I'm just going to keep saying it to piss you off. You should actually want to be a practicing Catholic if you want to have a Catholic wedding. It doesn't matter much if you come in waving your baptismal certificate. You're going to jump through a lot of hoops, meet the priest, attend marriage prep classes, just to be permitted to have your ceremony at the church. So, unless you're a moron you should actually be a practicing Catholic in good standing. This really bothers you for some reason. |
My fiancée also wanted to get married in a church. I was not raised as a church goer. I kinda believe in God. When we spoke of marriage, I thought Justice of the Peace. So, when he said church, I was surprised. He is not particularly religious but he was baptized and grew up going to church but not on a regular basis.
I agreed to get married in the church and did pre marriage counseling with the Pastor before he would marry us. It was 3 sessions, 6 hours. It was actually really good and I’m glad we did it. We were married in the church and it was a good experience. We have been married for 25 years now. I go to church about a dozen times a year. Still not particularly religious but it’s about compromise. |
Yay! You finally said something accurate! It’s only taken you what, 10 posts of being told you’re wrong, before you can post something accurate. ⭐️ for you! |
I have said the same thing consistently. OPs husband is Catholic but it's not enough. The next question a church asks you is: are you a registered parishioner? And if the answer is "no" then you don't just get to plan your wedding. I said "you don't both need to be Catholic" and you have been freaking out about it ever since. This has always been true. When I said one "should be" I clearly meant a practicing one. Never ever did I say neither had to be Catholic. But carry on being a d!ck. |
You’re posts are all there to refer to. You consistently maintained one should be Catholic. It’s a must. You weirdly continued to dig in that should be Catholic is all that is needed. So the only thing you’ve been consistent with is being wrong. What you “meant” is irrelevant. What is factual is actually relevant. So odd it took you what 10 posts to finally get that? And if you’re so bothered that you now need to call names, take a break. |
Gosh, why would anyone not want to be part of this exclusive religion with all sorts of rules and articles about who is allowed to partake in certain ceremonies. |
*arguments about |
Lol. Sorry you didn’t understand that “both don’t need to be” means one does. I will pray for you that God gives you the wisdom to be kind, caring, and compassionate. What would Jesus do? |
A religious person. I'm Orthodox Christian--it is even harder than being Catholic. I would not even consider getting married in a Catholic church (Catholics accept Orthodox marriages as valid but Orthodox do not accept Catholic sacraments. I am actually not super religious but I do believe in the sacraments (which are the same as Catholic sacraments). I got married in an Orthodox Church to a Catholic, which was difficult. He lied to me about believing in God and we are now divorced. I only go to church on holidays. My kids are my religion. As an aside, these weddings where people make up their own stuff seem like a joke to me. Why anyone would want to do that is incomprehsible to me. Oh wait: I understand people have different belief systems and may want to do something else--unlike the PP who posted: "Gosh, why would anyone not want to be part of this exclusive religion with all sorts of rules and articles about who is allowed to partake in certain ceremonies"--you just made a mockery of the sacrament of marriage, in my personal opinion. Newsflash: people are different...your comment was snarky. OP--resolve religious stuff before you get married. It sounds to me that you will not be compatible (especially if kids are involved). |
Agreed. Know that if this is truly a matter of faith one can have the marriage blessed by the priest outside of the wedding. If this is just for appearances, I really think this is a good opportunity for the fiancé to stand up to his family. |
I've been to a few of these. It's not uncommon in smaller more religious circles. |
That’s not what you originally wrote, and then followed up repeating. That is what this loooooong thread on this post is about. You said one should be Catholic and then continued to repeatedly double down. You were wrong. Repeatedly. We see it. |
New poster, and not talking about Catholic weddings, but: Our church is part of a Protestant denomination, which doesn't require the couple to be members to have their wedding in the church. But our specific church location had to start requiring that the couple have some form of connection to our specific congregation (a close friend or relative who is a listed member, for instance; even a distant relation was fine) because we were so swamped with requests for "church weddings" by random couples who just liked the location. Close to big hotels, close to major highways, etc. While being open for almost all weddings was a good outreach and considered part of ministry to the community, the amount of "Can we have the ceremony there" requests became overwhelming. So some "rules about who was allowed" had to be created or our minister would have been doing multiple weddings every weekend from spring until fall ended, and the toll on the building would have been an issue. I know, this is an aside to other debates here, but worth noting for any couples who just pick a church for its location or looks--you might find that you still need some connection in order to marry there. |
OP here. I don’t think you know how to read. I haven’t changed my story. I stated in my first post that my fiancé was not a practicing catholic and that his family felt it was more appropriate to get married in a church, but that I’m not religious and don’t want to. I did say that he didn’t like the idea of a a wedding + reception at the same venue, but that isn’t as important as the tradition of his family getting married in a church. We had discussions and decided it wasn’t right to lie. My fiancé initially said to just lie and say I was catholic because it’s not a big deal. I felt it was wrong. We talked to a friend of his and he agreed to marry us at the reception. We chose a venue yesterday and had it booked. As for this site, I can’t control others. I didn’t think this site was at all religious - most liberals aren’t catholic or religious. I didn’t think it would turn into a bunch of grown adults fighting about a religion they likely don’t even partake in. I didn’t read any of those responses or fights because I don’t care. |
Being a “registered parishioner” is a canonical intricacy. If you live in the geographic bounds of the parish, they have to provide the sacraments if you are suitably disposed. If not they don’t. |