I think I need to back out of my maid-of-honor gig

[Anonymous]

I lost my job after agreeing to be a maid of honor, and haven't found a new one yet. I probably should have bowed out just as soon as I got laid off, but I expected I'd be re-employed in plenty of time to shell out for the dress and the travel and the accommodations. I'd have to put the expenses on a credit card, at least partly.

The wedding is in June, dresses haven't been ordered yet. There are four other bridesmaids.

If you were the bride, how upset would you be?

[Anonymous]

If I were the bride AND a true friend, I would understand and would not want to put more pressure on you at this time.

Heck, if I had the $$, I would cover it.

Do what you need to do OP.

[Anonymous]

I haven't read through all the responses, but I think it's fair for you to tell the bride that you can't take this on right now. If she is a good friend, she will understand. Good luck in finding a new job!

[Anonymous]

I agree. It costs a fortune these days and no true friend would want you to accumulate credit debt trying to please her. Good luck OP!!

[Anonymous]

If the dresses haven't been ordered yet, nothing is set in stone. Tell her now, so they can demote a groomsman to usher if need be. good luck - hope things improve for you, OP!

[Anonymous]

This depends on how close you two are. She'll probably be willing to cover some/most of your costs if you're really close. And you could pay her back in the future when you're able to. If you're not very close, then back out.

[Anonymous]

Tell bridezilla no can do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I were the bride AND a true friend, I would understand and would not want to put more pressure on you at this time.

Heck, if I had the $$, I would cover it.

Do what you need to do OP.

x2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I were the bride AND a true friend, I would understand and would not want to put more pressure on you at this time.

Heck, if I had the $$, I would cover it.

Do what you need to do OP.

x2

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I were the bride AND a true friend, I would understand and would not want to put more pressure on you at this time.

Heck, if I had the $$, I would cover it.

Do what you need to do OP.

x2

+1

Absolutely agree!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read through all the responses, but I think it's fair for you to tell the bride that you can't take this on right now. If she is a good friend, she will understand. Good luck in finding a new job!

? There was only one response, and it was three lines long...

[Anonymous]

Demote a groomsman? Seriously? You can't imagine not having the exact same number on either side?

If the bride has any class, she'll front your expenses.

[Anonymous]

The bride will get over it. I absolutely would NOT go into debt over a wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read through all the responses, but I think it's fair for you to tell the bride that you can't take this on right now. If she is a good friend, she will understand. Good luck in finding a new job!

? There was only one response, and it was three lines long...

my thoughts exactly!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I were the bride AND a true friend, I would understand and would not want to put more pressure on you at this time.

Heck, if I had the $$, I would cover it.

Do what you need to do OP.

x2

+1

Absolutely agree!

Yes, THIS!