky to have the friends that I have, I don't talk to anyone every week.

[Anonymous]

Oh wow, I can really relate.
For me, I have lost patience with boring people. I am planning a luncheon and want it to fun and interesting. That eliminates 99% of the people I know in northern VA.
Our kids have moved on and my husband and I are thinking of moving out of the area. We just have to agree on where we want to go. We have made trips to different areas and have concluded we want to go north and live in a condo, enabling us to travel.
OP, you sound like you may be getting a bit depressed. You are lucky you have friends you enjoy, at times.
I have never made that great girlfriend since we have lived here.
It is nice to start fantasize about what the next phase of life looks like for you. It is hard to be positive with the mood swings of menopause, but that will get better.

[Anonymous]

I talk or email or text a friend about once or twice a week, covering about 4 to 6 people. So, on average I communicate with a given person one to two times per month, maybe? I get together with them even less frequently, sometimes going months between seeing a specific person. I would like it to be more, but I feel like I make more effort than others, and it wears me out trying to make it work. And then there are those I'm not so sure I want to see anyway...

[Anonymous]

Whenever my wife leaves me alone for an hour or two....

[Anonymous]

PP, your not fooling anyone. Middle age man + Viagra = a joke. Are you also short and drive a corvette?

[Anonymous]

I have found going to physical therapy once a week to be the best method of getting in girl time. I know it sounds ridiculous, but it really has been impossible to get in good girl time in the DC area, and my husband can't leave because of his job. But needing physical therapy has given me this added benefit -- I'm not certain whether the physical or emotional benefits have been more valued!

[Anonymous]

Ok, I don't feel like I'm so old that the only time I get girlfriend time is at "PT"--how does that even work? Were you both in car accidents? Did you both fall down the stairs and have life changing injuries? Not typical to get PT just cause you're near or over 50. Are you kidding?! Just go out to have lunch with your girlfriends. It's so easy. Or if they live in your hood, go for a walk with them FOR EXERCISE. That's what I do, anyway.

[Anonymous]

I have one girlfriend that I talk to once or twice a week. All other friends, less frequently. We're all really busy with teenagers and work.

[Anonymous]

almost daily

if not by phone, then by text or email

have friends in Italy and around the country

[Anonymous]

A few friends I talk to every week usually, a few others every month or so and others less frequently. Email. Less than I used to but still very much in touch.

[Anonymous]

Once a month I email my best friend. I email other friends every six months or so, depending. I don't text, and I hate talking on the phone. I feel isolated and alone, but that's because I moved here fairly recently, and have not made the type of friends I'd hang out with periodically. I do work in my kids' schools, so I see some people regularly, but no, we don't go out to movies, or for coffee or anything. It's just work and we go our separate ways. I miss the old days when I hung out with my friends. It's been years since I made a new friend, a real friend. I have lots of acquaintances, but no real friends here.