Sex and Relationship Issues (explicit)

[Anonymous]

Jeff,
What is the purpose of this particular forum? The title implies that most people writing in will likely be asking very legitimate questions or commenting about sex, but a good part of this forum just resembles online porn. Why does the public need to know one anonymous poster loves oral sex, unless maybe his partner doesn't allow for it or he is complaining he isn't getting enough of it. What is the point of the poster who uses graphic porn-like terminology to describe just how much he enjoys oral sex too?
Aren't there other sex forums for people who just enjoy dirty talk with one another?
I get that there are legitimate questions and comments about sex and sometimes it needs to be explicit. But the nasty sex talk is something that de-legitimizes the forum. Can't you filter that out?

[Anonymous]

Waiting for Jeff's response, but as someone who has been on DCUM long enough to remember when the S and R forum was one, I am glad he separated them. I had a feeling with the separation there would be an increase in porn talk, but at least the explicit forum is separate from the others, and you have to specifically click on it.
My guess is Jeff will tell you to stop looking at it if it bothers you.

[jsteele]

Frankly, the purpose of that forum is simply to be a place for people to discuss things that are not appropriate for other forums. I am not a big believer in preventing people from saying or writing things. Rather, I am a believer in people saying or writing things in the proper context. We've done quite a bit to "wall off" the explicit forum from the rest of the site. For instance, topics in that forum don't show up in the "Recent" or "Hot" topics threads. If there is more that can be done, I'm open for suggestions. But, the only way to know what is happening in that forum is to actually go into that forum. At that point, it shouldn't be hard to avoid threads in which you have no interest. Frequently, the line between "dirty talk" and simply trying to be clear in the discussion of a sexually-explicit topic is pretty clouded. I really don't want to be in the role of adjudicating that line.

[Anonymous]

Of course I can easily avoid it by not getting into that forum. But the porn talk can take an otherwise valuable forum and de-legitimize it. And yes sometimes there can be a gray area between the nasty sex talk and legitimate, sexually explicit comments or questions. Sometimes the legitimate question can be embedded within the sex talk. But there are enough posts there that I think many would recognize as nothing more than just people engaging in online sex talk. It has no value to anyoneIt could lead to people hooking up. And of course there are risks with strangers meeting through such a forum. It could turn into one of the tragic stories we occasionally hear about on Craig's List.

Just concerned, thats all. But I've said my peace and I understand...