61% of single women in America are not looking to get into a new relationship compared to 38% of men

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Anonymous wrote:Look ladies, it’s all fun and games to be the “cool aunt” when you are 28 and traveling the world. Everyone looks up to you and they want to be you. Then you turn 43 and you’re still single with no kids and your career has sort of peaked, as well as your looks.

You can’t be a “cool aunt” at 43

Right, that’s the age when the cool aunts become the cool SMBC whose nieces and nephews free babysit and who is in a place in her career to have a full time
Nanny.

It's not really a step up to be a SMBC. Nobody is envious of that person, doing it all alone, with a fatherless child. A nanny is not a replacement for a second parent.

Nannie’s are often better.

Women can have and raise babies without men, you make it sound like it’s impossible.

Of course it's possible. Never heard of a single mom before? But it's not desirable, at all. And no, a nanny is not a parent replacement. You must have a nanny if you think that to make yourself feel better.

It’s is desirable when it’s planned that way.

Not a replacement but better at providing support and not being a burden.

Most men are less helpful than a nanny/sister/grandmother.

Sadly, men are mostly missing or worse pouting about not getting more attention.

Remove him from the picture and life is much easier.

Please. It may be planned but any parent can attest to not really knowing what they were getting into. Doing it all on your own with no other parent to share the joys with is hardly desirable. It can be lonely, selfish, and a slog.

Most married women find raising kids with a man lonely, selfish and a slog.

they have one extra ungrateful child to care for and it pulls their attention from raising actual children. Men are contantly competing with their children for attention and it's like pulling teeth to get them to be a partner.... and those are the ones that are not working 24x7 to avoid home.

I know very few men who fit that description. Do you live in this area?

Yes but my kids are in private perhaps that is the issue. I tried to plan a dinner with moms and most either needed to be home before bedtime routine or after because their husband couldn’t do it.

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So your sample is a pool of wealthy men who have prioritized their career above everything else? Got it.

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Anonymous wrote:So your sample is a pool of wealthy men who have prioritized their career above everything else? Got it.

My pool is "wealthy" families. Most women work too.

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Anonymous wrote:So your sample is a pool of wealthy men who have prioritized their career above everything else? Got it.

My pool is "wealthy" families. Most women work too.

I'd also say that these are older families... so none of these men got paternity leave.

https://hbr.org/2023/11/how-paternity-leave-helps-dads-brains-adapt-to-parenting

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/17/parenting/paternity-leave.html

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Anonymous wrote:Look ladies, it’s all fun and games to be the “cool aunt” when you are 28 and traveling the world. Everyone looks up to you and they want to be you. Then you turn 43 and you’re still single with no kids and your career has sort of peaked, as well as your looks.

You can’t be a “cool aunt” at 43

Right, that’s the age when the cool aunts become the cool SMBC whose nieces and nephews free babysit and who is in a place in her career to have a full time
Nanny.

It's not really a step up to be a SMBC. Nobody is envious of that person, doing it all alone, with a fatherless child. A nanny is not a replacement for a second parent.

Nannie’s are often better.

Women can have and raise babies without men, you make it sound like it’s impossible.

Of course it's possible. Never heard of a single mom before? But it's not desirable, at all. And no, a nanny is not a parent replacement. You must have a nanny if you think that to make yourself feel better.

It’s is desirable when it’s planned that way.

Not a replacement but better at providing support and not being a burden.

Most men are less helpful than a nanny/sister/grandmother.

Sadly, men are mostly missing or worse pouting about not getting more attention.

Remove him from the picture and life is much easier.

Please. It may be planned but any parent can attest to not really knowing what they were getting into. Doing it all on your own with no other parent to share the joys with is hardly desirable. It can be lonely, selfish, and a slog.

Most married women find raising kids with a man lonely, selfish and a slog.

they have one extra ungrateful child to care for and it pulls their attention from raising actual children. Men are contantly competing with their children for attention and it's like pulling teeth to get them to be a partner.... and those are the ones that are not working 24x7 to avoid home.

I know very few men who fit that description. Do you live in this area?

Yes but my kids are in private perhaps that is the issue. I tried to plan a dinner with moms and most either needed to be home before bedtime's routine or after because their husband couldn’t do it.

