Lunch Bunch

[Anonymous]

I received a note in my son's folder today extending an invitation to him to join a lunch bunch at his school. What are these groups for? Is this indication that something is wrong with him that he needs to eat separately from his class? He is very social and has friends so I am confused. He is new this year-he is in first grade and went to private school K-we moved into the district over the summer.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes students get a lunch bunch with the teacher as a reward--either in small groups or as a whole class.
I know that there are also "therapeutic" lunch bunches for kids sharing similar issues at our school--divorced parents, anger issues, trouble making friends--but parents are invited to ask the counselor to include their children.

If you're wondering, I'd check in with the teacher or counselor or whoever is in charge. My guess is that it's a reward or something very benign (like a way to make sure that new arrivals are making friends), but you might feel better knowing.

[Anonymous]

Ask the school. It was a way for my son's school to mix it up socially, often with a teacher. He loved it! It was not behavioral at my son's school.

[Anonymous]

As a former teacher, I only ever did lunch bunches as rewards or special treats for students-definitely nothing punitive. Sometimes the counselor would do social skills groups or something like that, but not lunch bunches, and the counselors groups ALWAYS required parent permission before students participated.

[Anonymous]

At our school, lunch bunch is for kids to get a chance to spend time with other kids in a smaller group setting. My daughter enjoyed it. Our lunch bunch happens with the school guidance counselor who talks to them about how they are doing and tells them that if they ever have a problem they can come talk to her. They always invite kids who are new to the school since they may not know as many people in the class as other kids who were together in classes the year before.

[Anonymous]

op here-thank you for the replies. The letter came from the school counselor so I emailed her and copied his teacher asking about the program. My older son-third grade, echoed what you all have said. He "wins" lunch bunch with a teacher-so it's considered a good thing. I guess I saw his name on the letter sent from the school psychologist and thought Oh no what have I missed?! He has nothing but good things to say about his classmates and schoo so hopefully it isn't indicative of anything. thanks!!

[Anonymous]

At our ES, all new students (except all of the new K students) meet with the counselor. He/she usually has them choose a few new friends to invite to lunch in his/her office so they can get to know the counselor as well as other kids. Kids beg to have lunch there so this is a good thing.

[Anonymous]

Our lunch bunches are w/ spec ed and brings other kids from the class in rotation to practice social skills. They llllloooooveeeee it because we have a bunch of legos n cool toys to check out if we finish lunch early.

[Anonymous]

FYI, my son was asked to go to a lunch bunch in K, organized by the school counselor. Fwiw, at our MCPS school it is not really a reward; evidently teachers recommend kids who they notice having social difficulties of some kind. I ended up meeting with the counselor because I was sort of upset that no one came to me first; he explained that just about every kid in K has some adjustment issues, and that his lunch bunch included everything from girls who hugged too much to boys who were discipline problems. In the end, my son loved the lunch bunch; the counselor is a very popular figure at the school so it was a huge treat. I'm not really sure if it helped his social awkwardness, but I'm glad he did it. If you're still concerned, just ask - I'm sure they will explain the rationale and the purpose.

[Anonymous]

When my son was in K last year at a different school, his teacher used it as a reward for good behavior in the classroom. Each time a student was "caught" doing something good, they wrote their name on a piece of paper and put it in a jar on the teacher's desk. At the end of the week, the teacher would pick a few names for the students to have lunch with her one day the following week. It sounds like the lunch bunch you're talking about is different, though. I actually think my son would like something like that because he gets overwhelmed by the crowded cafeteria.