Here's the thing. Once you get above a certain HHI (people will debate it, especially on this board, but I would guess it's somewhere around $100-$150k in the DC area) you have a fair amount of disposable income. You can afford food, clothes and incidentals, as long as you're reasonable frugal. You can afford a basic place to live (might not be exactly where you want it or as big as you want it, but you'll be housed). You can get around. As long as you're reasonably careful about money, you can (and should!) have a reasonable emergency fund.
Above that - you get to decide what's important to you. On $300k, you cannot "have it all" - heck, on $100 million a year, you can't have it all. Money is always finite. Generally, a rising incoming lifts all areas of your life - at $300k, most people will take fairly nice vacations, live in a nice home in a nice area, farm out less pleasant tasks like cleaning and yard work, spend a lot on their kids activities, wear nicer clothing, etc, etc. But there is nothing to say you have to divide your "extra" $150k evenly between buckets. You have to figure out what you want. If you want to spend a huge chunk of your money on a great house, then you should do it! But - it means you will take significantly fewer, less luxurious vacations than other people in your income bracket. You will wear cheap clothing. Your kids will not be able to do all the activities they want. You will not be redecorating regularly, or luxuriously. You will drive cheaper cars for longer. Etc, etc.
There's nothing wrong with that - but if you're going to buy this house (and fully fund your kids' 529s, which it sounds like is also a priority but that you're well set up for) you need to be prepared that otherwise - your life is going to look a lot more like someone who makes $150k a year than someone who makes $300k a year.
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