Clearly you’re talking about a preschool. What elementary kids need a routine that mommy can only do? All the moms i know are busy tag teaming with their husbands shuttling kids areojd to practices and activities at dinner. It’s a two person job. It’s not about bedtime.

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Anonymous wrote:Look ladies, it’s all fun and games to be the “cool aunt” when you are 28 and traveling the world. Everyone looks up to you and they want to be you. Then you turn 43 and you’re still single with no kids and your career has sort of peaked, as well as your looks.

You can’t be a “cool aunt” at 43

Right, that’s the age when the cool aunts become the cool SMBC whose nieces and nephews free babysit and who is in a place in her career to have a full time
Nanny.

It's not really a step up to be a SMBC. Nobody is envious of that person, doing it all alone, with a fatherless child. A nanny is not a replacement for a second parent.

Nannie’s are often better.

Women can have and raise babies without men, you make it sound like it’s impossible.

Of course it's possible. Never heard of a single mom before? But it's not desirable, at all. And no, a nanny is not a parent replacement. You must have a nanny if you think that to make yourself feel better.

It’s is desirable when it’s planned that way.

Not a replacement but better at providing support and not being a burden.

Most men are less helpful than a nanny/sister/grandmother.

Sadly, men are mostly missing or worse pouting about not getting more attention.

Remove him from the picture and life is much easier.

Please. It may be planned but any parent can attest to not really knowing what they were getting into. Doing it all on your own with no other parent to share the joys with is hardly desirable. It can be lonely, selfish, and a slog.

Most married women find raising kids with a man lonely, selfish and a slog.

they have one extra ungrateful child to care for and it pulls their attention from raising actual children. Men are contantly competing with their children for attention and it's like pulling teeth to get them to be a partner.... and those are the ones that are not working 24x7 to avoid home.

I know very few men who fit that description. Do you live in this area?

Yes but my kids are in private perhaps that is the issue. I tried to plan a dinner with moms and most either needed to be home before bedtime's routine or after because their husband couldn’t do it.

Clearly you’re talking about a preschool. What elementary kids need a routine that mommy can only do? All the moms i know are busy tag teaming with their husbands shuttling kids areojd to practices and activities at dinner. It’s a two person job. It’s not about bedtime.

My kids are grown, I have friends at all stages of life. That was one example. I've seen it all.. cheating, swinging, addiction... Now I'm watching all the silver divorces. I have 4 friends who are widows. I have a few friends who are already, at 50 something, caretakers for their husbands.

Most men of our generation are not great at helping ... sure, they can do a honey do list or drive kids when told who/what/when/were. But still they need directions.

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Anonymous wrote:Look ladies, it’s all fun and games to be the “cool aunt” when you are 28 and traveling the world. Everyone looks up to you and they want to be you. Then you turn 43 and you’re still single with no kids and your career has sort of peaked, as well as your looks.

You can’t be a “cool aunt” at 43

Right, that’s the age when the cool aunts become the cool SMBC whose nieces and nephews free babysit and who is in a place in her career to have a full time
Nanny.

It's not really a step up to be a SMBC. Nobody is envious of that person, doing it all alone, with a fatherless child. A nanny is not a replacement for a second parent.

Nannie’s are often better.

Women can have and raise babies without men, you make it sound like it’s impossible.

Of course it's possible. Never heard of a single mom before? But it's not desirable, at all. And no, a nanny is not a parent replacement. You must have a nanny if you think that to make yourself feel better.

It’s is desirable when it’s planned that way.

Not a replacement but better at providing support and not being a burden.

Most men are less helpful than a nanny/sister/grandmother.

Sadly, men are mostly missing or worse pouting about not getting more attention.

Remove him from the picture and life is much easier.

Please. It may be planned but any parent can attest to not really knowing what they were getting into. Doing it all on your own with no other parent to share the joys with is hardly desirable. It can be lonely, selfish, and a slog.

Most married women find raising kids with a man lonely, selfish and a slog.

they have one extra ungrateful child to care for and it pulls their attention from raising actual children. Men are contantly competing with their children for attention and it's like pulling teeth to get them to be a partner.... and those are the ones that are not working 24x7 to avoid home.

I know very few men who fit that description. Do you live in this area?

Yes but my kids are in private perhaps that is the issue. I tried to plan a dinner with moms and most either needed to be home before bedtime's routine or after because their husband couldn’t do it.

