Why do some intelligent female teens dress like hookers?

[Anonymous]

I know I'm becoming an old fuddy duddy. Child predators and perverts must love this new trend. They don't have to buy sexy girl magazines because you can just hang our in popular parts of the DC area to see sexy underage girls on parade strutting their stuff and many of them are probably quite intelligent. My theory is it's a combo of things...media, age of narcissism and attention seeking, parents who have to pick their battles, and clothing manufacturers. What do you think?

I also wonder how many of these girls get hit on by dirty old men as compared to generations ago. Sadly I also wonder about whether there is a correlation between how often you wear hooker-ware and whether or not you contract an STD as a teen and I wonder if incidences of molestation and date rape have gone up.

Do you think the trend is going to continue. Is the toddler tiara girl who's mom dressed her as a hooker a sign that this will only get worse? Girls of today outnumber the boys in many colleges, med schools, etc. Why the need to get noticed for your boobs, legs and tush and why the need to wear horribly uncomfortable high high heals..when the world is your oyster? Is hooker-ware a way to express indivuality and empowerment? Am I missing something?

[Anonymous]

Have you read Female Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture by Ariel Levy? It explains a lot. She would posit (and I agree) that female teens see dressing this way as an empowering way to "own" their sexuality, but they're really buying into the patriarchal culture of objectification. I also see it as low self-confidence as much as anything else. It kind of compares to the pole dancing craze among "housewives" in certain parts of this country. Get fit, feel sexy... but pretend you're a stripper at the same time. Please.

[Anonymous]

I'm going to look for that book. What you say makes a lot of sense. I think I disagree about pole dancing. The women learning this are hopefully doing it for themselves in the privacy of the class and their home and they may choose to do this for their sex life with their own husband. I assume they don't plan to empower themselves by performing for a bunch of men hoping to get laid. As long as it's not the husband pushing it, I have no problem with it. There are no mixed messages. If you decide to show off your poll dancing to your spouse he is probably going to get some. There is hopefully mutual respect. People oogling sexy teenage girls showing off their body parts are seeing them as sex objects only.

I read an article several years ago that at a number of top prep schools in the country the trend is for girls to give oral sex and not expect anything in return. I know I have to get over the fact so many kids are sexually advanced, but that aside, if you are going to be sexually advanced at least get some enjoyment out it. Bright and educated young women are servicing men and the culture that has come about tells them they should not do get pleasure too? It's like a throwback to our grandparents day when sex was to make babies and please your huisband and nobody cared about women enjoying it too.

[Anonymous]

Question about wives and pole dancing: why do you have to emulate a stripper to have your husband view you as sexy (and then you, as his cypher, feel sexy about yourself)? You have to dress up and dance like a sex worker to feel good about yourself? Talk about the male gaze. My god.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Question about wives and pole dancing: why do you have to emulate a stripper to have your husband view you as sexy (and then you, as his cypher, feel sexy about yourself)? You have to dress up and dance like a sex worker to feel good about yourself? Talk about the male gaze. My god.

Well, some people like to pretend they are dog...others like to have the partner urinate on them... It is called "sexual fantasy."

[Anonymous]

Internet Pornography.

Boys are wiring their brains to only respond sexually to self-degrading, unrealistic women. Girls are lowering their standards accordingly. Boys become incapable of responding sexually to a live female body. Girls get more outrageous to compansate. Boys and girls become desensitized to the messy work of true intimacy. We weep for the future.

[Anonymous]

Re:pole dancing...different things make people feel sexy. It may actually make these women feel sexy and if it makes them happy I think it's fine. Whatever people want to do in the privacy of their own home is fine with me as long as it is consensual and there is mutual respect. If they are doing it because their husbands insist then yuk! This is different from dressing like a jail bait porn star in public as a way to empower oneself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Internet Pornography.

Boys are wiring their brains to only respond sexually to self-degrading, unrealistic women. Girls are lowering their standards accordingly. Boys become incapable of responding sexually to a live female body. Girls get more outrageous to compansate. Boys and girls become desensitized to the messy work of true intimacy. We weep for the future.

*I* don't weep for anything... I think it is just a cycle and eventually things will turn around.

[Anonymous]

Oh I don't know. I dressed like a slut and loved every minute of the attention I got when I was waaaaaayyyyyy too young. I am hopeful that my daughter will make different choices because she has been parented far differently than I was.

[Anonymous]

I didn't know people teens who dressed like all out hookers. We might have worn mini-skirts and a fitted top or really tight jeans with body suits or something, but I rarely saw teens in spike heals with boobs on parade. If I did see a teen dressed like a hooker I..

a.) suspected she was rebelling against strict parents
b.) suspected she was sexually abused and acting out
c.) assumed she was a hooker forced to dress this way by her pimp

Now it's just what's cool in suburbia. I like a PP worry about the future and hope the poster who said things will change is right.

[Anonymous]

Homeschooling and helicopter parenting is the solution!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Internet Pornography.

Boys are wiring their brains to only respond sexually to self-degrading, unrealistic women. Girls are lowering their standards accordingly. Boys become incapable of responding sexually to a live female body. Girls get more outrageous to compansate. Boys and girls become desensitized to the messy work of true intimacy. We weep for the future.

Oh please. I can't think of a "boy" who is so jaded that a real girl won't turn him on. You jumped the shark here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Homeschooling and helicopter parenting is the solution!

or the problem.

[Anonymous]

They're too young to understand what they're coding. Women don't get the power of their sexuality until they're older. As for owning their sexuality, maybe that's the case but there's more than one way to do that, including internally.

[Anonymous]

There's a Slut Walk movement, in Britain and maybe here to a lesser extent, where women in their 20s and 30s dress like hookers to march against rape and for other womens' issues. As someone else pointed out, they argue they're owning their sexuality, but it's definitely controversial.