Why do you like being a single mom

[Anonymous]

being a single mom is hard work but has its rewards to


I love that I can raise my son how I want and not answer for it or have to give and take things

like we are very AP and I dont have to discuss my choice to cosleep, not circ, not vax, or to not CIO with anyone else

[Anonymous]

Tension-free household...but I'm a single mom by choice, and there's never been a daddy, so I don't know if that's the case in all single mom households.

[Anonymous]

I second the tension-free household, and I'm a divorced mom with shared custody. I love being in our own space without a partner. I have what has evolved into what could be called a "business" relationship with my son's dad, and the day-to-day drama is just gone.

I also love not having to divide my attention between my offspring and a partner. I love not having some (adult) guy's stuff all over my house.

I love being able to make decisions with relative autonomy.

I love that by being a single parent, my son sees that housework is for everybody and jobs don't fall into gender categories. He gets this lesson at his dad's place, too.

[Anonymous]

I envy you single moms everytime my husband goes on a rant about things I have no interest in...or takes control of the TV when I want to watch chic flix...or gets mad when I'm not in the mood even though we had sex like 4 times already this week...or I could go on and on.

[Anonymous]

Oh hey, nobody gives me grief if I don't shave my legs or walk around the house in a ratty t-shirt.

[Anonymous]

oh tension free

yep major plus

[Anonymous]

I like that my son can have all things he couldn't have if I had stayed with his dad, including occasionally Cheerios for dinner, a cat (which he can kiss and sleep with if he likes), hundreds of kisses and hugs from me, and a happy mom.

[Anonymous]

I like that my son knows who is in charge. So many of his friends are masters of manipulation b/c they have tons of practice working to divide and conquer w/ 2 parents. The buck stops w/ Mommy in our house. My son's friend's parents are amazed at how easily and quickly my son takes no for an answer. I also love having such a close relationship w/ him. Every bath, every meal, every everything is w/ me. Now, sometimes that gets to be too much for both of us but I am glad we know each other so well.

[Anonymous]

I was so scared about how hard being a single mom would be. It has been 4 months now....my DS is 8 months old. And we are doing great....there are many upsides to being a single mom....I was starting to wonder if I was crazy thinking this was better than when H was here, but now I realize I am not alone.

A calm happy household
no one trying to "one-up" me....he always thought he knew better and would try and tell me how to do everything
not having to listen to questions like "where did he get that virus???" when DS was sick...as if it was my fault
no resentment hanging in the air....I was doing everything...I am now too but it is different
I love doing everything for DS....I know we are bonded even though I work FT
pulling DS into bed with me in the middle of the night.....
the list really could go on & on...................

[mdurbanmom]

No tension household. Get to buy what I want, when I want. I choose the schools, the camps, the dinners on Friday night and once he's in bed....my time is my own.

Whoo-hoo!

[Anonymous]

So glad to read this list! I'm about to join the camps (again!) of single parenting, and I'd forgotten all the good parts of being single.

No tension, a happy mom, getting to decide what to do and when, no one trying to one-up me or put me down. I am really looking forward to when the dust settles on a drama-free life again.

[Anonymous]

Aren't the majority of these responses actually why do you like not being married to the man you were married to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aren't the majority of these responses actually why do you like not being married to the man you were married to?

Well, for me, I wouldn't be a single mom by first choice. I have three kids who I wish could be in their intact family if only it were healthy. So, yes my answers are in terms of what I like about being a single mom that is a result of being free of an abusive, spiteful husband. And yeah, there are a few other things that I just enjoy about it because I get to be the "decider-er"!! I also like the relationship I have with my kids that is private and deeper because it's us against the world. I like that my kids have huge vocabularies because I talk with them like they're little adults, since most nights they are the only adult conversation I get to have. There are lots of things I like about being a single mom, but most of them do revolve around being free of their dad.

[Anonymous]

I like knowing I can put a roof over our heads and provide for my kids single handedly, even though it's incredibly hard. I feel like a super hero just by paying the rent and putting dinner on the table. I hope I don't have to do it by myself forever, but it's nice to finally know that I am capable of that.

[Anonymous]

I just enjoy being able to make choices for myself and by myself, for my daughter, and by my daughter, without having to check in with anyone. I enjoy bringing my child up they way I want to. I enjoy working hard for my daughter and knowing that one day, she would appreciate her mum. I enjoy being there for my daughter all the time.