Did you or do you have a favorite child?

[Anonymous]

If so, how do you reconcile this?
Does anyone know?
Are you in denial about it?
I have been accused of having a favorite child (son), but not true.
I speak to him differently because he is very charming, but dd is my little best friend. I love them the same and could not imagine a life without either.
My parents did pick favorites, and LUCKILY, I was not one of the chosen.

[Anonymous]

People of certain cultures often think their sons are better than their daughters OP. Shame on you. What? Jewish, Italian, Greek, Middle Eastern?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People of certain cultures often think their sons are better than their daughters OP. Shame on you. What? Jewish, Italian, Greek, Middle Eastern?

I'm Italian, and I am certain that I will not choose btw. my two, as this was not common practice among "my people."

I do think, however, that a parent may click with one child. But that doesn't mean s/he shows favoritism. Some may, but I don't believe it's cultural.

[Anonymous]

I tell each of my children, "You're my favorite."

Makes em laugh.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People of certain cultures often think their sons are better than their daughters OP. Shame on you. What? Jewish, Italian, Greek, Middle Eastern?

I'm Italian, and I am certain that I will not choose btw. my two, as this was not common practice among "my people."

I do think, however, that a parent may click with one child. But that doesn't mean s/he shows favoritism. Some may, but I don't believe it's cultural.

Yes, but some see it as favoritism, but I agree, it is not necessarily that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I tell each of my children, "You're my favorite."

Makes em laugh.

I say my favorite middle, my favorite oldest, or my favorite youngest. They were perplexed when they were younger, but now they laugh too.

[Anonymous]

Yes I do. It's whoever isn't...what was it... "a raging asshat" at any given moment.

[Anonymous]

It's funny. All but one of my friends with more than one child say outwardly that they don't have a favorite. And they clearly do have a favorite and usually it is obvious. My one friend who I cannot say has a favorite definitely has one kid out of her brood that she does not click with and she is much harsher with that child than the others.

[Anonymous]

One aspect not covered here is the child's personality. Some kids are more open to a relationship than others. I do a lot of neat things with one child b/c dc #1 is open to this stuff. I would love to bring my other dc #2, but the other dc is not interested. I do work hard to find activities for dc #2, but it is harder and therefore happens less often. I really do love them both equally, but in different ways.

[Anonymous]

Nope. They take turns driving me nuts

[Anonymous]

16:26 poster- stop stereotyping and making assumptions about people's cultures. It's insulting. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One aspect not covered here is the child's personality. Some kids are more open to a relationship than others. I do a lot of neat things with one child b/c dc #1 is open to this stuff. I would love to bring my other dc #2, but the other dc is not interested. I do work hard to find activities for dc #2, but it is harder and therefore happens less often. I really do love them both equally, but in different ways.

I have the same issue. One of outgoing, wants to play and hug all the time. The other one doesn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:16:26 poster- stop stereotyping and making assumptions about people's cultures. It's insulting. Thanks.

That said, the pp is confusing pride with favoritism. I bet that even in cultures where boys are more prized and families take pride in having sons, parents are equally likely to click with a child of either gender.

[Anonymous]

My family is Italian and we do not prize, favor, or like our sons more than our daughters.