Over the top gift to a therapist we are so grateful for?

[Anonymous]

Like most SN parents, we are definitely crunched for money this holiday season. I have a $100 spa gift card i was given that Id like to give to one therapist that has been so, so helpful to our child. We are really grateful to this therapist, but I dont want the gift to seem over the top or like bribery? Am i overworrying here?

[Anonymous]

I think $100 is a little too much...I personally would feel uncomfortable if a client gave me that, but that's just me...Maybe you could do sth more personal like have your kid draw a picture with the words "thank you" (provided your kid is old enough/can do that kind of stuff of course)...? Just my 2 cents...

[Anonymous]

I agree with PP. It's very thoughtful, but a bit OVERthoughtful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think $100 is a little too much...I personally would feel uncomfortable if a client gave me that, but that's just me...Maybe you could do sth more personal like have your kid draw a picture with the words "thank you" (provided your kid is old enough/can do that kind of stuff of course)...? Just my 2 cents...

Really? That's the alternative you suggest? From a $100 gift card to a drawing?

Let's be real here. People appreciate homemade gifts (though maybe more than a drawing?) but they also really appreciate things more in the realm of gifts than doodles. I'd suggest you give a nice card with something drawn by your child and a nice note, with perhaps a note sent to the persons supervisor if they have one. Then add in maybe a $50 gift card to somewhere with a small gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think $100 is a little too much...I personally would feel uncomfortable if a client gave me that, but that's just me...Maybe you could do sth more personal like have your kid draw a picture with the words "thank you" (provided your kid is old enough/can do that kind of stuff of course)...? Just my 2 cents...

Really? That's the alternative you suggest? From a $100 gift card to a drawing?

Let's be real here. People appreciate homemade gifts (though maybe more than a drawing?) but they also really appreciate things more in the realm of gifts than doodles. I'd suggest you give a nice card with something drawn by your child and a nice note, with perhaps a note sent to the persons supervisor if they have one. Then add in maybe a $50 gift card to somewhere with a small gift.

I suspect this is a ST or OT.

I think a $20 or $25 gift card is quite generous along with a picture drawn by your child and a note of thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think $100 is a little too much...I personally would feel uncomfortable if a client gave me that, but that's just me...Maybe you could do sth more personal like have your kid draw a picture with the words "thank you" (provided your kid is old enough/can do that kind of stuff of course)...? Just my 2 cents...

Really? That's the alternative you suggest? From a $100 gift card to a drawing?

Let's be real here. People appreciate homemade gifts (though maybe more than a drawing?) but they also really appreciate things more in the realm of gifts than doodles. I'd suggest you give a nice card with something drawn by your child and a nice note, with perhaps a note sent to the persons supervisor if they have one. Then add in maybe a $50 gift card to somewhere with a small gift.

Yes, this is what I suggest. You could frame the drawing so the therapist can hang it in her office. Honestly, I think it is nice and thoughtful. OP mentionned that they are very grateful for the therapist, that tells me that the therapist in question probably really cares and does not just do what she does for the money.

[Anonymous]

SLP here. I do receive gifts like the OP describes from my clients. It shocked me at first, but then I realized that some people have plenty of money. But I never expect any gift from my clients and any token, small or large, is very much appreciated. OP- give the card if it will make you happy. Or tell the therapist how much you appreciate and value the relationship and the services. That will make her day.

[Anonymous]

cant u go to the spa n make them split it? 50 50

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks everyone. Maybe the fact that I just throw our money at these people is the reason we have no money.

I had the spa card anyway, it didnt require any new purchasing from me, but I do not want to appear nuts. So i purchased a $50 B&N gift card as backup. Now even that seems too much based on this chat, and maybe I'll just make it $25. Thanks for the guidance.

By the way, we already sent a handmade card for Thanksgiving.

[Anonymous]

For me, the key piece was that you didn't purchase the gift card yourself. Hearing that would take the pressure off of the therapist when accepting it. Something along the lines of "Hey, I thought of you when I got this from the Secret Santa at my office last week..."

A mental health professional probably won't be able to accept it anyway (due to a code of ethics that prohibits this sort of thing), but I would feel comfortable re-gifting the card to a physical therapist (or someone of that ilk) with the suggestion that they get to enjoy some body work instead of always being the one to provide it for others.

[Anonymous]

They may not be able to take more than 25-50$ depending on where you work. Lots of different policies. I would do 25 to target personally.