Clearly you’re talking about a preschool. What elementary kids need a routine that mommy can only do? All the moms i know are busy tag teaming with their husbands shuttling kids areojd to practices and activities at dinner. It’s a two person job. It’s not about bedtime.

My kids are grown, I have friends at all stages of life. That was one example. I've seen it all.. cheating, swinging, addiction... Now I'm watching all the silver divorces. I have 4 friends who are widows. I have a few friends who are already, at 50 something, caretakers for their husbands.

Most men of our generation are not great at helping ... sure, they can do a honey do list or drive kids when told who/what/when/were. But still they need directions.

You’re old. Millenial men and younger are way more involved in childrearing than men of your generation were.

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Anonymous wrote:"Single men are far more likely than single women to be looking for a relationship or dates – 61% vs. 38%. This gender gap is especially apparent among older singles"

Interesting development. What do we think is causing this?

https://www.pewresearch.org/wp-content/uploads/sites/20/2020/08/PSDT_08.20.20.dating-relationships.full_.report.pdf

It is pretty obvious. Men are expected to initiate everything while women are passive.

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Anonymous wrote:Look ladies, it’s all fun and games to be the “cool aunt” when you are 28 and traveling the world. Everyone looks up to you and they want to be you. Then you turn 43 and you’re still single with no kids and your career has sort of peaked, as well as your looks.

You can’t be a “cool aunt” at 43

Right, that’s the age when the cool aunts become the cool SMBC whose nieces and nephews free babysit and who is in a place in her career to have a full time
Nanny.

It's not really a step up to be a SMBC. Nobody is envious of that person, doing it all alone, with a fatherless child. A nanny is not a replacement for a second parent.

Nannie’s are often better.

Women can have and raise babies without men, you make it sound like it’s impossible.

Of course it's possible. Never heard of a single mom before? But it's not desirable, at all. And no, a nanny is not a parent replacement. You must have a nanny if you think that to make yourself feel better.

It’s is desirable when it’s planned that way.

Not a replacement but better at providing support and not being a burden.

Most men are less helpful than a nanny/sister/grandmother.

Sadly, men are mostly missing or worse pouting about not getting more attention.

Remove him from the picture and life is much easier.

Please. It may be planned but any parent can attest to not really knowing what they were getting into. Doing it all on your own with no other parent to share the joys with is hardly desirable. It can be lonely, selfish, and a slog.

Most married women find raising kids with a man lonely, selfish and a slog.

they have one extra ungrateful child to care for and it pulls their attention from raising actual children. Men are contantly competing with their children for attention and it's like pulling teeth to get them to be a partner.... and those are the ones that are not working 24x7 to avoid home.

I know very few men who fit that description. Do you live in this area?

Yes but my kids are in private perhaps that is the issue. I tried to plan a dinner with moms and most either needed to be home before bedtime's routine or after because their husband couldn’t do it.

Clearly you’re talking about a preschool. What elementary kids need a routine that mommy can only do? All the moms i know are busy tag teaming with their husbands shuttling kids areojd to practices and activities at dinner. It’s a two person job. It’s not about bedtime.

My kids are grown, I have friends at all stages of life. That was one example. I've seen it all.. cheating, swinging, addiction... Now I'm watching all the silver divorces. I have 4 friends who are widows. I have a few friends who are already, at 50 something, caretakers for their husbands.

Most men of our generation are not great at helping ... sure, they can do a honey do list or drive kids when told who/what/when/were. But still they need directions.

Why ddi you say your kids are in private? Are you trolling?

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Anonymous wrote:Look ladies, it’s all fun and games to be the “cool aunt” when you are 28 and traveling the world. Everyone looks up to you and they want to be you. Then you turn 43 and you’re still single with no kids and your career has sort of peaked, as well as your looks.

You can’t be a “cool aunt” at 43

Right, that’s the age when the cool aunts become the cool SMBC whose nieces and nephews free babysit and who is in a place in her career to have a full time
Nanny.

It's not really a step up to be a SMBC. Nobody is envious of that person, doing it all alone, with a fatherless child. A nanny is not a replacement for a second parent.

Nannie’s are often better.

Women can have and raise babies without men, you make it sound like it’s impossible.

