Another porn thread...DH just found out I like girl on girl action...

[Anonymous]

OK, so I don't watch a ton of porn, but I do occasionally (usually when DH is working late), especially as a prelude for some self-servicing or a later "date" with DH. And the ONLY kind of porn I like is girl on girl. I'm not sure why, I have never been attracted sexually to other women, but I think it's because I find the men in porn pretty repulsive. Plus, I find the female form much more attractive in general, and just prefer seeing two women get it on (I guess?). Anyway, I forgot to clear the history on my computer, and DH found the site I had just been on (he knew I would watch it sometime, but we've never watched it together since I don't like the straight porn he does). At first he was pumped that I was viewing it, but he's now saying it's freaking him out that I like lesbian porn. He's worried that I don't actually "want" him now. It is compounded a little because I have a close friend who is a lesbian, and he's mentioned in the past how he's somewhat uncomfortable with how touchy-feely she is with me. So of course now this is being brought up, and despite my protestations to the contrary, he thinks I'm into women.

So now I'm in a difficult situation completely of my own making. How would you handle this?

[Anonymous]

YOu need to be a good wife and invite a single fried into your mix.

[Anonymous]

This is a seinfeld episode

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a seinfeld episode

More Curb Your Enthusiasm.

[Anonymous]

Me too! Just watch it together then he will bang you and all will be forgiven.

[Anonymous]

Even if you were bi, that doesn't mean you cannot be monogamous.

[Anonymous]

Shut it down. Don't let him frame it this way. Turn the tables and make accusations about his porn use.

I mean MY GOD men are constantly excusing their own porn use. It's frustrating to see him respond this way.

[TheManWithAUsername]

I'm trying to imagine a guy at my poker game complaining that his wife is into lesbian porn. He might actually be spit on. Broadly mocked at a minimum.

"I love you, I only want to have sex with you, and I have only had sex with you since we've been together.

"Unless you want to do something with me, what I watch alone and what I think about when I masturbate are none of your business. I'm not going to discuss it anymore."

BTW, was he actually snooping on your computer? He'd definitely be spit on.

[Anonymous]

OP, you rock. Tell your DH to count his blessings to be married to a woman who loves lesbian porn. That is, unless he is correct in suspecting that you are lesbian, which is a rather different kettle of fish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a seinfeld episode

More Curb Your Enthusiasm.

The Three Stooges

[ThatSmileyFaceGuy]

Forgetting to clear the History. The cause of more fights AND misunderstandings.

Although I must say, I'm surprised that any man would be upset if his lady liked a little porn. Even if it is girl on girl. Are we talking "SapphicEncounters" or "The Violation of" type lesbian porn?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Me too! Just watch it together then he will bang you and all will be forgiven.

This seems like it's worth a try

[Anonymous]

ThatSmileyFaceGuy wrote:Forgetting to clear the History. The cause of more fights AND misunderstandings.

DH here. This. Who doesn't know to clear history after surfing porn on a shared computer?

[Anonymous]

OP here...I had given this up for lost after getting only jokes for a few days (rightfully so, now that I've had a little space...it's pretty damn funny). DH was convinced, after some, er, effort on my part, that I still am into guys He also realized he was being obnoxious and stupid. We watched some porn together last night that had something for each of us (BTW, to answer the question, I like the lipstick les stuff, NOT the hardcore leather chicks), and it worked out great

As for the computer, no snooping, we share a home laptop and each have our work computers as well. Obviously I'm not viewing girl on girl on my work laptop (although I know some do), so he found it on the home laptop. It came up in the browser bar when he was typing in another address. HA! Lesson learned on both our parts.

So glad the drama is over, and yes, it would make a great sitcom episode.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

ThatSmileyFaceGuy wrote:Forgetting to clear the History. The cause of more fights AND misunderstandings.

DH here. This. Who doesn't know to clear history after surfing porn on a shared computer?

So sue me, I forgot. I wasn't necessarily trying to "hide" it in the first place, but figured DH would be a little freaked if he found out I like les porn, hence the clearing. But I guess I was otherwise occupied after that particular viewing session...