Vent..siblings in laws mooch too much

[Anonymous]

Go ahead and flame me. My siblings in-law spend like there is no tomorrow and live eway above their means and while I believe live and let live, if you are going to do that... don't mooch. Every time something goes wrong they haven't saved a dime and come begging for money. There comes a point where we need to say...deal with the consequences and learn to save or find someone else to beg to. One of our kids has special needs. We have spent a fortune on home repairs. We have faced illness and other expenses. We too are dealing with issues from these rains that will cost. I've had it!!!

They eat out a lot. They buy themselves fancy gadgets and other things we consider indulgences we cannot afford. They keep up with the jones for birthday parties both with buying their kids friends gifts they cannot afford and having pricey parties. They have accumulated pets they can't afford to feed. Oh and you are horrible and selfish if you don't help them. One has so much credit card debt she can't get a mortgage approval and she wants a pity party. The first sob story I was was all for helping-we need to look out for eachother and hard times happen to anyone. We never got a dime back, but we figured let them save the money and be more prepared. Instead, they spend and beg. This goes on too much. I really hope my husband tells them to save more and deal. It infuriates me when he complains about the expenses that come with our older child's special needs if he is going to give any of our household money to them again knowing it's like throwing it out a window. Vent over...flame away...

[Anonymous]

That really sucks. I wouldn't like it either.

Sounds like you and your husband need to come to an agreement about giving money to relatives.

[Anonymous]

Are they mooching off of you or your in-laws?

[Anonymous]

The biggest problem I see here is not your in-laws (who sound annoying and rightly piss you off) but the fact that you and your DH are not on the same page and do not present a united front. If you were a team in handling this, you could simply brush this off as their problem. Since you and DH are not on the same page, it becomes two problems: your inlaws and the fact that you don't have a way of dealing with them that's satisfying. Deal with your husband.

[Anonymous]

I recommend your DH talk to his sibling(s) and suggest they talk to a debt management company or a financial planner, someone who can help them get on track b/c you all can't bail them out anymore.

[Anonymous]

If you have a special needs child, why in the world is your husband giving money to his financially-careless siblings? That sounds irresponsible to me. Put an end to the handouts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of our kids has special needs. We have spent a fortune on home repairs. We have faced illness and other expenses. We too are dealing with issues from these rains that will cost. I've had it!!!

They eat out a lot. They buy themselves fancy gadgets and other things we consider indulgences we cannot afford. They keep up with the jones for birthday parties both with buying their kids friends gifts they cannot afford and having pricey parties. They have accumulated pets they can't afford to feed...

you cannot tell poor people to not have animals. Some will have them regardless
people without a special needs kid have no idea