Right, that’s the age when the cool aunts become the cool SMBC whose nieces and nephews free babysit and who is in a place in her career to have a full time Nanny. |
Right?! Marriage later in life is a liability for women. If we already have financial security and we don't want to have children, then why would we disturb the peace? Companionship does not require a legal marriage. |
I could see that being the case here n the east coast amongst black and white women, but not with other demographics and not with the rest of the country. pew is left biased so Unf their surveys don’t get out of their bubbles. |
Makes sense. Women choosing to be happy alone vs pleasing someone and all the burden of taking care of someone else's life without necessarily a good emotional return. |
Yup. I love DH and my kids. But im not remarrying later in life if something happens to him. |
You can be a cool aunt for the rest of your life and never put yourself in the position to be physically, emotionally, or financially abused by a man via marriage. It is a perfectly valid life choice to remain single and not have children but enjoy your sibling's children and foster deep relationships with extended family and friends/ |
Actually, it's the opposite. Most of the women I know who want to stay single are the ones who divorced around 40. The dating pool is really shallow, and they don't want to be someone's bang maid, which is what a large number of older guys seem to want. |
The data is poorly presented as not broken down across dimension, but the graph shows a large effect from widows. Men die younger. |
+1, and this is true of most happily married women I know. Much as I love my wonderful DH, the idea of doing precisely what I want whenever I want is downright intoxicating! I have a widowed acquaintance looking for a relationship, and most of us find this puzzling. |
The survey is actually nationally representative. It might not fit your own experiences, but it's statistically reliable. https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/methodology-38-2/ |
Does this include divorced, widowed, aging, never married w kids single moms too? Or is that a life and diced well in the data and write-up? |
+1 But even if they don't become a SMBC and remain single, a 43 year-old "cool aunt" has nieces and nephews who are tween and teens, which is actually kind of the perfect time to be the cool aunt. |
True true true. Not only do males not do the basic adult life items above, they don’t acknowledge, appreciate nor show gratitude for the women in their lives (mother, sister, cousin, wife, daughter) who does it “for them.” |
Lol any time I've seen the Cool Aunt thing IRL it was always some aging millennial that never wanted to grow up themselves trying to be hip to little kids. Kind of pathetic really. |
Lol. Show me some examples of the it differently and I’ll show you 1000s of examples of self-centered males, husbands and fathers. 1000s of examples, most of them on daily and weekly repeat. |