Of course it's possible. Never heard of a single mom before? But it's not desirable, at all. And no, a nanny is not a parent replacement. You must have a nanny if you think that to make yourself feel better.

It’s is desirable when it’s planned that way.

Not a replacement but better at providing support and not being a burden.

Most men are less helpful than a nanny/sister/grandmother.

Sadly, men are mostly missing or worse pouting about not getting more attention.

Remove him from the picture and life is much easier.

Please. It may be planned but any parent can attest to not really knowing what they were getting into. Doing it all on your own with no other parent to share the joys with is hardly desirable. It can be lonely, selfish, and a slog.

Most married women find raising kids with a man lonely, selfish and a slog.

they have one extra ungrateful child to care for and it pulls their attention from raising actual children. Men are contantly competing with their children for attention and it's like pulling teeth to get them to be a partner.... and those are the ones that are not working 24x7 to avoid home.

Most? Really? Care that back that up? Sorry you had a bad picker and married a dud.

People are always saying women “chose bad” ignoring the fact that most men will lie and pretend to be someone else until they lock a woman down. And that men as a whole engage in these selfish behaviors and that’s why so many women complain about them

Please. So many women on here complaining that they found out after marriage and their kids were diagnosed with autism that gee whiz! Husband has autism too. How do you not notice this for years? Stop being so desperate to marry the first guy who asks.

But here you are on a thread complaining about how women aren’t interested in marrying. Pick a lane.

Not me. I'm not complaining. I'm saying being a SMBC by choice is a bad idea. A good idea is to not marry, live a fulfilling life being the fun aunt if you want, travel, and be fabulous. But some are acting like kids are a must. Not true at all.

Being a single mother by choice has a much lower incidence of genetic or heritable disorders than your above example, though, so if your cautionary tale is “don’t marry unsuitable men” you’re really making a good case for “use very high quality sperm”

Yep. They vet them strongly at the sperm banks

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Anonymous wrote:Look ladies, it’s all fun and games to be the “cool aunt” when you are 28 and traveling the world. Everyone looks up to you and they want to be you. Then you turn 43 and you’re still single with no kids and your career has sort of peaked, as well as your looks.

You can’t be a “cool aunt” at 43

Right, that’s the age when the cool aunts become the cool SMBC whose nieces and nephews free babysit and who is in a place in her career to have a full time
Nanny.

It's not really a step up to be a SMBC. Nobody is envious of that person, doing it all alone, with a fatherless child. A nanny is not a replacement for a second parent.

Nannie’s are often better.

Women can have and raise babies without men, you make it sound like it’s impossible.

Of course it's possible. Never heard of a single mom before? But it's not desirable, at all. And no, a nanny is not a parent replacement. You must have a nanny if you think that to make yourself feel better.

It’s is desirable when it’s planned that way.

Not a replacement but better at providing support and not being a burden.

Most men are less helpful than a nanny/sister/grandmother.

Sadly, men are mostly missing or worse pouting about not getting more attention.

Remove him from the picture and life is much easier.

Please. It may be planned but any parent can attest to not really knowing what they were getting into. Doing it all on your own with no other parent to share the joys with is hardly desirable. It can be lonely, selfish, and a slog.

Most married women find raising kids with a man lonely, selfish and a slog.

they have one extra ungrateful child to care for and it pulls their attention from raising actual children. Men are contantly competing with their children for attention and it's like pulling teeth to get them to be a partner.... and those are the ones that are not working 24x7 to avoid home.

I know very few men who fit that description. Do you live in this area?

I agree. I'm GenX and my DH, as well as the other dads in our circle, are great dads. Perfect? no. But the moms aren't either. But they are involved and hands on and have been since birth.

This is anecdotal, i understand. But I'm not seeing what is described in the PP.

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Anonymous wrote:Look ladies, it’s all fun and games to be the “cool aunt” when you are 28 and traveling the world. Everyone looks up to you and they want to be you. Then you turn 43 and you’re still single with no kids and your career has sort of peaked, as well as your looks.

You can’t be a “cool aunt” at 43

Right, that’s the age when the cool aunts become the cool SMBC whose nieces and nephews free babysit and who is in a place in her career to have a full time
Nanny.

It's not really a step up to be a SMBC. Nobody is envious of that person, doing it all alone, with a fatherless child. A nanny is not a replacement for a second parent.

