Do I Really Look That Old?
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Anonymous
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Last night during cocktail chit chat at a work function, someone asked me if I have grandkids yet.
A bit of a shocker, as I'm 48 and my children are 5 and 7. To be fair, the questioner was an older man who is from middle America, where I assume having kids by 22 and grandkids by 45 is the norm. (And his wife did look at him like she was going to kill him for saying that.) But still.... Has this ever happened to you? Do you have a sweet but smart response? |
Anonymous
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OP,
Describe yourself! |
Anonymous
| It's not you!!! Poor old guy; he's probably a great grandfather and you look like his daughter to him! I'm in the same boat as you -- 48 with K age DS. I've stopped wondering about how old people are. It's so hard to guess so not worth trying. Chin up! |
Anonymous
Well if he seemed like he was from an area where being a grandparent at a relatively young age, why are you bothered? |
Anonymous
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Oh, I don't know. Maybe because, like most of us, I like to think that I look younger than I actually am. Is my time and money have my hair professionally colored going to waste? And all those great anti-aging beauty products?
It's soberiing to realize that I'm just fooling myself. |
Anonymous
| OP, don't worry! You're a professional, you've got 2 great kids, and I'm sure you're not the first person the poor clueless guys has said something like that too. Sounds like you have it pretty good! Plus, what are you even doing on the 50 and older forum? You're too young! |
Anonymous
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Don't harsh on the OP. I still remember where I was the first time I was "ma'm"-ed. It was like a shot in the gut. A saleswoman who heard the young man refer to me as such had a good laugh when she saw my response. It was a real (and absurd) moment. OP sounds as stunned (not offended or hurt or anything like that) as I was. |
Anonymous
I'm being ma'm-ed all the time now. I'm in my late 30s. It kind of sucks. |
Anonymous
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I've been guilty of saying that in my circle, the norm is not to marry at 15 and have children by 16.
not nice, I realize, but it does shut people up
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Anonymous
| Wow, you all are an age-phobic bunch. |
Anonymous
I'm hoping you're over 40. But I feel as though you're in the 25-35 crowd. |
Anonymous
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Maybe you just look your age? Once someone asked me if I was a grandmother, and I told them that that was a way's off, my child was 12 or however old he was at the time.
Guess what. That year, I lost 30 pounds and started coloring my hair! Now people think I'm 10 years younger. |
Anonymous
| I remember being in a grocery store with my baby when I was 38 and being asked if DC was my grandchild. Granted, it was in a largely rural state. But I was put out! |
Anonymous
| I was 36 when I had my baby. I too was in a grocery store when asked if I was his grandmother. That was tough. |
Anonymous
| Had a picture of my son in my office, when a new employee walked in and asked me how old my grandson was. C'mon. I was 36 when I had my son. That's not that old. I never did get along with that fellow coworker after that. |