"Don't marry a man unless you'd be proud to have a son exactly like him."

[Anonymous]

I'm a 26 year old woman who is currently not married without any children, so I probably shouldn't be on this forum! I saw this pin on Pinterest recently, which has made me really question my current relationship.

http://pinterest.com/pin/285873704/

"Don't marry a man unless you'd be proud to have a son exactly like him."

I deeply care for my boyfriend, but I would not be proud to have a son exactly like him.

I would love to hear opinions from mothers, many of whom are or have been married, on this.

[Anonymous]

Well, all I can say is my goal for my kids is to be similar to us in values, but better. Isn't that what we all want? The easiest way to do this is for both of you to be excellent role models. So choose wisely.

[TheManWithAUsername]

Funny - I've said that exact thing, though I've never seen that before.

[Anonymous]

I would be so proud if my son grew up to be like his father, which is probably why I'm so happy his father is my husband.

[Anonymous]

I'd be thinking more like, "Don't marry a man unless you think he would lovingly nurture and support your son, while setting a good example and guiding him into adulthood with strong values."

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on which qualities you dislike for your son. Is it things like his education/earning potential? Or something that is more a part of who he is?

[Anonymous]

Why wouldn't you be proud of your son-what is it specifically about your boyfriend? I would be wary of marrying anyone who wouldn't fit that description (and I've never thought of it that way or heard that quote before).

[Anonymous]

Oooh- I like that saying. I married the right man, then, because I DO hope my DS turns out to be exactly like him.

[Anonymous]

Agree. This is why I am so thrilled that I have daughters.

[Anonymous]

Well, he got his Daddy's height and I'm grateful for that.

[Anonymous]

"Is it things like his education/earning potential?"

Earning potential? Wow!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: "Is it things like his education/earning potential?"

Earning potential? Wow!

I'm the PP, and my point was that if she would just like her son to be a doctor or a lawyer, but BF works as a waiter, then I wouldn't sweat that one. It's the qualities that make up someone's character that will be a big part of how they raise kids.

[Anonymous]

I knew dh would be a wonderful, involved father and hoped that my kids would be a lot like him. Otherwise, I wouldn't have had children with him.

[Anonymous]

I don't have a son, just a DD, but I would be proud to have her take after my DH. DH is brilliant, confident, down-to-earth, funny, hard-working, motivated, devoted to his family... I could go on and on.

Many of us here will feel this way, OP. That's why we married our DHs!

[Anonymous]

I have to agree with the PPs. There are specific things about my DH that I hope my children don't inherit, but they are all minor annoyances. Over all I would be very proud to have my children take after their father - I'm proud of him after all.