Nannie’s are often better.

Women can have and raise babies without men, you make it sound like it’s impossible.

Of course it's possible. Never heard of a single mom before? But it's not desirable, at all. And no, a nanny is not a parent replacement. You must have a nanny if you think that to make yourself feel better.

It’s is desirable when it’s planned that way.

Not a replacement but better at providing support and not being a burden.

Most men are less helpful than a nanny/sister/grandmother.

Sadly, men are mostly missing or worse pouting about not getting more attention.

Remove him from the picture and life is much easier.

Please. It may be planned but any parent can attest to not really knowing what they were getting into. Doing it all on your own with no other parent to share the joys with is hardly desirable. It can be lonely, selfish, and a slog.

Most married women find raising kids with a man lonely, selfish and a slog.

they have one extra ungrateful child to care for and it pulls their attention from raising actual children. Men are contantly competing with their children for attention and it's like pulling teeth to get them to be a partner.... and those are the ones that are not working 24x7 to avoid home.

I know very few men who fit that description. Do you live in this area?

I agree. I'm GenX and my DH, as well as the other dads in our circle, are great dads. Perfect? no. But the moms aren't either. But they are involved and hands on and have been since birth.

This is anecdotal, i understand. But I'm not seeing what is described in the PP.

You wouldn't see it, you would have to have the mom explain it to you. You think you can sit next to someone at sports and understand their life inside their house/marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:Look ladies, it’s all fun and games to be the “cool aunt” when you are 28 and traveling the world. Everyone looks up to you and they want to be you. Then you turn 43 and you’re still single with no kids and your career has sort of peaked, as well as your looks.

You can’t be a “cool aunt” at 43

Right, that’s the age when the cool aunts become the cool SMBC whose nieces and nephews free babysit and who is in a place in her career to have a full time
Nanny.

It's not really a step up to be a SMBC. Nobody is envious of that person, doing it all alone, with a fatherless child. A nanny is not a replacement for a second parent.

Nannie’s are often better.

Women can have and raise babies without men, you make it sound like it’s impossible.

Of course it's possible. Never heard of a single mom before? But it's not desirable, at all. And no, a nanny is not a parent replacement. You must have a nanny if you think that to make yourself feel better.

It’s is desirable when it’s planned that way.

Not a replacement but better at providing support and not being a burden.

Most men are less helpful than a nanny/sister/grandmother.

Sadly, men are mostly missing or worse pouting about not getting more attention.

Remove him from the picture and life is much easier.

Please. It may be planned but any parent can attest to not really knowing what they were getting into. Doing it all on your own with no other parent to share the joys with is hardly desirable. It can be lonely, selfish, and a slog.

Most married women find raising kids with a man lonely, selfish and a slog.

they have one extra ungrateful child to care for and it pulls their attention from raising actual children. Men are contantly competing with their children for attention and it's like pulling teeth to get them to be a partner.... and those are the ones that are not working 24x7 to avoid home.

I know very few men who fit that description. Do you live in this area?

Yes but my kids are in private perhaps that is the issue. I tried to plan a dinner with moms and most either needed to be home before bedtime's routine or after because their husband couldn’t do it.

Clearly you’re talking about a preschool. What elementary kids need a routine that mommy can only do? All the moms i know are busy tag teaming with their husbands shuttling kids areojd to practices and activities at dinner. It’s a two person job. It’s not about bedtime.

My kids are grown, I have friends at all stages of life. That was one example. I've seen it all.. cheating, swinging, addiction... Now I'm watching all the silver divorces. I have 4 friends who are widows. I have a few friends who are already, at 50 something, caretakers for their husbands.

Most men of our generation are not great at helping ... sure, they can do a honey do list or drive kids when told who/what/when/were. But still they need directions.

Why ddi you say your kids are in private? Are you trolling?

were, happy.

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Anonymous wrote:Look ladies, it’s all fun and games to be the “cool aunt” when you are 28 and traveling the world. Everyone looks up to you and they want to be you. Then you turn 43 and you’re still single with no kids and your career has sort of peaked, as well as your looks.

You can’t be a “cool aunt” at 43

Right, that’s the age when the cool aunts become the cool SMBC whose nieces and nephews free babysit and who is in a place in her career to have a full time
Nanny.

It's not really a step up to be a SMBC. Nobody is envious of that person, doing it all alone, with a fatherless child. A nanny is not a replacement for a second parent.

Nannie’s are often better.

Women can have and raise babies without men, you make it sound like it’s impossible.

Of course it's possible. Never heard of a single mom before? But it's not desirable, at all. And no, a nanny is not a parent replacement. You must have a nanny if you think that to make yourself feel better.

It’s is desirable when it’s planned that way.

Not a replacement but better at providing support and not being a burden.

Most men are less helpful than a nanny/sister/grandmother.

Sadly, men are mostly missing or worse pouting about not getting more attention.

Remove him from the picture and life is much easier.

Please. It may be planned but any parent can attest to not really knowing what they were getting into. Doing it all on your own with no other parent to share the joys with is hardly desirable. It can be lonely, selfish, and a slog.

Most married women find raising kids with a man lonely, selfish and a slog.

they have one extra ungrateful child to care for and it pulls their attention from raising actual children. Men are contantly competing with their children for attention and it's like pulling teeth to get them to be a partner.... and those are the ones that are not working 24x7 to avoid home.

I know very few men who fit that description. Do you live in this area?

I agree. I'm GenX and my DH, as well as the other dads in our circle, are great dads. Perfect? no. But the moms aren't either. But they are involved and hands on and have been since birth.

This is anecdotal, i understand. But I'm not seeing what is described in the PP.

You wouldn't see it, you would have to have the mom explain it to you. You think you can sit next to someone at sports and understand their life inside their house/marriage.

So you had multiple mom friends explain to you in detail (essentially) “I can’t join you for dinner because my DH is my useless, idiotic third child. He is constantly competing with my 3 year old for attention”?

Huh. Let’s use our critical thinking skills here for a minute.

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Anonymous wrote:Look ladies, it’s all fun and games to be the “cool aunt” when you are 28 and traveling the world. Everyone looks up to you and they want to be you. Then you turn 43 and you’re still single with no kids and your career has sort of peaked, as well as your looks.

You can’t be a “cool aunt” at 43

Right, that’s the age when the cool aunts become the cool SMBC whose nieces and nephews free babysit and who is in a place in her career to have a full time
Nanny.

It's not really a step up to be a SMBC. Nobody is envious of that person, doing it all alone, with a fatherless child. A nanny is not a replacement for a second parent.

Nannie’s are often better.

Women can have and raise babies without men, you make it sound like it’s impossible.

Of course it's possible. Never heard of a single mom before? But it's not desirable, at all. And no, a nanny is not a parent replacement. You must have a nanny if you think that to make yourself feel better.

It’s is desirable when it’s planned that way.

Not a replacement but better at providing support and not being a burden.

Most men are less helpful than a nanny/sister/grandmother.

Sadly, men are mostly missing or worse pouting about not getting more attention.

Remove him from the picture and life is much easier.

Please. It may be planned but any parent can attest to not really knowing what they were getting into. Doing it all on your own with no other parent to share the joys with is hardly desirable. It can be lonely, selfish, and a slog.

Most married women find raising kids with a man lonely, selfish and a slog.

they have one extra ungrateful child to care for and it pulls their attention from raising actual children. Men are contantly competing with their children for attention and it's like pulling teeth to get them to be a partner.... and those are the ones that are not working 24x7 to avoid home.

I know very few men who fit that description. Do you live in this area?

Yes but my kids are in private perhaps that is the issue. I tried to plan a dinner with moms and most either needed to be home before bedtime's routine or after because their husband couldn’t do it.

Clearly you’re talking about a preschool. What elementary kids need a routine that mommy can only do? All the moms i know are busy tag teaming with their husbands shuttling kids areojd to practices and activities at dinner. It’s a two person job. It’s not about bedtime.

My kids are grown, I have friends at all stages of life. That was one example. I've seen it all.. cheating, swinging, addiction... Now I'm watching all the silver divorces. I have 4 friends who are widows. I have a few friends who are already, at 50 something, caretakers for their husbands.

Most men of our generation are not great at helping ... sure, they can do a honey do list or drive kids when told who/what/when/were. But still they need directions.

Why ddi you say your kids are in private? Are you trolling?

were, happy.

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You are totally out of touch